Sexist comments after he parked in front of my garage

[Littleluv]

We live in an Edwardian property with a back lane. We live in the double upper at number 8 and have a garage/the back garden. Our downstairs neighbour is lovely and we park across our garage and she parks along the rest of the garden wall. The rest of the properties on the back lane have the same set up.
However, the downstairs neighbour at number 6 (next door but we live on the even side of the street) has taken to parking across our garage and the garden wall. This means we either cannot access our garage and neither us or the downstairs neighbour can park along the remainder of the garden wall. This is despite the area of the back lane behind his property being free and when someone else is parked in his bit (very rarely) there isn’t really any rhyme or reason. There is also a side street where you can park and if for any reason a tradesperson or another car is parked there we would just park here.

Today I drove up and he was parked over our garage I have a 14 week old baby and she was asleep in the back. My downstairs neighbour is away so I was able to back up and park in her usual spot. He comes out to get something from his car he then looks at me and heads back in… I call after him and ask him to not park across our garage. He then says someone is parked outside his usual spot and I say well that doesn’t really have much to do with you being over my garage. He says well he just parks where there is a space and I say to him well our understanding and everyone else’s (he is the only problem neighbour) is that if the space behind your garden is taken you park in the side street you don’t then continue to inconvenience your neighbours. I also explain we have the baby and need to get her in and out. The spot where he parks is also entirely overgrown with weeds and brambles. I say to him that if he thinks it’s a free for all he should also clear that so people can get in and out the car if he chooses to park where he likes. My other half cleared the area for both ourselves and the downstairs neighbour and I think this is why he likes to park there! He then says no he doesn’t want to do that as it encourages people to park there…… I am at a loss at this point he then says “what do you want out of this conversation” I’m like for you to stop parking in front of my garage!

He then says that I am getting emotional and he understands I have just had a baby and the hormones are probably having an effect on my emotions and I am probably having issues at home. I AM BLOWN AWAY. I have zero idea why he had to get personal. He is also looking at me like I’m a total weirdo.

I tell him to stop being patronising and to just stop parking in front of my garage and he says he will park where he likes… I’m like cool you do what you want as what the hell else can I say… he then says thank you for giving me your permission. I said stop trying to get the last word and stop parking there! He then again says I know you have your baby and that is probably making you struggle because well actually I won’t say anything else with a smug look on his face. I think trying to insinuate I was nuts due to being postpartum. He then turns away and this is the kicker DOES NOT MOVE HIS CAR. Also he didn’t get anything out his car so I think it was just a power move. I am 30 and I would say he is max 37 so don’t think this is an excuse of being from a different generation ie sexism and being horrible to mothers is normal.

My other half is away but will be having words with him when he gets back. Thoughts on this scenario?

Ooo, you could have a craft night and make caltrops, um, bird spikes.

Tubing, a drill, and nails.

well how many posts on here usually have 'not sure if I am being hormonal' in the first 1 or 2 sentences and women have a go at men (and anyone is the vicinity) as they need to be understanding because of hormones, how many women blame hormones for everything?

yes people should not park where they are not supposed to but your op comes across as very dramatic and what has age got to do with it?

I'd do absolutely nothing to his car, as he'll only do worse back to yours.

But I would call the police to tow his car (he's not allowed to block a garage), every single time. If the police don't want to, keep on at them and remind them of whatever offense he is committing. Although, I would check first that he could not get you towed for the same thing - not sure if it's still an obstruction or blocking access if it's your own car/garage.

But as others have covered, he's an utter cunt, and I'd be sending your DH round to have a word. He'll not be so smug when it's a man dealing with him.

I'd probably also call the police to do a welfare check on his partner, telling them you suspect DA - however, that could make things worse for her, so not sure if that's a good idea.

You lost me at the suggestion that the older generations are horrible to mothers.

Arse parked across my driveway (marked with yellow.line by council) so I let down one of his tyres. Then went back and let down the other on same side. Then turned lights off, and later watched the AA tow him away.

