Do 'blood relatives' Trump all when it comes to wills?

[Inbetweenie993]

High class problem, but would really appreciate some different views.
I have inherited about £250k
I will either use it to buy somewhere (currently in rented) or sit on it and enjoy the interest, hoping I have enough to have a good care home when push comes to shove. No-one will be around to look after me. On my own there.
Thinking about my will

Siblings all older, and don't need the money and I should outlive them. 5 neices & nephews. 2 haven't seen or spoken to for around 10 years. 3 others are currently in my will. None of them bother with me, and to be honest, I don't really like them!

WWYD? Have pets I would want looking after. Live in a lovely place with fabulous neighbours. Very involved in community & village Hall.
Thinking sod convention! If there's anything left from my care when I'm old, leave it all to the community in some way, and hope for a memorial bench!

WWYD? AIBU?

YABU - Leave anything left to family

YANBU - Leave it to the community that helps you?

Live your life spending it! Anything left over to community programmes that supported you in your later years as you are far from alone to have a disinterested family. Make sure you choose to live (rent or buy) somewhere where you have the back up that many get from their families, and clearly indicate your wishes in different scenarios including appointing representatives in case you lack capacity, regularly review this because I know of will holders, power of attorney appointees and executors who have closed their practices before the person needs their services!

I agree that it is more of a moral imperative to keep it in the family when it came from family in the first place. For example, I inherited a share of my grandmother’s house. It was a lot of money and when I die, it’s only right that it goes to my nephews, who are her great-grandchildren. If I’d earned the money myself I’d be less bothered where it went.

Definitely leave to the community. I am in the opposite situation, I wish my relative would leave the money to the community but it will go to my sibling. I have a strong moral objection to the way the money was earned, my sibling a supposed ‘socialist’ and ‘Christian’ does not and will benefit. People are so entitled and weird when it comes to money…. Me included. Do what YOU feel is best, no one else’s option should matter.

I'd leave it to the people or institutions that you want to have it.

One of my friends is in this situation - no spouse, no kids of his own. His sibling and their spouse are expecting to get everything, even mentioning what they intend to do with various articles when they get hold of them. I can never get over the cheek of them... don't know why they think he'll go first, either!

I keep reminding him about writing his will to ensure that his estate goes where he wants it to, it's one of things that's hard to get around to. So @Inbetweenie993 make sure you do it asap - none of us are guaranteed a tomorrow, awful as it sounds to say.

I'm sorting out something similar. Apart from a couple of bequests to family (no children) I'm leaving the bulk to those things that have brought me joy.

It's your money, do what you want with it. Waste it and go on holidays, eat at fancy places, buy new clothes, new car. Buy a house, sit on it, leave it to the pets!
It's no one else's business what you do with your money.

Many thanks for all of the replies. Really helped me to get perspective.

Decisions made, off to alter the will.

Many wise heads in this community!

Do whatever you want with your own money. You'll be dead and unable to hear the greedy, entitled whingers anyway.