Other women kissing my husband on the lips.

[Grandame]

Most of my friends air kiss my husband by way of greeting him but a couple kiss him directly on the lips. I would never dream of kissing their partners on the lips and feel they are being disrespectful to me AIBU?

I think it's odd to go straight to blaming the DH when the OP makes it clear that it's her female friends initiating it. I would have a word with them and say 'You're making DH uncomfortable by kissing him on the lips, as he doesn't like it but doesn't want to be rude and push you away'. Unless your DH isn't actually bothered in which case, yes you also have a DH problem, but specifically a problem between the two of you over what is acceptable.

I think the first question is: What has your DH said to them, or to you, in regards to that?

Oh here we go. Must be the DH. Err no. The women are taking the piss.

Exactly. Typical MN bollocks.

It wouldn’t be dh’s ‘fault’ if this was the first time but unless he’s paralysed surely he turns his head to the side when they zoom in? If not, he’s actually enjoying it!

It's just a kiss. It's not like pulling his zip down and having a play.

I can’t believe the replies you are getting.

If they lean over and kiss your husband on the lips - as you have described - yes they are disrespecting you.

Call them out on it there and then.

Honestly, from what she said in the first post, some of you are victim blaming like mad.

If it turns out he is initiating it then, then yes you have a husband problem.

The comments on here are why I scroll through this forum 😂😂😂

If any female - friend or stranger attempted this, I’d be having words and not standing there like a lemon.

But then I know my DH wouldn’t let it happen in the first place 🤷‍♀️

It's a little cheeky but not worth making a fuss about. She should be grateful people want to kiss her man. There's nothing to suggest he is initiating it.

I would be ditching these ‘friends’.

I would also ask your husband how he would feel if his mates started kissing you on the lips, really. Would he prefer you to turn his head the other way, or go along with it? And regardless of his response I’d tell him for future reference that you don’t like it, and you’d rather he turns his head anyway if such an incident happened again. But it wouldn’t be happening with the ‘friends’ you mentioned because I would have got rid of them.

If that’s what they will do in front of you, what would they do behind your back?

I wouldn’t even care about telling them why I am ditching them, as in, I’d feel comfortable telling them, and wouldn’t take any excuse or let them back in my life. I would not dream of kissing their husbands, why should they kiss mine, and why should I tolerate it? It shouldn’t even enter their heads as far as I am concerned, not if they really are friends. Doesn’t sound to me like they are.

A big ‘NO’ from me.

This. MN BS double standards

Did he and his lady friends who do that learn nothing from a whole fucking pandemic?

Stop kissing people on the lips. It can really spread some nasty stuff.

Zombie

Maybe next time one of them kisses him, turn around and say you hope they dony

Kiss his mate on the lips next time, but ask him first...

What nonsense is this? Bloody hell.

I don’t really appreciate being huffed at for a comment I made last August.
If you have a point to make, why not direct it to the OP? Or go out and enjoy the sunshine.

Huh?

I very much doubt it’s the woman, deal with your husband, stop blaming the women. Available to your husband, it’s not the dark ages,

Is it worth causing a scene? Do you not kiss your friends husbands on the lips occasionally?

Yes, this is an old thread, but someone has revived it because she's having a similar problem. In the OP's case, it did seem her friends were the ones initiating it and the source of the problem (though I'd expect my husband to turn his face and present a cheek once he knew what they were doing), but as for @TheJollyKoala and the woman at the pub, it sounds like your husband is just pretending not to get it. He should understand fairly easily why it bothers you, unless you're both the sort who go around giving kissy greetings all the time.

I don't kiss anyone on the lips apart from my husband. I know some families and friends kiss one another on the lips, but it's hardly odd or uncommon to reserve that for your significant other.

Why on earth have you resurrected an old dead thread just to share that?