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Everyone should move away from the cities

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FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 17:42

Hey everyone. Posting here for more discussion. I want to start a conversation that needs to be had. I've read a number of posts regarding families escaping the big cities for elsewhere and it's been an interesting read. I've used it for my own research too because honestly whilst living in a city has its perks, there is a big trade off regarding one's health, stress levels and community, amongst other things.

I read where village/rural communities across the UK are hostile to Londoners moving in - but it's going to be more of a thing and should be encouraged!

Essentially, I myself, and many other of my friends I've talked to, believe that living in a more village/rural setting is ideal, but we fear the unknown. We fear the reception from others and if we'll fit in here in the UK, which is fair enough but hear me out! I believe more people need to live in rural settings, go back to our roots, the way our ancestors lived.

Grow your own food! I'm telling you they'll be a time soon when such a skill will be vital. Sustain yourself and do not rely on the government to feed you. Please!

Learn to work with your hands! Whether that's sewing (like our mothers and grandmothers did), cooking from scratch, embroidery, hair making, etc etc there is something wonderful about seeing the fruits of your labour. 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 "And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you; 12 That ye may walk honestly toward them that are without, and that ye may have lack of nothing."

Beneficial for you and your children If you have young children, I can't see anywhere better for them to grow up. To be surrounded by nature as God intended (God put Adam and Even in the garden of Eden). The learn life skills from young.

Please be kind in the comments, this is my view and I certainly welcome rebuttals and counter-arguments but do be respectful.

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DashboardConfession · 28/08/2025 20:36

FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:28

No. The opposite is true - have you not read many articles talking about loneliness in the big cities i.e London?

And please be kind and thoughtful. Just because I see the great benefits of rural living does not mean I'm depressed - how rude! Actually if we hadn't forgotten the Christian morals and ways of our forefathers, society would be a lot better than it is today!

I hear it was brilliant being a good Christian woman in the times of our forefathers. The high rate of death in childbirth and lack of voting rights being particular highlights.

Bathingforest · 28/08/2025 20:36

Have you reared animals ? Cheered them, raise them and slaughter them yourself, drain the blood, cut them into pieces, make sausages on a machine which minces the meat ? Have you looked at a pigs cut off head??

You won't survive a single day my dear on my farm

FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:37

Needmorelego · 28/08/2025 18:03

My mum grew up in a village.
She moved away as an adult - found living in a town was easier.
Virtually all her family has left the village now because they are old and need easy access to shops, hospitals and public transport.
Even the younger ones in her family gradually left.
There's no shop, no school (closed circa 1950), no public transport, no pub. There is a church but the congregation is practically zero.
The whole village was snowed in the winter of 63/64. Thankfully a farmer could get his tractor through the deep snow to bring food.
Village life is exciting....🚜

Unfortunately the rise of the corporate world meant so many young people left their homes for the big cities, that's be going on globally for decades.

Instead the opportunities were missed and the village life became dreary and boring - But despite it all, people in recent years and in droves are wanting to go back!

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FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:38

Motheranddaughter · 28/08/2025 18:06

I’ll be staying in the city thank you
Mainly to avoid doing most of the things you mention

Although I'm sad by your statement, it did initially make me chuckle.

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Alltheyellowbirds · 28/08/2025 20:39

Everyone? Like literally everyone?

FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:39

Meadowfinch · 28/08/2025 18:12

I moved out 35 years ago. Currently live with woods to the front and fields behind. Ds travels 20 miles to school every day. I have a 10 minute rural commute or a 40 minute traffic-free cycle.

No problem with Londoners (or anyone else) moving in, but don't expect cockerels to stop crowing at 4am or church bells to stop ringing on Sunday mornings or Wednesday evenings, or the farms to stop combining through the night if that is what the weather dictates. The country is not quiet, think of it as one huge food factory. Our nights have owls hooting and deer barking as well.

Muck will be spread and hedges will be cut and the roads will inevitably be muddy for part of the year which means so will your car. Tractors will travel at 5mph and you will have to wait. But the air is clean, food is fresh, you can swap fruit & veg for honey and eggs produced by your neighbours. It's all part of the joy.

If you can cope with all that, you'll be fine. I've never regret my move.

Thank you! I was waiting with bated breath to read a positive and encouraging response. :)

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Bathingforest · 28/08/2025 20:39

XenoBitch · 28/08/2025 20:31

I do know a couple who moved from a city to a rural location. The location worked for them as they have horses and a lot of other animals so they are on their doorstep now. But they have no neighbours and despite living there for years now, have not made any new friends. They still travel to meet their old ones.

You can be lonely anywhere.

