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House viewings - neighbour refuses to take down flag

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KayleighhMum · 25/08/2025 15:53

Our house is up for sale and we have viewings commencing from tomorrow - 7 in total lined up over the course of the week.

Our neighbour hung a large England flag from his top window on Friday and it has remained up. DH saw him outside the front on Saturday and politely asked if he could take it down before Tuesday. He basically laughed and said if any prospective new neighbour dislikes the flag then they won’t be the sort of person he’d want living next to him. It remains up now.

I am concerned this would be off putting, but speaking to my mum earlier she thinks I am over thinking things and it wouldn’t make a difference if someone likes the house.

Do you think we should try and ask again or would you assume it shouldn’t put people off? We are semi detached so it will definitely be noticed.

No prior issues with this neighbour who has always been friendly etc.

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TomeTome · 25/08/2025 20:02

I wouldn’t get out of the car

BurntBroccoli · 25/08/2025 20:03

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Potentially purchased via the Britain First Campaign…

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 25/08/2025 20:04

If i was a white person id be put off as I’d be worried the neighbour was chavvy and a bit of a Neanderthal at best.

if I was black/Asian I don’t think I’d even bother getting out the car to undertake the viewing.

2dogsandabudgie · 25/08/2025 20:06

ILikeDinosaurs · 25/08/2025 19:18

It would put me off for sure. Is he just sports mad or obsessed with the migrants/reform/loves Nigel? No way I'd want to live next to someone like that. Sports i can handle as long as he takes it down the rest of the time.

Better a flag hanging from a post than an old fridge, mattress dumped in the front garden. That would really put me off

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 25/08/2025 20:06

Honestly it would put me off moving in.

19lottie82 · 25/08/2025 20:06

Why not offer him £20 per viewing to take it down?

2dogsandabudgie · 25/08/2025 20:07

BurntBroccoli · 25/08/2025 20:03

Potentially purchased via the Britain First Campaign…

And you know this because ........

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 25/08/2025 20:08

Ilovegerardway · 25/08/2025 18:50

Are any of these flags abundant in middle class areas now?

I live in a shithole now, so there have always been flags hanging out of windows on the estates anyway, but I never saw them when I lived in a nice area. It just wouldn’t have happened.

Fuck patriotism, people wouldn’t have wanted to look scruffy.

Not seen a single one in my nice (large) rural village, nor any in the nearby city yesterday. Which reinforces my belief this sort of thing only happens in rough areas/or by rough individuals 🤷‍♀️😁

Lonelycrab · 25/08/2025 20:08

I’d also walk away. Good luck op.

BeatrizBoniface · 25/08/2025 20:09

Oh, another England flag thread.
All the flags round here seem to be Palestinian.

travellinglighter · 25/08/2025 20:10

No issues with flag but you know and so do I that at the moment the far right are encouraging anti-immigrant hate and using the flag as a symbol to demonstrate hatred.

BeatrizBoniface · 25/08/2025 20:10

The viewers often ask about neighbours, tell them he's just a supporter of the women's rugby.

Sesma · 25/08/2025 20:10

Didn't a Labour MP have to resign because she was mocking an England flag in a house a few years ago.

Millytante · 25/08/2025 20:11

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I must say, outside of types wanting to show allegiance to ‘white power’ in England with that particular flag, I do not understand why people fly their own country’s flag at home in that same country.
I live in Ireland, and there’s always tricolours flying all over the place. (As for the USA, well they are flag-obsessed certifiable.) Why do we do it? We, and all our tourists, know where we are!
I’d understand displaying your national flag if you live abroad, but at home, it seems sort of tautological.

If that flag is freighted with negative associations though, as is the case with the Cross of St George, I reckon it’s just boneheaded provocation to fly it in England now. It’s daring anyone to complain.
To whom is one declaring pride in one’s Englishness, if not to signal to others coded messages about +/- acceptability?

(What do I know. I’m very much with Dr Johnson, anyway. Patriotism is the last refuge of the scoundrel.)

2dogsandabudgie · 25/08/2025 20:11

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I thought you had to fill a form in now to say if there was any ongoing neighbour disputes. So the buyers would know anyway flag or no flag.

