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To think that if you cancel on the day with the NHS, you should be put to the bottom of the list?

507 replies

SaltAirAndTheRust · 28/08/2025 13:07

Unless you have a good reason of course!

I’ve just started and I’m in my first week, in this week we’ve had multiple cancel due to nerves or just not turning up. Seeing the amount of work that gets them to this point, it’s staggering! I just can’t get my head around it

OP posts:
KiwiFall · 28/08/2025 15:31

It’s not the odd DNA, after all things happen, the NHS have to cancel them sometimes too at short notice, Royal Mail maybe lost the letter or the company that send the appointment letters missed one. It’s the serial offenders. Depending on what the patients ailment is we cannot discharge some patients. It is frustrating booking an appointment knowing full well they won’t come when other patients get upset their appointments are delayed longer than they would like. The NHS pride themselves on treating all patients and not judging so we can only do what we can 🤷‍♀️

JustMyView13 · 28/08/2025 15:34

Yes, but I think there’d be a lot of time wasted debating the legitimacy of the reason. And for that reason, it should be logged & applied to serial offenders rather than ad-hoc mistakes.
That said, under the private system you pay whether or not you attend. Perhaps we should trial that to get people used to the private systems.

recipientofraspberries · 28/08/2025 15:35

Ideas like this are fine on paper, but then you get into the realities of how it would all be decided. Who gets to say that a service we pay for with our taxes to be free at the point of use will start charging people for missing appointments, and who makes the criteria? It's all very well adding on a 'unless it's for good reason of course', but we know that people who genuinely have good reason for struggling in life don't get the support they're entitled to. Why would this be any different?

I honestly just think a policy like this would just put even more people off seeking healthcare. Lots of people have inconsistent functioning and resources, and the risk of being charged for cancelling last minute would just put them off seeking healthcare at all. Yes there are dickheads who take the piss, but I don't want a world where we make things harder for everyone just to punish a small amount of people.

LadySuzanne · 28/08/2025 15:35

viques · 28/08/2025 14:04

Do they not have taxis in your area?

I live 6 miles from one hospital and nearly 15 miles from another hospital in the same Dorset University Hospital Trust.

Departments for neurology, urology, the eye clinics and some cardio and other conditions are based at the hospital that is nearly 15 miles away.

A taxi to the 6 miles away hospital costs itro £46 to £48, round trip.

A taxi to the 15 miles away hospital costs in excess of £90 round trip. Some people would struggle to fund that kind of expense if their own transport is unexpectedly unavailable.

HelpMeGetThrough · 28/08/2025 15:36

SaltAirAndTheRust · 28/08/2025 13:11

Why do you care?

You are perfect for a frontline NHS role, no training required.

So what happens to you lot when you decide to finally give me an online appointment and nobody turns up, twice.

Scans and tests done and then no results given and then can’t find them and are baffled when I tell you who my Consultant is and tell me I have never been referred to him and never had an appointment with him. Really, who was it I saw, Lord Lucan?

CrimsonStoat · 28/08/2025 15:37

KiwiFall · 28/08/2025 15:31

It’s not the odd DNA, after all things happen, the NHS have to cancel them sometimes too at short notice, Royal Mail maybe lost the letter or the company that send the appointment letters missed one. It’s the serial offenders. Depending on what the patients ailment is we cannot discharge some patients. It is frustrating booking an appointment knowing full well they won’t come when other patients get upset their appointments are delayed longer than they would like. The NHS pride themselves on treating all patients and not judging so we can only do what we can 🤷‍♀️

You've just referred to "serial offenders" and priding yourself on not being judgemental in the same post!!!

You seem to be entirely typical of so many NHS staff that I've encountered over the last decade or so.

Completely blind to your own attitudes.

recipientofraspberries · 28/08/2025 15:38

MyViewOn · 28/08/2025 15:16

OP, you need to have some compassion, understanding and patience. Otherwise you will drive yourself mad. I have been an NHS consultant for 30 years and would never write what you have just done.

The reasons people do not turn up are multifactorial. These are related to the NHS and its incompetent processes, the patient and all the complexities of a human life, and also the kind of medical condition being addressed. Once you add in logistics, the weather, and transport into it, it feels like a unsolvable problem.

I think we need easier processes for cancelling and changing appointments. That would help as a start.

