To think you should invite your partner if this happens?

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An entirely theoretical conversation I was having with my partner. Curious to know what other people think.

It you go for a ladies’ night out, and leave your spouse at home, and then when you turn up, your friend(s) has brought their spouse or invited one or multiple men along on the night out, it’s courteous to message your partner and ask if they’d like to join after all.

Similarly if a man goes out with the “guys” and turns up and his friend has bought he wife, or invited other women he’s friends with, it’s courteous for your partner to message you and invite you to join.

DP wasn’t disagreeing with me, incidentally. It was just something we were chatting about.

YABU - no need to tell your spouse and invite them just because others have brought their partner’s or friends of the opposite sex. Carry on as you were

YANBU - as the group dynamic has changed, it’s polite to let your partner know and give them the option to come and join you.

Obviously there are extenuating circumstances.

i would say: i CBA with this, i'm off. Unless anyone wants to come for a cocktail/karaoke/hot pot.

Then I'd probably go home.

I don'T go out that much, although usually with DH because we have a lot of the same interests, and when i do, if i have specifically arranged with my women friends for there not to be men, that's what i have been wanting.

This is precisely how this came up in the context of talking about introverts and extroverts. An introvert wouldn’t but an extrovert would.

I’m not sure I’m entirely following?

But I wouldn’t expect to be invited if it were just Steve and Jeff. If it became I couple evening, I would want to feel included in that scenario.

Why? If you weren’t invited in the first instance, why would you want to go?
Why wouldn’t you have made your own plans for the evening (even if those plans were to watch TV or read a book)?

Neither of us would be sitting around at home waiting for an invitation to socialise! Neither of us could care less if we were/weren’t invited. In fact, we’d both be mildly annoyed our quiet night in was being disturbed. I really find the whole premise weird. Would you NEED your bf to be by your side if your friends have theirs? Why go to such effort?