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To think that my brothers girlfriend should just not come here if she is going to be so bloody fussy

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IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:22

For the past few years, every month or so I have had a curry night, where my mum, elder and younger brothers and their gf's come over, we have a take away, and several drinks, my kids run riot and everyone has a good laugh etc.

Anyway, up until a few months ago, my elder brother hadn't got a gf, so he always came alone. Now he has, and like the nice people that we are we welcomed her with open arms, but I have to say that I am now getting seriously pissed off with how fussy she is.

The one time they came and we had chinese. She said it wouldn't be as nice as the chinese by her, so ordered english. Fine, no problem, up to her.

Then last time we had indian and she said she wouldn't like it because her mum cooks better indian food, so she had english stuff again, but when it came she said the chicken didn't taste right.
Now both of my dd's had the chicken too, and believe me if I had thought there was anything wrong with it, i'd not have let them eat it, but I tasted it, and it was absolutly fine.

So, another curry night is planned for tonight, and this time it is just elder brother and fussy gf coming, plus my mum.
Brother has just rung to say that his gf is worrying about what we are going to eat, as she didn't like the food from the last place.

I said, I wasn't sure yet. We are possibly trying a new place, but hadn't quite decided. He said oh, and I could hear her mumbling in the background that she didn't want anything if we were going to order from the same place as before.

Then my brother said 'will we be able to britains got talent ?'. I said no because it clashes with Dr Who and I don't have the facility to record anything.
My brother who has a V+ box then tells his gf that no she can't watch it, and he will record it and they can watch it when they get back. I could hear her moaning, that she wanted to watch it as it happened.

AIBU to think that she should just not bloody come if she is going to be so bloody fussy ??

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cornsilk · 31/05/2008 16:24

YANBU she sounds a nightmare.

Twiglett · 31/05/2008 16:25

yeah you sound really welcoming

sarah293 · 31/05/2008 16:25

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lazarou · 31/05/2008 16:26

She sounds like fine future mother in law material to me

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:26

I was welcoming at first Twig, but she is a pain in the ass.

We don't do it for any particular reason, just to get together, thats all.

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stitch · 31/05/2008 16:27

tell her to bring the food herself as she obviously doesnt like the stuff you order in. she wont,. but then if she complains, tell her off, as you did give her theoption. its rude to complain about the hostesses food.
as for britains got alent. that goes on all evening long. dr who is only for forty minutes. she can watch it afterwards.

cornsilk · 31/05/2008 16:27

Feed her something like catfood pate. If you're lucky she'll never come back again.

bearmama · 31/05/2008 16:27

Nope YANBU
She sounds bloody annoying, rude and lacking in social skills and I couldnt be arsed with it if i were you.
How does your bro feel about her? Such qualities are not attractive and she might not be around for long!

nametaken · 31/05/2008 16:28

No, you are not being unreasonable.

I am as fussy as your brothers girlfriend. I solve this problem by having people come to my house.

I wouldn't dream of going to other peoples houses and inconveniencing them with my fussiness. That would be downright rude.

What is wrong with some people?

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:28

Also, oddly, when my brother used to come on his own, he'd bring something for himself to drink, as does other brother and gf, and my mum (thats how it works, we all pay for ourselves).

However since my brother started bringing his gf, they don't bring anything to drink, soft or alcoholic, and I have ended up feeling bad because I only have squash, fruit juice or water to offer them.

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tiredemma · 31/05/2008 16:29

I would suggest (kindly of course) that she purchases her own food perhaps before she arrives.

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:30

My brother seems to be blinded by love, or else stupid.

I will be honest and say that I am not overly fond of his gf anyway, without all this, but that said I have never been anything but welcoming to her. I just think she is taking the piss now.

She is 24, and behaves like a 12yr old tbh.

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nametaken · 31/05/2008 16:30

They arrive for dinner at your house empty handed

VictorianSqualor · 31/05/2008 16:31

I hope for your sake she doesn't become SiL and bring her PFB round
I hope for MN's sake she does, can't wait to read the threads

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:31

Thats what I said to my brother emma, there were several chippies near by, or that he order seperatly from us.

She then moaned that, the resturant she likes using is too far from me to get it delivered.

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3725Hayley · 31/05/2008 16:32

When I was the new GF i would never have been such a pain in the bum for my now in-laws and co. Unbeleiveable

Why don't they just stay at home to watch the BGT final and come another time....without moaning!

wheresthehamster · 31/05/2008 16:32

Unfortunately some people never understand that the world doesn't revolve around them.

Blandmum · 31/05/2008 16:32

She sounds like a real peach!

Gawd help you if they get wed, imagine what a Bridezilla she will probably be!

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:32

LOL Vs

I just don't get the tv thing at all.

I love Casualty, but I won't watch it tonight or record it because I will have company and i'm not quite that sad yet.

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IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:33

I so wish my other brother and his gf were coming. They are so unfussy.

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Psychomum5 · 31/05/2008 16:34

be as unreasonable as possible......if she is the one for him then she will fall in with you all, if not, then he will make a lucky escape.....

it is your house, and you are inviting her, so personally, she falls in with your rules.

unless someone has allergies then they really have no reason to be fussy as adults!!!

is she a PFBAO

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:35

I must add that, wether I desperatly want one type of food over another, I always let the guests choose wether we have chinese or indian or whatever.

Cos I am nice like that

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foxinsocks · 31/05/2008 16:35

lol wheresthehamster

how fabulous, the restaurant she likes using is too far from you lolol.

I think she sounds marvellous entertainment.

We need more details. What does she like wearing? She sounds a bit like a pampered princess. Boy your brother has his work cut out.

schneebly · 31/05/2008 16:35

the words 'spoiled brat' spring to mind!

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:36

Whats PFBAO ?? I get the PFB bit, but whats the AO.

She is PFB and an only child too.

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