To expect aggressive dogs to be secured prior to visit?

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My Dd (10) is a little nervous around dogs. We have encouraged her to combine boldness with caution and to be sensible around unknown dogs.

One of the reasons for her timidity is my PIL dogs. From a young age they have been around her unrestrained; pinning her to the wall and nosing her face at 18mo, barking at her til she leaves the couch and they take the spot. One of them is a known biter, they took it on because it bit the previous owner's child and they wanted to rehabilitate it. It is extremely aggressive, and lunged for Dd last time. My husband got between them and was bitten on the leg. We demanded they secured the dog while we were there or we'd have to leave.

We are visiting next week and I'm dreading the dog vs gc battle. I know it is their home but AIBU to expect them to secure the dogs for the duration of our visit. It's only a weekend

@Anon501178 RTFT

Agree with your decision. Alternative if not a long distance would be to meet somewhere just for lunch in a public place.

We are visiting next week

WHY??? They have clearly shown that they value their nasty, bitey animals over your daughter, their granddaughter! There is no way I would be taking a child into that house and would be telling them exactly why.

Poor child and stupid in laws. Children don’t gain confidence around badly behaved dogs.
The child comes first imo and I am a dog owner.

OP has already said they're going to stay away.

YABU for not organising to have the dog put down. It was being "rehabilitated" after it bit a child, then it bit your husband. That dog needs to be PTS and you should report it as a dangerous dog if no one else does

YABU to expose your child to this shit. No one needs a relationship with GPs. It's nice to have. But then so is a face.

If they won't prioritise your child, you must

YABU to keep taking your child to this place! OMG. Your duty as a parent is to protect the safety of your child above all else. I can't believe you were going to take your child. YABVU!

I agree, it's not like dogs are an endangered species. There's no good reason to keep dogs that behave like that around.

Yes I think we've established this point, but that's not what I asked is it? I asked if it was unreasonable to have them secure the dogs, and I've since said I'm not going.

I came here for reassurance, not for you to bash me. I've acknowledged I've made a bad decision previously and have implemented change.

No, it's not unreasonable to ask for the dogs to be secured, ideally they would be secure in a different part of the home.

However for a weekend it is probably not realistic nor practical for the dog owners.

so yes your best option is not to visit.

OP, your child is not safe in that home and is lucky to still have her face intact from what you've written. This is a child safety issue and potentially a matter for the vet, dog warden and police in the future.

yep its brood parasitism. they have prioritised their awful vicious dog over her child. absolutely insane!