To stop chucking neighbours kids ball back?

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I have had a lot of issues with the neighbours kids since we all moved here.

The kids are 5 and 7.

They are loud, used to trespass all over my property, look into my windows and just generally cause a nuisance until big plant pots went up.

They bang in my door at 8pm in the evening waking my kids up demanding their ball back.

I wanted to remain friendly with the mum and would take delivery of her parcels, do her bin when she was at work/holiday.

I never got a thank you so I stopped doing it.
Her kids used to say “hello” but now they just blank us.

The football has been over the fence a lot of the summer and when I have been able to (have toddlers) I have always thrown it back over the fence.

I have stopped the parcels and bins and now when the ball goes over I am tempted not to throw it back given that they all just blank us now.

The balls are back in the garden again after I threw it back over last night.

AIBU?

I was going to suggest something similar.

YANBU. Is this the woman who said you
should keep doing her bins?

Next time a call comes, pierce it and and send it back flat.

The balls will stop coming.

Next time they come at 8pm tell them that’s it’s very late and they are waking up the babies and to please not to knock the door. If they do it again don’t answer, and talk to the mum the next day explaining about the late night knocking.

I would stop taking the parcels and not answer the door in the evenings but throw the balls back over at my convenience, maybe every other day. Maybe you could deliver the balls back at 11pm or 5am, hammering on their door and just handing them back without a word. If they moan about the time then simply ask what the problem is as you are returning their property that their children keep leaving in your garden, suggest in future that you could always dispose of them as it is littering your space

Kids are kids man. You sound like a horrible neighbour.

If you are moving I'd just stop taking the parcels but throw the balls over. Make it clear to the children they are not to bang your door after a certain time.

With my horrible ex neighbours I was happy to throw the ball back. But I stopped having their numerous parcels after the one time I wasn't in and they wouldn't take mine. I'm not the holding bay.

You could always get a bit confused, throw the parcels back over the fence and put the balls by their front door………

I wouldn’t throw the ball over. When they knock on I would say ‘Sorry, I’m busy at the moment. I’ll throw it back over when I get the chance but it might not be for a few days.’ Hopefully if they realise they’re not going to get the ball back on their terms and only when you’re ready they will be more careful.

I would look at the kids fiercely and say 'if you knock on my door again after teatime I will puncture every ball hat comes over the fence. Do you understand?'

Christ a lot of talk of popping kids balls, what a bloody miserable bunch you are. When we had this problem I just said to the kids, please don’t knock, just go and get it yourself but please close the gate behind you. Whatever issue you may have with the parents, the kids are just kids.

Fill the ball with dog shit, then send it back.
(No...don't! You're moving very soon. Keep smiling and don't tell the incoming purchaser)

@softlyfallsthesnow totally agree. I had this in my old house. Always threw it over 5 mins later it was back. Even caught them
trying to climb over my fence once. Knocking on the door constantly got to the point I didnt want to be in the house cos it was a constant ball coming over and knocking for it. The mum was a waste of time, speaking to her did nothing.

For not wanting to do something for a neighbour who has no manners??

Yeah, what a nasty person OP is 😂😂

No wonder there are so many people pleasers about with comments like this

Wow! Imagine being nasty to a 5 year old

Give the ball back. When your kids are older, their ball will going in others garden.

Do you have a garden the other side and or behind? chuck their ball into one of those.
say it went straight over . Maybe they’ll get fed up of having to hunt for it!

I wouldn’t bother with the bin, neighbour at work or on holiday…….and I would be refusing to accept any parcels too. If the neighbour can’t be arsed to say thanks when collecting packages then she doesn’t deserve the neighbourly interaction required. Let her arrange a re-delivery or have stuff taken to a drop off point.
As for the balls………..collect them up and return on a weekly basis.

Your post is so petty.

So the kids stepped on your drive while playing and looked in your window? Gosh, how traumatic for you. Please tell me they didn't shudders smile at you? Or worse... WAVE?? 🤦‍♀️

And at 5 and 7, they don't have perfect ball control and accidentally knock the ball into your garden occasionally? Have you consideted callingthe police?! This is serious!

You should probably demand that they stop playing outside altogether and just sit silently inside on the iPad with headphones on so you never have to face the hideous ordeal of hearing the laughter of a child.

Even with your meldramatic language (kids "banging" on the door - do you mean knocking?) you're still coming across as incredibly petty.

Just throw the ball back, this is SUCH a non issue. It sounds like you're pissed off with the mum for not being friendly enough and wanting to stir up trouble.

I’d say throw them back during the day but tell them if the knock past (insert time of your choice) and wake your babies up you will not be throwing them back anymore.

Wowzers you sound like a lot of fun

Puncturing it is criminal damage isnt it?

Tbh I'd just keep chucking them back over. I hate my neighbours, and they hate me, but we still throw the balls backs over into the others garden, or let the kids go and get them when they knock.

I don’t understand all this angst about children’s balls. How petty are you? You say you are moving shortly too. It’s amazing what kinds of “issues” take up people’s brain space.

This

And just chuck the balls back when you’re passing.

Ah yes, she might call the police and then the OP would be in BIG TROUBLE 🚔