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Would you like to round up to £1? No I fucking wouldnt.

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DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:28

I cant be the only one who is getting increasingly pissed off at being asked to donate 20p everytine I pay for something?

The recent one in a charity shop was being asked to round up to the nearest pound AND then being asked to donate 25p. In fact, it wasnt even asked, it was "shall I round it up?" and "press green to say yes".

I always end up feeling really tight but apart from the fact that it would cost a fortune if I gave a donation every time I was asked, I really resent that businesses get tax relief for this whilst also bragging that they donated £x to charity.

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Chompingatthebeat · 01/09/2025 17:38

Serencwtch · 01/09/2025 16:06

Convenient, cheap, tasty.

Actually quite like maccies it's just their grabby charity that bothers me.

So making kids fat - ok, asking for charitable donations - not ok

oldkeywest · 01/09/2025 17:56

There's a shop I'm usually in at least a few times a week that asks you to top up your amount for charity- so I just always donate once in the week. Same as there's another shop that has a collection tin and I just empty my purse of any loose change I have once a week in there.
My mum has a rule where once a month she gives to everyone collecting but only on that day.
Good to have your own rule and stick to it.

canyouseemyhousefromhere · 01/09/2025 17:59

I just click the NO button, not a problem.
What I find more irritating is Clintons “would you like a pen, notebook, chocolate bar?” Every time lately. WHSmith does it with water, chocolate and a random book.

Lurkermumofadults · 01/09/2025 18:01

I don't usually do it because I've carefully selected items that are frugal and match my budget only to get to the till and find out I'm expected to pay more. In my eyes, it's the equivalent of being handed a bucket in the street and expected to put money in for a cause I haven't considered before. I shop a lot in and donate to charity shops so at least I get something in return.

Comeinupto40 · 01/09/2025 18:02

It adds up to a lot money! I’ve got a bank account that will round up my payments in my banking app and send the extra to a savings pot. £126 in the pot so far since January. Maybe that’s peanuts to some people, but it aint to me!

Nsky62 · 01/09/2025 18:04

Chompingatthebeat · 31/08/2025 15:37

To be honest i don't go to the shops that often, but 20p here and there is not alot to donate

Ido save the change , so if I give it denies me

Bleachedlevis · 01/09/2025 18:15

GleisZwei · 31/08/2025 16:01

It is technically 'unrounding' up. 🤔

It’s 14% added on! ( yes I had to use a calculator)

MrsMickey · 01/09/2025 18:17

Costa, this is you. Charge £5 for a coffee then ask me to donate to their own charity, I sort of feel I’ve just given them enough…

SnooperLoopy · 01/09/2025 18:17

I always suspect people who strongly object to being asked to donate to charity (and claim the charities waste money or criticise the salaries of charity executives) are tightfisted misers who begrudge a single penny of their hard-earned going to anyone but themselves.

Those who live generously feel no compunction to give whenever asked, and don't feel harassed by the request, because they have a happy and peaceful heart, knowing they are supporting good causes in the world.

My advice is to pick a cause or two and donate by direct debit, then all other requests for alms can be cheerily declined with a clear conscience.

AngelinaFibres · 01/09/2025 18:30

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:38

Our Tesco makes 99% of shoppers use self service tills so I dont feel so bad pressing no.

I know the staff dont care and probably get fed up of asking. Apart from the woman in the charity shop who was quite out out when I (politely) said no twice.

I get asked if I'd like to buy a raffle ticket for 1.00 everytime I go into our local charity shop. Sometimes I say yes . Frequently I say no thank you, not today, but thank you for asking . If they judge me I don't give a toss.

Mackerelfillets · 01/09/2025 18:32

I really resent it. I already pay monthly to 2 charities. I ALWAYS choose no and I don't feel bad about it. I think its cheeky.

Strawberrydelight78 · 01/09/2025 18:32

You don't have to do it every time. Sometimes it's only 25p. I always donate at McDonald's as they have their own Ronald McDonald house which accommodation for families with children in hospital long term.

I stayed in 1 of those accomotios when my own cousin was fighting for his life. He sadly didn't pull through. But it makes so much difference to parents when family members can stay over to support them or just give them a much needed break.

RatherBeOnVacation · 01/09/2025 18:34

So in the U.K. McDonalds serves about 4 million people every day. Their charity is the Ronald McDonald Houses at hospitals - an amazing resource if you ever have a child in hospital long term.

If everyone donated just 1p that’s £40,000 per day. Over 364 days that’s £14.56m per year. That’s STILL not enough to cover running costs.

I am all for it so long as people know where the money is going and how it will be used. Random amounts to random charities - no thanks!!!!!

