Giving up HA home due to neighbours

[coconutss]

I am really fed up of living here as none of my neighbours on my side in the cul de sac speak to me.

Even the young kids used to say hello to me and now the parents have told them to stop saying hello as now none of them speak to me.

It is an awful atmosphere as I am just blanked whilst they all talk amongst themselves.

They have a WhatsApp group where they all slag me of apparently.

All this because I made a firm and put some privet hedging up as my driveway was a playground and people (including the mothers) would walk in front of my windows trespassing.

I have young kids that would often be woken up by the constant screaming and shouting by these kids on my driveway.

This went on for months and I had to pay a lot of money for these hedges and to get someone to plant them in.

Another neighbour opposite was quite open in her complaint to the HA as they threw a toy at one of the car windows and and she went mental and told the parents she was reporting them so it’s not just me.

I never reported the kids I just took measures to stop them from annoying me.

It seems if you stand up for yourself nobody talks to you around here.

I am desperate to move as every time I go past I am ignored and if they are talking it goes quiet.

I have asked the HA for an exchange but they refused.

I work from home and DP works, it will be a stretch but I will be a lot happier in the long run.

AIBU to give this house up?
Am I in the wrong? I have never been nasty to anyone and been respectful.

I feel like I am back at school again.

Don’t give up the house. Just ignore the problem neighbours and keep to yourself. If they don’t talk to you and you don’t talk to them, so what? They don’t matter.

It’s like 4 neighbours all on my row.
Both immediate neighbours, one who was OK with me just ignores me now for no reason.

Mutual exchange?

I wouldn't give up your security because of that. What happens if you move and there's issues with neighbours there too?

Just ignore them.

I wouldn't give up the house just for that OP. But that sounds like bliss to me.

Get yourself down for an exchange if you're determined.

Don't give up the house, it is your security.

I'd involve my MP about a transfer - does the HA have a policy on when a transfer is allowed? If so, are they following it?

Absolutely not. Your priority needs to be long term secure housing for your family.

You could move and your next door neighbours could be even worse and you have jeopardise your financial position.

Either try for a mutual exchange or do everything you can to buy.

Foesnt your HA have a swap site?

I wouldn't give up your house. Ignore them, you put the hedges up anyway to keep them out so just don't let the rest of it get to you. They might move anyway.

Head held high OP. Don’t move and ignore them. If the house is perfect in every other way leave the neighbours to their childish playground antics.

Either you’ll eventually move for other reasons, they’ll stop being idiots eventually or they’ll move and you’ll have been there longer than any newcomers.

Because buying your home ensures no scummy neighbours??

Sounds bliss.. Not having to engage in mindless chatter with awful people..
Invite playmates over for dd and enjoy the peace..leave the WhatsApp chat... Their loss.

Just smile and nod at them whenever you see them and go about your own business.

Whatever they say and do says everything about them, nothing about you.

Don't give up a HA home to private rent. You have some security with a HA. You have none private renting. I would kill it with kindness. I would smile and offer pleasantries to everyone. If they want to be dicks that's on them. As long as they aren't vandalising your shit I wouldn't go anywhere. Besides you don't know who your going to end up with when you move. I have a musical family on one side drumming/ playing piano/ guitar at stupid o'clock. I had to knock at 2 am and 5an before. The other sidei have a HMO. All the rooms are rented to single me. They are 💯 drug dealing from there. I have contacted the landlord on several occasions because the place stinks of scunk from 24/7.

You need to change your life so you are not seeing them - I mean are they standing at their front doors in headscarves and curlers waiting g for you to pass so they can talk about you? Leave the house at different times, just don’t look their way. Get earphones and some great music - this will pass over time if you give no response ,stay away from them. They’ll find something else to bitch. Out

Don’t let them force you out ! Just walk past with your head held high and focus on your family and building a home - you wanted to stop them coming across the front of your property and it’s worked

I live in a private rented terrace. For a few years the street was filled with screaming kids who would bang on doors and run away. Screech and ride bikes for long, long, summer hours. Singing, football, fights, tears and on and on.
They grew up. The street is quiet again.
Next year will be better @coconutss stick with it. It will pass.

Terraced house here. I never speak to my neighbours. Don't even know their names, I know one is a doctor. Why is it such an issue?

You are being excluded but excluded from what? A group of people who don’t sound very pleasant? Let it go. I’ve got a neighbour who loathes me and won’t speak to me. It’s a huge relief, frankly.

Do not give up the house!! You will literally kick yourself for it later trust me!!! Just try and ignore the behaviour, I live in housing association and I’ve had two complaints since being here I have no idea why because what has been said is a load of rubbish I just keep myself to myself smile when smiled at its very frustrating but I’ve learnt the hard way not being friendly with neighbours in the past, trust me it won’t last forever it will eventually be forgotten.

YABU why would you let them win like that.

Just carry on doing you.

They will find something else to occupy their time soon enough.

You can either blank them back or be pleasant and act like there’s no issues.

I dont know my neighbours and im in a block of flats.
My last home everyone new each other and always gossiping swapping numbers yeah that crap is not me.

I don’t even know who the neighbours are in my cul de sac. It’s wonderful. I absolutely love coming and going freely without being accosted by anyone. Perhaps try to get a shift in perspective. It’s absolute bliss not being spoken to by the neighbours at times.

Think hard and long before you move. Someone is on your side. They have told you about the Whatsapp group. There may be other neighbours who feel as you do. As some one said, just kill them with kindness. Smile. If you get a chance, ask best one what the matter is why are they blanking you. Good luck and sorry that you are in this situation

I gave up my HA flat and moved into private renting because of nightmare neighbours, I’ve never regretted it.