Mothers chihuahua ate half of my babies grape

[Anonymous23458d]

Just as the title states.. I took my boys 1 and 3 years old to my mothers. She never makes the effort to visit us i see her every other week. She lives with my two other older siblings and my dad. Last year they've bought another chihuahua that is just crazy. They don't train it it bites my children and now my baby is crawling it bites his face and is vicious, it steals food and items and growls when I try and get them. They don't do anything to help just idolise this dog. They have about a 2 metre crate for it, which I have to put it in when it gets vicious with my children.
I went because my eldest loves my older sister who lives there and loves seeing her. I was feeding my one year old downstairs whilst the dog was upstairs. I didn't realise the dog ran down and at the same time my baby threw one half of a grape then another one and the dog ran and ate them up. My sister and mum started screaming and rang the vet who said they must rush her down. All the while so hostile and angry at me when I said I didn't realise and im sorry. I know dogs cant eat grapes but I have a baby and toddler and thought the dog was upstairs. It's hard to manage in basically a glass house with so many ornaments and crap everywhere. It's the opposite of baby proof which I don't expect it to be but she doesn't even help me one bit when I come round. My mum only has interest in her new dog not her grandchildren. She has now sent me the receipt for £105 she's had to pay to make the dog be sick at the vets. I am not paying it and for one don't have that money. AiBu?

Honestly firstly mums been unfair. You always prioritise kids over dogs if a dog is unpredictable you put it out of the way while a child's around. Secondly my dog has eaten nearly a full box of grapes and I was just asked to watch her for a while and she was fine (Yorkie) so it's OTY too rush her to the vet it takes more than a couple to make them ill.

OP, there is no way I'd take my children back to a house where they were bitten on the face by a dog. Regardless if it was my DM or not.

I would not be taking my child over there with such an out of control dog. The dog may be small but they can be viscous and can cause alot of damage. I'd be too scared, (and annoyed), to go anymore.

Sadly it seems to sound like your mum doesn't want to be involved in your child's life anyway, and by extension yours, so I would loathe to be making any effort with her.

Also, you shouldn't need to pay for the vets bill - you're telling me the dog became that ill after eating the equivalent of a grape?
I'd be questioning that vets bill if you even want to go down that route. It was simply a situation that occured by mistake!
Your mum should be apologising to YOU for the dogs behaviour!

If it's only your sister you're concerned with seeing, then she could also make the effort to come to yours or meet you out.

Also, your family should make the home safer for your child. They don't need to put all their stuff away but they could make some simple yet effective changes. Though, like I said, I wouldn't be going anymore anyway.

Tbh if someone showed no interest in my child, I would in turn show no interest in them.

Apart from anything else this is cruel to the dog. It needs exercise and doesn’t appear to get any at all so acts aggressively. As the owner of chihuahuas I know this will happen . But they can inflict nasty bites so keep the dog caged near your children until it is properly trained.

Tbh OP, I'd have stopped going round the first time the dog snapped at my crawling baby's face! That's completely outrageous!

I wouldn't be taking my children there, she obviously thinks more of her dogs than her grandchildren. And as for the grape incident.....although grapes are bad or toxic for dogs, I don't think eating two halves would do any damage and rushing to the vet was totally unnecessary and I wouldn't be paying the bill either.

It drew blood on adults
multiple times

It should be destroyed. Causing injuries repeatedly should be game over.

Are you serious?! It's a chihuahua puppy, not an adult Rotweiler. It's probably not much larger than a guinea pig.

I wouldn't bother visiting at all.. and don't pay they need to train their dogs properly .

And how does the baby defend itself against this pointless creature ?

It needs its teeth filing off, mandible removing, or its life ending. A pointless dog.

Don't pay the bill.

If you must continue visiting, insist that the dog is crated for the entirety of your visit without exception.

Oh bore off, or at least recognise that the problem is the owner who isn't meeting her dog's basic needs. He needs a new home with an owner prepared to treat him like a real animal with needs, who would have communicated his needs LONG before a bite happened. And one who is sensible enough to keep him and children separated. He does not need mutilating, what a gross thing to say.

The child needs not being taken into a household where a dog with a bite history resides and whose owner won't ensure that he is kept away from the child.

I’m fine thanks (well apart from recovering from a broken ankle!)

Your children however…. Aren’t

Do you not know when to give it a rest?

Happy as I am
Not happy to think of kids with the dog and indeed around this screaming family with “toxic codependencies” but each to their own

Oh dear

I really do pity these children

the apple doesn’t fall from from the tree it would appear

YABU... in taking your children to a household where you know there are aggressive, uncontrolled, resource guarding dogs.

Everything else that has occurred in the house could have been avoided by you being responsible enough for your children not to take them there.

It is only the children in this environment I’m concerned about

a grandmother like this
a mother who takes them to a house with a dog that has bitten every member of the family and even drawn blood
the screaming and toxicity and arguments

hellish

And as this thread demonstrates, every other poster is also concerned

Why has 'dont act with solictude for my family. You're not a nice person dont pretend to be' to @returnofjude been deleted ?

I can assure you I didn’t report it!!