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 01/09/2025 18:34

BishyBarnyBee · 31/08/2025 15:39

The place it really gives me the rage is WHS where they are robbing you blind with inflated prices because you are a captive audience at a motorway services or rail station, then they add a charity donation as well. Just no!

Yeah, think it was whs, who started this shite

PloddingAlong21 · 01/09/2025 18:37

Crushed23 · 31/08/2025 15:46

Oh, it’s everywhere. I live in the US where there is tipping culture (fair enough) but then I’m asked would I like add an extra $1 here, $5 there to such and such charity. If I said yes to all, it would literally be hundreds of dollars a month. I know nothing about the charities in question or the tax benefit to the companies asking, I just hit “no” every time.

The tipping culture in the US is utterly out of control. Unrelated to this whole thread but they simply need to pay their staff a living wage.

crazeekat · 01/09/2025 18:38

intrepidpanda · 31/08/2025 15:38

If i want to give to charity it will be a charity of my choosing, not Tesco"s

Exactly

RaininSummer · 01/09/2025 18:38

I always say no. I will choose which charities I donate to thanks. Shopping is expensive enough already and work also hits me every month for charity and food bank.

GiveDogBone · 01/09/2025 18:42

Oh the humanity! Just click “No”, how long does that take? 2 seconds out of your fucking pathetic life?

The whole point of this is that it costs virtually nothing to an individual, but to the charity it adds up to a windfall. And lots of companies offer to do the same (except round the pennies down) with your pay cheque. Same principle.

Havesomecommonsense · 01/09/2025 18:47

I totally agree and also every coffee place now has would you like to add a tip on the card machine.
Hate it
Also hate all the upselling at the till as well.
I'm very grumpy these days!

Havesomecommonsense · 01/09/2025 18:48

GiveDogBone · 01/09/2025 18:42

Oh the humanity! Just click “No”, how long does that take? 2 seconds out of your fucking pathetic life?

The whole point of this is that it costs virtually nothing to an individual, but to the charity it adds up to a windfall. And lots of companies offer to do the same (except round the pennies down) with your pay cheque. Same principle.

God are you always thus vitriolic to strangers on Internet forums?

Scorchio84 · 01/09/2025 18:51

Philandbill · 31/08/2025 16:10

Same here. I do planned giving by direct debit each month and will give to street collections if it is a charity I want to support. Also sponsor colleagues etc. I press no at the supermarket, don't care what the cashier thinks as they don't know my finances. We don't go to McDonald's very often but if we do we round up; the Ronald McDonald house was amazing when my nephew was in ICU and it hadn't previously been a charity I was aware of. They do great work.

Yeah that's us too here with McDonalds, their foundation is one of the few (like Barrattstown over here too) that I fully support & round up when the opportunity arises but the constant rounding up requests gets old very quickly @ThingsgetbetterwithalittlebitofRazzmatazz

blueclip · 01/09/2025 18:56

GiveDogBone · 01/09/2025 18:42

Oh the humanity! Just click “No”, how long does that take? 2 seconds out of your fucking pathetic life?

The whole point of this is that it costs virtually nothing to an individual, but to the charity it adds up to a windfall. And lots of companies offer to do the same (except round the pennies down) with your pay cheque. Same principle.

It doesn’t cost virtually nothing if you visit several shops and go frequently. It actually adds up. People often don’t like to click no as they feel really guilty so it’s a bit of a charity mugging, rather than a willing donation in many cases. I once went through the finances of a struggling relative - 3 charity direct debits that they just couldn’t afford but had trouble saying no. Relative also gave to people wanting money on entering the supermarket. This is a person who couldn’t afford to eat properly!

Sparklesandspandexgallore · 01/09/2025 18:56

I find it annoying and no I don’t donate.
I will donate as and when I see fit.
The charities I want to donate to, I research first.
It must be a pain for the cashier having to repeat themselves endlessly, I feel sorry for them.

CatsnCoffee · 01/09/2025 18:58

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:47

Yes! It feels like shaming customers at the till. When I said no, the lady looked at me like I was stealing from the chaaarrrriiiteeee.

It’s embarrassing because there’s usually someone standing in the queue behind you,observing and judging you. There have been periods of my life where I was counting every penny to get by. During a cost of living crisis there will be many in that situation. To put people in that awkward position is actually quite cruel.
Just to be clear; I currently donate monthly to 3 charities and I’d happily give more when I can. It’s the method employed by these retailers which I find objectionable.

LoyalMember · 01/09/2025 19:01

I tell them to do one, although politely. I donate a lot, and buy from charity shops quite often anyway, so I can do without their manipulative scrounging.

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