And sometimes it’s frustrating. I get it. I called a patient this morning who had only been referred a couple of weeks ago. She was sent the phone appointment by text, email and post. I called her at 10 am and she said she was feeling sleepy and would prefer a different appointment. I offered to call her back in 30 minutes but she said she was too tired to speak. Anyway, I will reschedule the appointment. I can’t deny that inside I felt a bit frustrated, but there would have been no point in saying anything. People are people and we just have to get on with it. I would rather speak to someone when they are ready to have the conversation.

You will burn out if you feel so angry and frustrated after one week! And don’t lose your compassion and respect towards patients. I have never been rude to a patient in my career. Sometimes I’m annoyed inside but my professionalism comes first. And we have to treat our patients with respect.

This response is a huge breath of fresh air. Thank you!! It is so reassuring to hear someone talking like an adult.

WhyAmISoReal · 28/08/2025 15:41

gamerchick · 28/08/2025 13:15

I would like letters with appointments sent out, before the appointment while we're on.

Why on earth would they do that? You make no sense. Grin

Taztoy · 28/08/2025 15:43

SaltAirAndTheRust · 28/08/2025 13:20

Letters do get sent.

I got a letter at 1.24pm today for a gynae appointment last Friday.

they cancelled my previous one the day before.

so. I’ll have been a dna.

and I’ve tried ringing the number on the letter but it rings out.

BoredZelda · 28/08/2025 15:46

SaltAirAndTheRust · 28/08/2025 13:11

I just think cancelling on the day due to nerves is a load of rubbish - they’ve had months to get to this point and can talk through all of it before hand! Same as just not turning up

I hope to goodness you aren’t treating any of these people.

Hiddenmnetter · 28/08/2025 15:48

SaltAirAndTheRust · 28/08/2025 13:20

Letters do get sent.

Come on OP now you’re just trolling. We’ve all had NHS letters giving us appointments for the week before because they just didn’t get sent out. It’s so common it’s apocryphal.

BlueandWhitePorcelain · 28/08/2025 15:50

viques · 28/08/2025 14:24

I can see how frustrating this is , but driving someone in your personal car can lead to complications re insurance so many people and organisations advise against it. And presumable taking someone off their normal duties could have implications for staffing levels.

DD1 has her own Motability car there, and it’s insured for the care staff to drive it, so long as they haven’t had a motoring conviction in the last 5 years. The default staffing there is 1:1 for each resident - some have 2:1, 3:1 or 4:1, but that wouldn’t include a team leader or manager in their staffing.

SomethingInnocuousForNow · 28/08/2025 15:52

I used to work for a small, local charity service for a while. We had so many (very) last minute cancellations and no shows. Regrettably we did have to implement a 2 strikes then suspended from using service for 6 months rule. Unfortunately you can't even use the 'unless genuine excuse' route because people do lie. Cancellation policies (particularly NHS ones) can't be too harsh though because although it's frustrating, in my experience the most vulnerable people are the ones who cancel last minute for what seems like crap reasons. There's complex socioeconomic dynamics at play.

Avantiagain · 28/08/2025 15:53

Ds's appointments have been cancelled on the day because he won't (can't) move or because taking him would put him and others at risk due to challenging behaviour. Now he lives in supported living this is never seen as a problem but when he lived with us we had lots of hassle getting HCPs to accept this.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 28/08/2025 15:54

SaltAirAndTheRust · 28/08/2025 13:20

Letters do get sent.

Yes they do. Like the one I had months before for a phone appointment, planned my time around, then the week before I had another letter moving it to 2 days later.

I duly reorganised my work days to make sure I could take the call, waited all afternoon, then phoned the dept at the end of the day when I'd heard nothing - only to discover they had no record of the second letter at all and had tried to call on the original date while I was in the back to back meetings i'd had to reschedule because of their second letter.

No doubt that will have gone down as a 'no show'.

RubySquid · 28/08/2025 15:57

lalaloopyhead · 28/08/2025 13:13

I think if you miss or change 2 appointments that can happen already - my colleagues partner has multiple health conditions and has been threatened with this when they tried to change an appointment (for legitimate reason) and they had missed an appointment because they didn't recieve the letter with date on until the day after they should have been there!

