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To think that my brothers girlfriend should just not come here if she is going to be so bloody fussy

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IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:22

For the past few years, every month or so I have had a curry night, where my mum, elder and younger brothers and their gf's come over, we have a take away, and several drinks, my kids run riot and everyone has a good laugh etc.

Anyway, up until a few months ago, my elder brother hadn't got a gf, so he always came alone. Now he has, and like the nice people that we are we welcomed her with open arms, but I have to say that I am now getting seriously pissed off with how fussy she is.

The one time they came and we had chinese. She said it wouldn't be as nice as the chinese by her, so ordered english. Fine, no problem, up to her.

Then last time we had indian and she said she wouldn't like it because her mum cooks better indian food, so she had english stuff again, but when it came she said the chicken didn't taste right.
Now both of my dd's had the chicken too, and believe me if I had thought there was anything wrong with it, i'd not have let them eat it, but I tasted it, and it was absolutly fine.

So, another curry night is planned for tonight, and this time it is just elder brother and fussy gf coming, plus my mum.
Brother has just rung to say that his gf is worrying about what we are going to eat, as she didn't like the food from the last place.

I said, I wasn't sure yet. We are possibly trying a new place, but hadn't quite decided. He said oh, and I could hear her mumbling in the background that she didn't want anything if we were going to order from the same place as before.

Then my brother said 'will we be able to britains got talent ?'. I said no because it clashes with Dr Who and I don't have the facility to record anything.
My brother who has a V+ box then tells his gf that no she can't watch it, and he will record it and they can watch it when they get back. I could hear her moaning, that she wanted to watch it as it happened.

AIBU to think that she should just not bloody come if she is going to be so bloody fussy ??

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ivykaty44 · 31/05/2008 16:36

Tell your brother each month you are going to continue to do this eve, they are welcome to come and bring their own food. Explain that his g/f is welcome to get her mum to make a dish of curry and bring with her - as this would be in kind of the hospitality she has recieved. if they have other plans and want to spend the night "just the two of them" thats fine see them soon....

tiredemma · 31/05/2008 16:37

What a pain in the ass.

She may aswell stay at home!!

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 31/05/2008 16:37

YANBU. Sorry but I'd just tell her to bring her own chinese from her local shop, or her mums cooking (tell her you'll show her where the microwave is, and she can reheat it) (and a bottle unless she's happy with the kids squash) as you're going to go to your usual takeaway of choice and you know she won't like it.

And tough shit if you go to someones house and they aren't watching something you wanted to watch! She needs to learn the world does not revolve around her. She sounds like a diva who likes everyone fussing over her, what fun for your brother....

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:37

She is 'high maintenence' as my mum put it.

She is a make-up artist, and works on a make-up counter. Spends about 10 times more money on make-up etc than she actually earns.

She is very very spoilt and selfish IMO.

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FrannyandZooey · 31/05/2008 16:38

I would tell your bro that if she doesn't like coming for a curry round at yours then she mustn't feel obliged to turn up each month

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:38

Unfortunatly, my brother is a very lovely bloke and is going to get walked all over in this relationship.

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JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 31/05/2008 16:39

Tell her you'll make her a piece of toast, and to "deal wiv it"

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:40

Tbh I don't think I am going to suggest another curry night again anyway.

My younger brother and his gf don't often come anymore as they live further away and can't afford it, and now this.

Plus I always have to get up to a shit hole of a house on the sunday morning then, with plates and glasses all over the place.

I wouldn't mind so much if I'd had a really enjoyable night beforehand, but it feels more like a chore now.

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chipmonkey · 31/05/2008 16:41

IB, is she drop-dead gorgeous? Just wondering what's in it for your bro?

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:44

She is pretty yes.

My brother is 10 yrs older than her, and I think he thinks he neds to find somone to settle down with.

He had a relationship with her years ago, and she cheated.

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MKG · 31/05/2008 16:44

Tell her if she doesn't like the take out she is more than welcome to cook for everyone.

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:45

Not sure she'd know how MKG.

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nametaken · 31/05/2008 16:46

She sounds delightful.

Psychomum5 · 31/05/2008 16:46

PFBAO....is

precious first born and only

I was right!!!!

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 16:47

LOL Psycho

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MKG · 31/05/2008 16:49

Have you told your brother you don't think she's good enough for him?

nametaken · 31/05/2008 16:51

oh yeah, like thats gonna solve everything

Psychomum5 · 31/05/2008 16:53

.

you know how to stop her coming back....

tonight, before she goes (well, before anyone goes), announce that you require help clearing up as you are fed up with the mess in the mornings, and then give her as many jobs as possible. (altho warn your mum and DH first so they don;t 'help' too much).

should cure the problem

of course, you can still invite your brother after, but try and go for a night you know he doesn;t see her

MKG · 31/05/2008 16:56

She's dumb, if she really loved your brother she would be going out of her way for you all to like her, even if it is something as small as chinese take out. Tell him to kick her to the curb.

Saturn74 · 31/05/2008 16:58

She sounds very high maintenance.
Could you all place your orders with your DB and his GF, and get them to bring everything from her specially approved take away place?

I'd bet she'd be delighted to help out in this way, and she'll get the food she so desires.

IllegallyBrunette · 31/05/2008 17:02

I haven't actually said that MKG, but I have on occasions advised him that they aren't suited, but only when he asked for my advice and opinion about their relationship. Any other time I keep it to myself.

My brother sees her nearly every night, else gf has a tantrum.

Not sure we can do your suggestion HC, it would all be cold by the time they got here.

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ShowOfHands · 31/05/2008 17:03

MKG, you're so delightfully American.

DBIL's anorexic and coeliac gf sounds easier to provide for.

Psychomum5 · 31/05/2008 17:04

be unreasonable about tonight, she will have a tantrum, so do it al tomorrow night without her...

tiredemma · 31/05/2008 17:04

Emma- how old is she?

MKG · 31/05/2008 17:09

What is that supposed to mean SOH

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