no i am not... men (in fact the male species) why can't they

[readyforbed]

1. put the toilet seat down
2. put stuff in the dishwasher rather than on the counter
3. not leave empty packages in the fridge
4. not leave underwear on the floor
5. not leave damp towels on the floor
6. put their shoes away
7. just in general clean up over themselves

The list goes on, but these are the things that have really irritated me walking around the house for the last 2 mins. and to make it worse my DH doesn't even put the bins out (which everyone, including all his male friends, agree is a man job). Rant over - feel better now, ready to go and tidy the place up, I would leave it but my tolerance factor is much lower than his, and I don't want to deal with the all consuming 'man-clean' and the grump that goes with it when it finally gets too much for him.

My hubby also builds mountains out of used tea bags...it doesnt bother him so I eventually chuck them away.

My dh is like yours talilac, he doesn't expect me to pick up after him, doesn't think 'oh I'll leave this here, wonderstuff will sort it' he just doesn't think. He also leaves the fridge door open, the oven on and I've banned him from candles after he left one burning and set light to our bathroom! I blame the drugs he took as a young person He can however look after dd and clean the house top to bottom, something that eludes me

readyforbed - my DH is just like yours.

Whenever I feel irked I like to think of my friends husband who is totally anal about everything. Just of the top of my head:

If she takes a CD out and fails to put it back after use in the correct place in the alpabetically ordered cupboard there are raised eyebrows and possibly strong words

After the kids have played with their bricks etc she has to count them all back into their boxes and god forbid there is one missing. There has been an incomplete jigsaw hidden in the back of her wardrobe for some years now

He actually notices, when he gets in from work, whether she has hoovered or not. And if not, asks why not!!!

So, my advice is, bear this in mind the next time you trip over some ancient pants or find a load of sweet wrappers down the back of the sofa. The alternative may well be even worse!!!

Chukkypig, love the sound of that man, seriously I could get along with him quite nicely, is she divorcing him any time soon

in fairness if your happy to revert to stereotypes then he should be allowed to aswell.
complaining about leaving the toilet seat up fgs, just put it down (does he moan when you leave it down?) and you defining putting out the bins as a mans job should then give him the excuse to classify tidying the house as a womans job.

i have been split ^permanently from xp (dd's dad) for over 8 months and he will not accept it. (and neither, for that matter, will his aunt, i think she still harbours a hope of ebing able to buy a new hat)

permanently even

my oh never puts toilet set down and leaves toothpaste cap off and leaves dirty clothes on floor even tho we have a laundry basket and burps and he thinks its funny grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr hello ladies xx

Wonderstuff - at your DH setting light to the bathroom!

Yes that is the sort of thing DH would do. He's also capable of agreeing his way through an entire conversation, and then at the end, asking you what you just said..

He is great with the DDs though.

my oh ia a great dad and he has his qualities but he is a man lol

As soon as they invent a vibrator that puts the rubbish out, my dh is history

heheheheheh at jumping beans

LOL ChukkyPig, I will remember that next time I'm feeling peed off about cleaning! Good one... Does anyone else's DH -if they finally decide to help clean up- do things like take three hours to clean the bathroom because the bath taps OBVIOUSLY have to be dismantled and FULLY descaled every week

I think we women are often to blame, though, whingeing eg that the washing has been hung up wrongly when our lovely lazy sofaoccupiers husbands do decide to help...

Have obviously just contradicted myself in the space of one post but um

ima whinge bag to my oh and he puts up with it he says me moaning at him makes our relationship normal i do it more now he said he likes being old what to do wtf lmao

Who on earth are these men?

I can assure you that none of the three men I've lived with have been remotely like this. I wouldn't have lived with them otherwise. I don't tend to assume that cleaning and/or tidying are my job.

mi I dont assume cleaning is my job, just that dh generates more mess than me

These men are men who most probably had mummies who doted on them ironed their pants and let them believe there was a little pixie that changed their bedding and a lovely fairy that cleaned the toilet after they had had an explosive event.

Or they were brought up in homes not up to normal (i.e. my) standards and are totally blind to small matters like bathroom sinks full of stubble/no clean pots and pans left/aftermath of explosions in toilet.

That's my theory anyway!

crikey, if putting out the bin is a male job, then do dp and I (both female) have to get someone round specially to do it? Or ask 2 year old ds to do it, perhaps.

ChukkyPig I do believe you are right, I shall now blame dh's inability to pick up after himself/close doors/ remember anything for more than a nano second on MIL and drugs combo. She does that thing of giving dh lots of sympathy for being tired because he has to go to work (bless) whilst I clearly need no sleep at all because I'm only looking after the baby (agghh)

Blaming the MIL always a winner isn't it!

And the alternative is to face up to fact DH is a bit of a lazy arse. Which would mean I should try and get him to do stuff, which, although he always follows instructions happily, is a real bore.

So I end up doing most of the housework. Hmmm my argument there has something funny going on with it. I can't be bothered to get him to do housework?

He clearly is a lot craftier than I realised!

Hmmm... well, leading on from this whole thing, I simply said to DH that I was fed up with feeling stepford and here is a list of new house rules (some applicable to both of us, some to the kids, and some to all of us).
Lo and behold (after making a joke of it), DH cooked dinner, put the plates in the dishwasher and tidied up the kitchen (the latter is nothing short of a miracle, even on good days).
So that told me. Wasn't being unreasonable to be annoyed, but equally wasn't doing anything about it (it had deteriorated over a period of time).
Let's see how long it continues - just cos he can be slack on this front - but rather than getting pissed off about it I will simply give him a gentle reminder.

That idea has crossed my mind before....

Glad he has done his stuff, let's hope he sticks to it!

lol angels. Clearly ds is the man for the job

It's not a man thing my DH does all thise thing on the list. He is much tidier than I am. Putting the Rubbish out is not a mans job.