Things that PISS you off, but you can't really say so.

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I have a few. Can't say them out loud (except to DH).

MIL & FIL - multi millionaires. Spend loads of money on themselves, lavish holidays, sports cars, only the very best restaurants etc. Never ever do they give a penny to their adult children (and one is flat broke). This is despite them both having been given property and a thriving business by a parent themselves.

My Dad - Overbearing, alcoholic, violent outbursts etc, all through our childhood. He's now decrepit and I have to do so much for him. I resent it.

Brother - keeps saying he's broke, whilst living like a rockstar. Just spend £20k on a holiday, lives in a £600k house, drives top of the range car, but often claims poverty - stop lying!

And breathe......

Anyone else?

Performance parenting for everyone in ear shot’s benefit

I’ll probably get shot down for this but I find SOME parents of very young children really entitled. Moaning about the funded childcare from 9 months is a good example, like if their child is a day too young for the cut off whinge whinge. FFS, some of us got 15 hours when our kids turned 3 and were grateful for that. And some of them think if you have older children then your life is suddenly easy and you have loads of time and you can’t wait to babysit their 2 year old. No I’ve been there and got the tshirt, thanks.

I can't bear families like this.

The lady who lives opposite me (it's a house spilt into 4 flats - 2 on the ground floor and 2 upstairs) smokes. I'm aware she's doing nothing wrong but urgh the smell

Ugh my PIL do this every time, except they like quite plain food and don’t like fish whereas I like strong flavours and I particularly like seafood so I don’t know why they do it, I started telling them I was ordering one thing then changing my mind when the waiter came over. It just felt a bit weird to sit there with 3 out of four of us eating the same thing.

They’re also quite racist but I don’t think that’s connected.

Laughing/cackling about nothing, eg after every sentence.

@LBFseBrom I so agree with this! I guess some people think they're funny, but with others it's after almost everything they say. I tell myself they might be nervous but it doesn't help me 😔

That's plain old jealousy I'm afraid. They haven't actually done anything wrong.

I had a flower girl at my wedding 22 years ago

I can’t stand the following:

• Mums who go overboard to host the perfect instagram children’s birthday party. I’ve been to a few of them that must have cost £1000 and had everything: Hired venue with garden, entertainer, bounty caste, face painting, craft table, eco party bags for 20 children that costs £5 each, a four-tiered cake that took the mother 12 hours to prepare, and a spread that contained everything children desire including a lot of UPF like crispy, sausage rolls, ham sandwiches and squash juice.

These parties give me the ick and I feel sorry for mums who are less confident and feel pressured to host similar parties

• people who are constantly exaggerate their feelings. If they’re going to an ordinary event like a meal with colleagues then they’re not just looking forward to it. They say that they’re “ super thrilled and can’t wait “. When something happens to them they’re not happy about, for example, a date has been cancelled then they’re “ absolutely devastated “ instead of just disappointed.

Isn’t it usually ‘Let me be absolutely clear, before they proceed to slither around the subject like an oiled snake?

People who break out the Kentucky Fried Chicken - which absolutely stunk btw, in the orthodontists’ waiting room corridor, where there are only 5 seats and you have no choice but to sit next to them but only last about 30” before having to get up to get away from them whilst scrolling through and listening to TikTok. With no AirPods.

I’m glad it’s not just me - I’ve been single for a few years now and I’m just so used to doing everything on my own including taking 2 children to A&E if I don’t have childcare for the other! Maybe my experience clouds my perspective!

Oh another one

XX gives me anxiety
I have such anxiety over YY

You mean you are worried about something….?

Some things that annoy me, probably irrationality.

People who say resource or capacity at work

The term side eye

Parents who get overly involved when children are playing. For example joining in at the play park and trying to be fun dad. Just let the kids play.

My dad had three things that he was particularly peeved about:

1. people who treat waitstaff, baristas, receptionists like petty personal slaves ... barking orders/demands at them.

2. people aged 8-98 with poor table manners ... chewing mouth open, elbows on the table, fingers in mouth at the table, poor dexterity/control with utensils & cutlery ... biggest frustration with parents in public setting a poor example to their children.

3. men and youths wearing hats and caps indoors ... with particular venom to anyone who eats a meal at a table or bench without removing headwear.

I inherited all these from him by my teens but added a new one of my own ...

4. men who go to the urinals in pubs, restaurants and public places who finish peeing but bypass the sink, soap, water & hand-dryers/towels before returning to dinner or bar. [I imagine that they think their willies are always completely sanitised at all times.] In my post 45yo years, I have taken to shaming them ... long before COVID-10 drew its first breath.

Disrespect/disrespectful - so overused now, inc. on here, when the person often means that the behaviour was e.g. bad manners or inconsiderate.

The worst one of this I ever saw was Leed’s

Parents that go overboard with their DC’s first birthday. They will not have any memories of this

You do have to wonder WTF they were ever taught at school.

My cousin’s daughter is one of those who does Instagram things. My grandmother died 18 months ago and she wanted just a flower display on the coffin and a simple funeral.

Cousin’s daughter ignored my grandmother’s (her great grandmother) requests. She got those ‘NAN’ flowers (My DGM hated those) and two flower cushions. Plus gave all the attendees a rose to put onto the coffin on leaving.

Plus other things which really got on my DF’s nerves

What attracted me to my husband was I watched him go into the toilet, and I heard the hand dryer going before he left :)

That's so romantic! 😆

lol. I know what you mean.

Yes the language of young people is overly dramatic. Sometimes I’ll get a text from my DD21 and it sounds terrible when you read it rather than hear her say it laughing. If you’re not keeping up with the lingo it causes all sorts of misunderstandings.

She doesn’t sound like a friend and neither do you, to be frank.