Bit these are just rich people moved to UK village where you don't need to lift your finger for your food, it's shop bought. The op means a total village life like in the old days

XenoBitch · 28/08/2025 20:41

Bathingforest · 28/08/2025 20:39

Bit these are just rich people moved to UK village where you don't need to lift your finger for your food, it's shop bought. The op means a total village life like in the old days

If you are a city person, then move to a village. I bet you will never feel you fit in.

noworklifebalance · 28/08/2025 20:44

FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:35

Yes because they disobeyed and sinned against God.

But do you see, before sin they were in the garden of Eden and God instructed them to work and care for it - they were with the animals and such beautiful fauna! Life was bliss - that was the original plan before things got messed up.

But there will be a new earth and new heaven when Jesus returns - so we have to ready our hearts!

But there will be a new earth and new heaven when Jesus returns - so we have to ready our hearts!

Do you know when this may be, as it may mean we no longer need to worry about climate change and its effect on planet Earth if there will be a new Earth soon-ish?

Joking/sarcasm aside, villages will need to turn into cities to allow for all these people who flock there to live, be educated and be treated for ill health etc.
And how will money be raised to pay for the schools and hospitals if everyone is out working the land to provide food ? it takes ages for a potato to grow, you could eat you whole crop from you vegetable patch within a week and then have to wait weeks for it to be replenished.

FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:44

Genevieva · 28/08/2025 18:12

So you are a prepper who believes the apocalypse is imminent. Living in a village won't save you from Armageddon.

Everyone should learn to be more skillful with their hands - it's such a lost art compared to 100 years ago.

And if apocalypse you mean Jesus Christ returning to destroy evil and recreate the earth and heaven for those who love and follow him then yes. But I don't think there'll be armageddon, it'll be a sudden judgement. So the chance is whilst you still have breath as no one will have an excuse. I say this will so much love and warning. Don't wait for the apocalypse, wait for heaven.❤

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Needmorelego · 28/08/2025 20:44

FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:37

Unfortunately the rise of the corporate world meant so many young people left their homes for the big cities, that's be going on globally for decades.

Instead the opportunities were missed and the village life became dreary and boring - But despite it all, people in recent years and in droves are wanting to go back!

A relative of my mums once did a family tree.
If everyone that descended from that tree decided to move back to that village - it wouldn't be a village anymore. It would be a pretty big city.
150 + years back there there seemed to be an awful lot of couples in my family that had 12 children who then went on to each have 12 children who then went on to....you get the idea.
Seriously. If everyone from cities moved to the countryside then all those villages would become the cities.

FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:44

Genevieva · 28/08/2025 18:12

So you are a prepper who believes the apocalypse is imminent. Living in a village won't save you from Armageddon.

Everyone should learn to be more skillful with their hands - it's such a lost art compared to 100 years ago.

And if apocalypse you mean Jesus Christ returning to destroy evil and recreate the earth and heaven for those who love and follow him then yes. But I don't think there'll be armageddon, it'll be a sudden judgement. So the chance is whilst you still have breath as no one will have an excuse. I say this will so much love and warning. Don't wait for the apocalypse, wait for heaven.❤

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feellikeanalien · 28/08/2025 20:45

I live in a small village in a very rural area. We have a pub, a local shop which is only open for half the day and very limited in what it stocks. The local primary school closed down as there were not enough children so they all now get bussed to the nearest primary school in the large village about 5 miles away.

I drive 80 miles a day taking DD to her special school. We have two buses a day which never have anyone on them because it's just not practical.

We have to drive 45 minutes for her hospital appointments although we do have an excellent GP in the "big" village.

Although I live in an old cottage I don't have a garden, only a small back yard with no space to grow vegetables. If you wanted to be self-sufficient in food you would need a very large land area. DD has an allotment and if we had to rely on that to feed us we would be starving.

You are thinking of a very idealised view of village life.

Having said that I love living here although I would be quite happy to move to the "big" village.

feellikeanalien · 28/08/2025 20:45

I live in a small village in a very rural area. We have a pub, a local shop which is only open for half the day and very limited in what it stocks. The local primary school closed down as there were not enough children so they all now get bussed to the nearest primary school in the large village about 5 miles away.

I drive 80 miles a day taking DD to her special school. We have two buses a day which never have anyone on them because it's just not practical.

We have to drive 45 minutes for her hospital appointments although we do have an excellent GP in the "big" village.

Although I live in an old cottage I don't have a garden, only a small back yard with no space to grow vegetables. If you wanted to be self-sufficient in food you would need a very large land area. DD has an allotment and if we had to rely on that to feed us we would be starving.

You are thinking of a very idealised view of village life.

Having said that I love living here although I would be quite happy to move to the "big" village.

XenoBitch · 28/08/2025 20:47

FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:44

Everyone should learn to be more skillful with their hands - it's such a lost art compared to 100 years ago.

