no i am not... men (in fact the male species) why can't they

[readyforbed]

1. put the toilet seat down
2. put stuff in the dishwasher rather than on the counter
3. not leave empty packages in the fridge
4. not leave underwear on the floor
5. not leave damp towels on the floor
6. put their shoes away
7. just in general clean up over themselves

The list goes on, but these are the things that have really irritated me walking around the house for the last 2 mins. and to make it worse my DH doesn't even put the bins out (which everyone, including all his male friends, agree is a man job). Rant over - feel better now, ready to go and tidy the place up, I would leave it but my tolerance factor is much lower than his, and I don't want to deal with the all consuming 'man-clean' and the grump that goes with it when it finally gets too much for him.

But you've just slagged off half of the population

Ahhh the man clean, yup, DH does that. He will spend a whole day once every few week blasting the flat and making it look fab, but I spend every day just trying to make a dent in the washing and generally keep the chaos at bay and it looks like I have done nothing!

Sorry - did I just step into the 50s??

Putting the bin out is a man's job???

My dh is a SAHD. We share the housework ie he does all the stuff he can see (dishes, hoovering washing) and I do the dusting, bathroom etc.

It really gets on my wick when people turn housework into an excuse to slag off men.

If I've categorised you as anything, it is solely based upon what you have written on this thread.

If the pinny fits...

I can't bear sexism from men or women.

I tried to convince dh once that cleaning hte dogs toilet area must be a mans job ( we have 3 giant dogs) but he wouldnt have it.

Hercules that was a sarcastic "incapable" LOL

I now put the loo roll out not for HIM but because it not being there inconveniences ME too

I have always vowed not to be my mum and run around after a man and tbh he does pull his weight most of the time...and will definately hear about it if he is not.

Hubby expects the house to be tidier than I do - he knows where the hoover is if its not up to his standards.

readyforbed - this thread is called AIBU...

Not "I need my head patted and a nice mug of Horlicks cos I haven't trained my husband properly"

Ohh I thought we were just having a larf, now the angry people are here im off

Im quite often the only girl out with the boys and if you think they dont have "women" sexist conversations you are fooling yourself

Well, it's making me laugh!

ahh. that's where i am going wrong then, didn't realise that men had to be trained, like pets.
ok, general concensus then is that i ABU a) on the generalisation and b)cos the situation just shouldn't happen. I can live with that.

Actually, despite the charming tone of some of the remarks, it has made me think and I am going to introduce some house rules. If I get to DS1&2 quick enough (i think there is still enough time...) then maybe they will grow into tidiers without it being an issue.

BTW - on the 'bin' topic - most of the blokes I know agree it is a man's job. Clearly isn't in our house as I do it (cue lot's more sarcasm...?)

Why can't women leave the toilet seat up?

Do people really get annoyed about this?

The bin is DH's job in our house. Not because I am squemish but because it is heavy and I would have to take it down two flights of stairs and across the carpark and I am afraid I am just too lazy for that . I'm not saying it is a man's job, it's just DH's job just as buying birthday presents is my job, not sexist we are both just better our respective jobs.

YANBU!

Generalising is allowed, esp out of frustration.

FWIW, my DH doesn't do most of the things on your list too, and normally its because he is thinking about something completely different. He's not much of a multitasker.

My generalisation is that there is a specific type of person who just doesn't notice that they aren't putting their washing up in the dishwasher / pants in the laundry basket. I happen to be married to one, but have some of those tendencies myself.. I think you can "train" it out of yourself / someone else, but its a bit of a depressing concept isn't it.

"didn't realise that men had to be trained, like pets"

LOL....keep the commands specific and simple.

The loo seat thing is aesthetics really isnt it...every time I clen the loo one of my boys re pebble dashes it...so I can either clean it again (which sorry is too far into Stepford Street for me) or request it is kept shut.

I only stress about these things when I have PMT and then tbh I have a major meltdown even if my biscuit breaks in half when I take it out of the packet.

You see, I said someone would suggest training!

ive had a dead mayfly in my bath since Sunday...we have even all gathered around it to discuss exactly what it is/was

does that mean no-one in your house has had a bath since sunday?!

you know, my DH never does anything to irritate me except once a month, or more precisely, for about 3days a month!!!

he is untidy, but it never bothers me unless I am hormonal, so a grump and moan and throw things-- pick up after him, and then it all calms down and we are happy again, him in his pit, me in my shiny house.

as for the dishwasher, he cannot ever load it right so he now avoids it!!!

oh, and bins are a blue job

See now keeping the loo seat down is a health and safety issue. Men have nothing to lose putting it down, and when they look down to pee they can see it and think "ooh must put the seat up" but if we women don't realise it is up and sit down - ouch!

readyforbed--are you married to my husband????

The one thing he does that pisses me off (and he knows it, and I think he does it on purpose now) is leave his clothes right in front of the dirty clothes basket, not in it in front of it.

Or when he cooks he leaves garbage and things like onion peels in the sink not in the garbage can that is directly below the sink.

To be fair to men, when my father died my mom said that she really missed cleaning up the stuff he left all over even though when he was alive she complained about it all the time. They were married for 31 years and he was never fully trained.

Readyforbed - I've just read your list. Are we married to the same man ??????

My DH is rubbish at all housework related things, but the one thing that I can add to your list is --

He never puts anything in the bin

Drives me bloody mad.

P.S I also have to heave the bins out every week!

LOL we all shower...the bath is just a white elephant that takes up too much room really dont know why we even put it in.