Other women kissing my husband on the lips.

[Grandame]

Most of my friends air kiss my husband by way of greeting him but a couple kiss him directly on the lips. I would never dream of kissing their partners on the lips and feel they are being disrespectful to me AIBU?

Sorry I thought I read 'they' are being disrespectful to you.

But clearly you meant 'he is', didn't you?

You know, the man who married you?

Or are they pinning him to the floor with all their bodyweight?

@OhBumBags nails it .

Yes I think you mean ‘my husband is kissing other women on the lips’, no?

Are you in an open relationship?
If not why are you standing there watching your H behave inappropriately with other women?
Surely you have spoken to him about marriage vows and monogamy and boundaries?

What is your husband doing about this?

Don’t understand why you wouldn’t react to seeing this as confronting it straight away? You say they’re your friends…

Nails it

Ditch the women but first and foremost you have a DH problem.

Yeah it sounds like you've got some big problems here

Your husband is shit. Your mates are shit.

Time to reevaluate your life girl. Sorry xx

Yeah, I kiss my friends’ husbands on the lips all the time.

Well i dont see it is disrespectful he is not a possession but yes odd but he could always not let it happen he has a voice if he doesn't want it he needs to say something if he wants it you have a partner problem

Is this a closed-mouth peck on the lips, or a longer, open-mouthed version, possibly with tongue? I wouldn't read the first one as sexual, and although it's definitely not customary if you're in the UK it is a normal platonic greeting in some places. But the second is suspect.

Oh stop it. I had a friend whose husband would go for the cheek then do a last minute pivot and get us on the lips. It was repellent and if dh had taken the ‘why are you kissing that man on the lips?’ route, I’d have given him a few choice words.

Eh? Your DH kisses your friends on the lips? Not happening in my marriage. I have not kissed another man on the lips since being in a relationship with my DH. And I expect the same from him.

😂 Surely we can safely assume it is not the second scenario! 'Suspect'? 😂

Some cultures the men kiss close friends on the lips but I don’t think a woman kissing a man in the lips is A Thing.

He should be turning his head to kiss on the cheek. Or saying something jokey about “I’d best not breathe on or kiss anyone today, touch of allergies, yuk” type excuse. Maybe he thinks youre ok with it though. Or maybe he hates it but doesnt like to say as it’s your pals…

Who instigating this? Them or him? The wife of one if my husbands friends always pecks my and everyone elses husbands on the lips. As I trust my husband completely it doesn't bother me in the slightest. Making a song and dance of it would only hurt my husbands friend - and he's such a lovely guy we'd never do that

Yes, your husband is disrespecting you.

Thanks for all your thoughts and I’ve decided that the so called “friends” who kissed my husband directly on the lips were disrespecting me and giving my husband a clear message that they are available should he be interested. Hopefully it will never happen again but if it does I will certainly make my displeasure known and not be stunned into a state of shock.

Are you sure it's not your husband sending a message to your girl friends that he is available should they be interested?

As always, the man does no wrong and we blame the woman.

Just asking, are you British or other nationality? British is 100% no, but others have different protocol

If it's more than one friend the common denominator is your husband. How many of your friends do you think are after him?!

Right, if it's more than one, word has clearly got round that OP's husband is up for it.