If you and a friend get on opposite sides, you could bounce his car up and down and shove it sideways. Just for kicks.

Superglue in car locks used to work. Potato rammed up the exhaust. Oil on the windowscreen. Milk spilt on fabric.
None of this is advisable as he knows where you live etc.

Best option....getting council acknowledgement of your garage access and figure out how to protect that. Who knows...it may even improve your house value given what an ordeal parking can be.

Woooow… well I’ll tell you first I’m actually not a hormonal wreck I’ve never been like that. Never suffered from tricky periods and I was serene during pregnancy. If someone was parked over your drive/garage would you not be a bit pissed off when you do it so brazenly and somehow think they are in the right? My baby sleeps through the night she’s a little dream. Me struggling with hormones, PND or lack of sleep is not a thing. I also think women are inherently made to feel their dislike or annoyance is not valid by men and the first thing certain (and I mean certain) MEN will say is usually is she on her period as a sexist demeaning comment to diminish and discourage women to stand up for themselves.

No there is a type of man who would say this and they usually are older. The type that also think women should be quiet and not speak up. The type that would make some comment on a pregnant woman being fat or that women cannot be in government due to them having periods. We all know this type so don’t be obtuse.

Hahaha honestly I think destroying his car would do them a favour as I mean it when I say it is a very bad car… but no I won’t be causing any permanent damage to the vehicle! Thank you for the suggestions though!

We already have the acknowledgement if you look at my previous posts there is also a thing in Scotland called prescription so if a right of access has been used for 20 years with no challenge this right becomes a legal right. The house is over 120 years old and there has been garage access for around 90.

Can you park in 'his' space? Drive over the weeds etc ?

You can’t drive over the weeds because he’s let it get to such a state that it’s bramble and full of thorns so I’d scratch my car and also wouldn’t be able to get baby out.

It would be a real shame if his car got scratched by you trying to squeeze past with your pushchair.

Or if he came back to find that you'd written "don't park in front of my garage again you twat" on his windscreen in greasy Chapstick.

This, but say 'sorry, I'm far too emotional with baby hormones to move the car'

then says that I am getting emotional and he understands I have just had a baby and the hormones are probably having an effect on my emotions and I am probably having issues at home

OMG that would have made me feel murderous 😂
"You wanna see hormones, mate?! Then STITCH THIS!" <smack> 😁
(In reality I'd just stand gob flapping open as I don't do confrontation well lol)
Block him in repeatedly and feign innocence. "Oh sorry, it's my baby brain again, I forgot."
Knob. Him, not you

You need to put copious amounts of bird seed out there. Hopefully it won't land on his car... bird shit it such a pain to wash off!

Oh, that sounds like a ‘Must read’! Brilliant.

All this tosh we see about ‘emotional’ or ‘hormonal’ women, when I’d reckon it’s excessive testosterone (not to mention all that really iffy steroidy crap gyms seem to be dealing to young men, along with the coke) that is behind the crisis of male violence we live with these days. Some of these blokes will deck you (or very much worse) as soon as look at you. If they dialled down their hair trigger hormones, we all would feel a great deal more serene.

Need a diagram.

Why not park outside his garage if he's parking outside yours?

He doesn’t have one - he has a much cheaper and smaller property. Otherwise I would absolutely be doing that!

This. Wouldn’t it be a shame if you blocked him in then didn’t move your car for a few days

Then say you don’t remember doing it and blame it on the hormones 🤣

is it a squeeze to get out of your garage because of his car? Would be awful if it caused you to drop a box of screws! If anyone has cameras make sure you are seen to check that you’ve picked them all up…. Except the few nearest his tyres.

Paint your garage door with the words “parking for x (your) house. Aside from when the tiny cocked wanker from no6 parks across our drive in his shitty green (carname) because he’s not man enough to weed his own parking space. Make sure you beep/wave/commiserate for his short comings when you drive/walk past”.

He's a piece of dirt.

Surely his car can be towed if it's blocking access to your garage?

Infuriating