I got threatened to be turfed off a waiting list for missing appointments. I did have a good reason though, like being an inpatient for a month at the same bloody hospital ( as I tried to explain to the depression receptionist on phone from my hospital bed)

Didn't stop the snottiness from her as I couldn't confirm when I'd definitely be able to attend a rebootked apot

AffableApple · 28/08/2025 15:57

gamerchick · 28/08/2025 13:18

Ah imagine. A letter coming saying it's time and please book your appointment online? That's like a different dimension dream healthcare that.

Even better, imagine getting... an email or text to book a slot!

Gwenhwyfar · 28/08/2025 15:58

RimTimTagiDim · 28/08/2025 15:21

That's unfair. Until I had an MRI I only had a very vague idea of what it entailed and why it might be a scary prospect, and I don't think that's unusual.

I'm sorry, but you can tell that it looks a bit like a coffin. It's pretty obvious that some people won't want to go into one of them. I suppose the fact that it's noisy isn't common knowledge, but the shape of it is.
I'm not claustrophobic, but I remember seeing those flotation tanks on TV years ago and knew immediately it wouldn't be for me.

RimTimTagiDim · 28/08/2025 15:59

Gwenhwyfar · 28/08/2025 15:58

I'm sorry, but you can tell that it looks a bit like a coffin. It's pretty obvious that some people won't want to go into one of them. I suppose the fact that it's noisy isn't common knowledge, but the shape of it is.
I'm not claustrophobic, but I remember seeing those flotation tanks on TV years ago and knew immediately it wouldn't be for me.

It doesn't look anything like a coffin.

TigerRag · 28/08/2025 16:00

AffableApple · 28/08/2025 15:57

Even better, imagine getting... an email or text to book a slot!

I'm sure I remember getting letters years ago to book online. Seems you can't do that anymore

Gwenhwyfar · 28/08/2025 16:01

RimTimTagiDim · 28/08/2025 15:59

It doesn't look anything like a coffin.

Well, you're body is in a kind of box...

Mumof2wifeof1crazytimes · 28/08/2025 16:03

I think you are right OP, the money wasted on missed appointments is very high and a complete waste yet the majority of people will moan about the NHS failing to provide and under delivering.

RubySquid · 28/08/2025 16:04

KiwiFall · 28/08/2025 15:31

It’s not the odd DNA, after all things happen, the NHS have to cancel them sometimes too at short notice, Royal Mail maybe lost the letter or the company that send the appointment letters missed one. It’s the serial offenders. Depending on what the patients ailment is we cannot discharge some patients. It is frustrating booking an appointment knowing full well they won’t come when other patients get upset their appointments are delayed longer than they would like. The NHS pride themselves on treating all patients and not judging so we can only do what we can 🤷‍♀️

Can't you book these patients for end of day. Say a 4pm. Then by the time the 3.30pm patient has been seen at at 4.30 then you know the regular appt misser hasn't turned up and it's not delayed anyone else

Lottapianos · 28/08/2025 16:06

'Even better, imagine getting... an email or text to book a slot!'

I used to do this when I was a clinician. All the bloody letters we sent out drove me around the bend. I just don't think it's acceptable to send out a letter saying your appointment is on Weds 22nd at 10am or whatever - I hate that as a patient, and I wanted to give people a choice.

So I started texting or emailing parents (children's service) to say please contact us to book your child's review. About 50% of the parents got in touch promptly to book in, about 50% needed chasing and chasing and chasing. There's honestly no perfect way of doing it, and it is incredibly frustrating when you feel like you're trying to meet people halfway and give them a choice. As a previous poster said, people are people and there are no easy answers

YourLoyalPlumOP · 28/08/2025 16:07

lalaloopyhead · 28/08/2025 13:13

I think if you miss or change 2 appointments that can happen already - my colleagues partner has multiple health conditions and has been threatened with this when they tried to change an appointment (for legitimate reason) and they had missed an appointment because they didn't recieve the letter with date on until the day after they should have been there!

Yeah

i I have no family round me. No problem as I’ve never asked for a thing.

when we get hospital appointments you can quarter it will be on a day which I can’t make because of child care issues or my husband is away with his job. It’s so rare and the drs know how hard I find it to get childcare. However I always cancel and never just ignore it or not turn up but it’s a pain with the new you can only change it twice. But there’s nothing I can do.