And if apocalypse you mean Jesus Christ returning to destroy evil and recreate the earth and heaven for those who love and follow him then yes. But I don't think there'll be armageddon, it'll be a sudden judgement. So the chance is whilst you still have breath as no one will have an excuse. I say this will so much love and warning. Don't wait for the apocalypse, wait for heaven.❤

You can be skilful with your hands and live in a city.

feellikeanalien · 28/08/2025 20:48

Oops don't know what happened there.

Denim4ever · 28/08/2025 20:48

I love the countryside, I go for days off and hols. However, I do not want to drive to get to everything. I don't like driving.

Dweetfidilove · 28/08/2025 20:48

This doesn't require a massive exodus thoughasmanyof those things can be done in London.
This year I've had a good supply of pumpkin, escallion, callaloo from a friend's allotment.

I sew every so often, make mine and my daughter's hair when I'm in the mood and cook from scratch 95% of the time.

While I dream of the countryside, I'm not ready to pack up London just yet. Especially after reading that thread yesterday about transport costs in thr countryside 😢.

FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:49

EmpressaurusKitty · 28/08/2025 18:14

Living in outer London, I can walk / catch public transport anywhere I want to go, including parks, rivers & beautiful hills & meadows, & I regularly bump into friends / neighbours when out.

I’ve got a just-cooked batch of sourdough rolls cooling on the rack & I’m finishing off a crocheted blanket for a colleague’s new baby.

I wouldn’t live anywhere without decent public transport.

I understand, it's a lovely situation you're in. I also understand that history has just made it so that there are big cities and rural settings but it shouldn't be that way and wasn't for ~10,000 years.

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Bathingforest · 28/08/2025 20:49

Namechangeforthis88 · 28/08/2025 17:47

You won't be commuting. You'll be growing your own food, weaving your own textiles etc.

😂

Petrolitis · 28/08/2025 20:50

FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:28

No. The opposite is true - have you not read many articles talking about loneliness in the big cities i.e London?

And please be kind and thoughtful. Just because I see the great benefits of rural living does not mean I'm depressed - how rude! Actually if we hadn't forgotten the Christian morals and ways of our forefathers, society would be a lot better than it is today!

Fuck off with your be kind. To be blunt you sound like you're high.

What Christian values do you mean? The ones where the catholics and protestants all murdered each other or the ones where the Christians forced their religion on others?

I work with my hands, in a city. Making the shit that the human race cannot do without, which is why i didn't have a single furlough day during covid. The idea that people in cities don't do manual work is preposterous. Or are you so privileged and up your own arse that you don't understand that things needs cleaning and repairing and making in the first instance.

Fortunately as the sane posters have pointed out your ideas are unworkable poorly thought out and and really quite silly.

You can' sit weaving your own hair shirt and congratulating yourself on your rural idyll but when people needs bits of satellites to keep communications running, food service parts for our industrialised food production system which caters to millions or parts to ensure our power generation runs without compromise, they'll be coming to my factory situated in a city with easy transport links to ensure the actually useful stuff I make gets to where it needs to go with ease.

You need a reality check.

SapphOhNo · 28/08/2025 20:50

But Adam and Eve is fiction and if were opening it up to fiction, I think Middle Earth looks fun.

FastQuoter · 28/08/2025 20:54

Mewling · 28/08/2025 18:19

Does a move to a rural location also mean you’ll be travelling back in time? Are you anticipating a catastrophic societal breakdown where we’re trading sex for corn? Or is this a weird trad wife post? Either way, YABU.

No. I'm thankful for most of the technological advancements and social progression.

However I do think we need to reignite certain traditional ways of living for the benefit of our households.

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Bathingforest · 28/08/2025 20:56

SilenceInside · 28/08/2025 17:52

People live in cities because of the infrastructure. Small villages and rural locations don’t have the infrastructure to support a mass influx of people from cities.

In the UK, growing your own food is essentially a fairly expensive hobby and not a way of practically sustaining yourself and your family. And most people don’t want to eat the kinds of seasonal foods you’d end up growing.

Anyone in any location can learn to craft things with their hands. Rural living is not a requirement.

Living rurally can be beneficial for children, but it can also have significant drawbacks. It’s not the simplistic picture that you paint.

Lastly, are you an AI? Your post certainly reads like one.

A newbie Christian taking her knowledge from very low class videos of people speaking about the end times but clueless what the teachings about the end days really say ...so called conspiracy theorists ....they are lazy, live in cities, have a city job, don't study the Bible, don't serve the poor, just watch videos in their free time. De facto many benefits people here do the same

Hazelnutwhirl · 28/08/2025 20:56

If everyone moves to villages, they wouldn't be villages for long, plus think of how clogged up the roads would become. I find that when city people move to the country they seem to like to cleanse the countryside by building over it.