To ask if you'd walk at 35 after 2 years and no engagement on the horizon?

[Mooooooove]

If marriage and kids were important to you, you'd asked them and after 2 years they weren't ready? You're 35, do you think 2 years is too soon to get engaged?

Not telling you what to do but I wouldn't waste my time ..hold you head high and go

There’s clearly been conversations about the future if you say an engagement is not on the horizon.

And it sounds like there is no clear timeline to put an engagement on the horizon.

So yes I would walk. After 2 years you should have a solid plan in place

If what you want is marriage and a family, yes. It's time to marry or split.

They’ve been together for two years and he said he’s not ready. We can assume they’ve already discussed it since he knows marriage and children are important to the op, so what else is there to discuss? Insane to think you can change their mind when time really is the issue here. If he’s not ready to marry after two years he never will be.

I'd say I wanted a serious, but non-confrontational conversation and lay it out. Age, ideas for my future, what I have to have. I'd say I understand if he doesn't share my vision, but to take some time to give it serious consideration. I'd wait up to a month for a response. If he was unsure I'd say we should separate as friends and keep it amicable.

You can walk away for any reason at 35. Don’t hold onto a relationship that is not meeting your needs just because of your age.

Thats ceazy. If you don’t know yourself and your bf sufficiently after two years you aren’t right for each other. But you should be able to trust yourself enough to know whether he is the person you want to have children with.

If everything was else working and no other issues and marriage or children was not on the cards I would have no issues staying, the idea of children being more important than a stable relationship is why society is in the mess it is in these days

I was married and heavily pregnant having been with my other half for 2 years! We had known each other for several years before tho I was a similar age to you.
Personally, I think you need a heart to heart chat with your other half about what you want and take a decision from there. For me personally, I didn't want children before marriage.

At 35 and two years in, you know if you want to be with someone.

Hesitation can often be that they are comfortable, but you are not the one.

Women waste years being the good enough for now woman.

This 1000%! Years ago, I (stupidly, lesson learned) wasted nearly 9 years of my prime being engaged to the ex, who only proposed to take me 'off the market' and was using me and my flat as an escape from a toxic family home. I am now engaged to my fiancé who proposed within 7 months of dating, and we are planning our wedding when we complete the purchase of our new home.

I know it's easier said than done, but please don't waste your time on someone who isn't serious about marriage and children.

Cut n run. If they are not ready now then they never will be. Go find someone who wants you and wants to build a life with you.

And the premise that you are financially independent and secure .

2 weeks was enough for me 41 years ago. We are very happily married. 2 years is plenty of time.

Fab for you. Wouldn't work for me.

You don't know me, so, respectfully your comment is irrelevant.

At that age I would walk away

We got married 2 years after meeting but I was only 19

I wouldn't but that is largely irrelevant as I'm not you. However, I'll share my reasons why @Mooooooove. 1. I don't think 2 years is that long 2. I'm not that bothered about marriage 3. Marriages can break apart, anyway 4. Commitment isn't always shown through marriage but in many other ways 5. I wouldn't want to give up on someone I loved 6. I wouldn't especially want to date again.

If it was important to me - and maybe even if not - I'd want to know where they stood on the issue.

They might be keen to marry but not yet, they might not want to because they genuinely don't want to get married (people don't for plenty of reasons).

I guess it's how strongly you feel.

I'd have walked away already.
If you spend a lot of time together, know all about them, their friends and family. After a year, at that age, it would be kind of obvious at their intentions.

I too think 2 years is enough at most ages, especially when over 30, over 35 and wanting children.