BeatrizBoniface · 25/08/2025 20:12

travellinglighter · 25/08/2025 20:10

No issues with flag but you know and so do I that at the moment the far right are encouraging anti-immigrant hate and using the flag as a symbol to demonstrate hatred.

I hate that, because then people will feel reluctant to fly them to support sporting events. Which is a shame.

BurntBroccoli · 25/08/2025 20:12

2dogsandabudgie · 25/08/2025 20:07

And you know this because ........

The Tweet says:
“Golding -
@GoldingBF • 12h
!! OPERATION RAISE THE COLOURS
Britain First has, so far, donated 75% of its flag stock to local teams in Manchester and the West Midlands for 'Operation Raise The Colours. Most of the flags in this photo are now on lampposts and bridges in Manchester and Birmingham!”

Sesma · 25/08/2025 20:12

Maybe we need a separate forum on here called 'Flags'

Nottodaythankyou123 · 25/08/2025 20:13

DriveMeCrazy1974 · 25/08/2025 16:00

Who do you think you are, asking your neighbour to take down their national flag? I'm so fed up with people thinking that it's wrong to celebrate being English. Not everybody who has a flag up is racist, but that's obviously what you're trying to say without saying it! Any other flag is OK - people can put up what they like, but as soon as it's the English flag it's deemed to be a bad thing to do.
If I were your neighbour I'd be inclined to add another flag somewhere else noticeable too and I'd keep doing so until you gave up asking!
I'm not sure I entirely believe this is real, anyway.

It’s because the English flag has largely been hijacked by individuals hiding behind it to make xenophobic, racist comments. One particularly nasty video showed men putting up an England flag and then shouting racist profanities at a Muslim woman and child walking past.

Is everyone who displays and England flag racist? Absolutely not. Have they been tarred by the actions of some awful people? Absolutely.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 25/08/2025 20:13

Sesma · 25/08/2025 20:10

Didn't a Labour MP have to resign because she was mocking an England flag in a house a few years ago.

I don't think she resigned but Emily Thornberry was definitely involved in a flag-gate kerfuffle once.

ItWasnaMeGuv · 25/08/2025 20:13

Tandora · 25/08/2025 19:24

It’s because of that part of history where we brutally colonised a quarter of the world, and invented the international slave trade and stuff. So yeh, the British flag is not perceived as harmless. It’s a small price to pay imo.

What a load of drivel, @Tandora . William Wilberforce in Parliament campaigned for the abolition of slavery, with the help of our Naval Fleets achieved it. As for colonisation, the Ottoman Empire was far greater and ruled for far longer. Get your facts right.

SleepyRic · 25/08/2025 20:14

Not much you can do unfortunately. You're right it's definitely a detraction. I go into loads of houses as a Paramedic and we just seen it as a warning sign the occupant is likely to be volatile/not very nice and we need to be careful.

Hiptothisjive · 25/08/2025 20:14

KayleighhMum · 25/08/2025 16:03

We didn’t ask for it to come down because we find it offensive, racist or any other similar reason. We are patriotic and love our country.

We were just thinking from a prospective buyer perspective and kerb appeal etc.

I think we will wait to see if it comes up in the initial feedback before approaching again.

Kerb appeal means for your house. You can’t and don’t control the street. Such entitled behaviour. They aren’t doing anything illegal or wrong. Honestly if my neighbour asked me this (and we don’t have a flag out) I would put up another one. Give yourself a shake.

Zov · 25/08/2025 20:14

KayleighhMum · 25/08/2025 15:53

Our house is up for sale and we have viewings commencing from tomorrow - 7 in total lined up over the course of the week.

Our neighbour hung a large England flag from his top window on Friday and it has remained up. DH saw him outside the front on Saturday and politely asked if he could take it down before Tuesday. He basically laughed and said if any prospective new neighbour dislikes the flag then they won’t be the sort of person he’d want living next to him. It remains up now.

I am concerned this would be off putting, but speaking to my mum earlier she thinks I am over thinking things and it wouldn’t make a difference if someone likes the house.

Do you think we should try and ask again or would you assume it shouldn’t put people off? We are semi detached so it will definitely be noticed.

No prior issues with this neighbour who has always been friendly etc.

Yeah I would leave MY England flag up too.

Thread No. 23 about this same subject in less than a week. 🙄

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