Mothers chihuahua ate half of my babies grape

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Just as the title states.. I took my boys 1 and 3 years old to my mothers. She never makes the effort to visit us i see her every other week. She lives with my two other older siblings and my dad. Last year they've bought another chihuahua that is just crazy. They don't train it it bites my children and now my baby is crawling it bites his face and is vicious, it steals food and items and growls when I try and get them. They don't do anything to help just idolise this dog. They have about a 2 metre crate for it, which I have to put it in when it gets vicious with my children.
I went because my eldest loves my older sister who lives there and loves seeing her. I was feeding my one year old downstairs whilst the dog was upstairs. I didn't realise the dog ran down and at the same time my baby threw one half of a grape then another one and the dog ran and ate them up. My sister and mum started screaming and rang the vet who said they must rush her down. All the while so hostile and angry at me when I said I didn't realise and im sorry. I know dogs cant eat grapes but I have a baby and toddler and thought the dog was upstairs. It's hard to manage in basically a glass house with so many ornaments and crap everywhere. It's the opposite of baby proof which I don't expect it to be but she doesn't even help me one bit when I come round. My mum only has interest in her new dog not her grandchildren. She has now sent me the receipt for £105 she's had to pay to make the dog be sick at the vets. I am not paying it and for one don't have that money. AiBu?

Op they sound awful ,dramatically cut the time back and go for shorter periods , don't let DC loose ...spend less time there.

Well I hope you cutted up the grapes for the poor baby as they are a choking hazard.
Especially for one that is only crawling.

Ffs I despair sometimes. RTFT!!!!

I have read it thanks.
FFS yourself.
The reference to “cutted up” clearly flew over your head. Assume you haven’t been around here for that long.

I thought the same about the Vet
And I remember when dogs ate anything and survived.

Is this not an over reaction on the vets part, Our chihuahua ate a bit of a chocolate egg and the vet just told me to keep an eye on him.

I wouldn’t visit at all. Let them come to you. The dog might be small but there are lots of red flags here that it could hurt your child.

Also, if the grape was seedless there is no risk to the dog. It’s the seeds and not the fruit that cause problems.

Rubbish. Not supporting the OP's ridiculous family, but grapes in all forms are toxic to dogs - nothing to do with the seeds.
https://www.thekennelclub.org.uk/health-and-dog-care/health/health-and-care/a-z-of-health-and-care-issues/can-dogs-eat-grapes/

Let's not get into blaming the vet here. Every vet that I have ever used would have given an opinion and options - my current pup also accidentally ingested some grapes, I got an opinion from the vet which was that at his size and the amount ingested, observation was sufficient, but they could induce vomiting if I wanted. Given what the OP has said about the owners they would probably have insised on treatment rather than caution.

And I am 67 - I remember lots of things, but one of them is dogs that were sick or didn't survive after eating things they shouldn't. Just because most survived doesn't make eating something toxic good or desireable. Would you eat salads sprinkled with Deadly Nightshade just because it didn't kill everyone who ate it?

The vet was no doubt faced with this pair of hysterical shouting banshees in his waiting room (no doubt the family already known to him and his colleagues already, and not fondly!) and ushered them in to a treatment rooms and did the treatment just to make them STFU

This is madness.
Focus on building your own life with your children. Who cares if your eldest likes your sister - she’s a bad influence and not the role model you need!

This is how generational stereotyping repeats itself. You need to stand up to the family for your own children to have a better life.

I think the poster was referring to this thread in "classics". It's very funny - maybe read it and lighten up

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/mumsnetclassics/1301196-If-my-3yo-had-access-to-AIBU

Google now comes up with a very silly AI summary of it when you search for it.

I voted yabu because you are willing to put your two small children in a space with a vicious dog who bites! I’d tell your mother to shove the dog, the receipt and the grape up her arse tbh, there are babies and toddlers crawling round so why not shove the ratty dog in its crate for both kids and dogs sake. I absolutely would not be going again!

YANBU but

your mother is being unfair not to put the dog away for a couple of hours and

her vet is being very unfair pretending a single grape was a problem (money grabbing). Our Pom is given a grape now and then that he dribbles around the kitchen like a premier league footballer and occasionally eats one if I accidentally step on it destroying his footy game.

As a fellow dog owner, I really do not think you are being remotely unreasonable. This is the responsibility of all the adults in that house who were not feeding a baby at the time. They should know to keep the dog away. My dog is currently shut away whilst my toddler has dinner for this exact reason. Neither the toddler nor the dog can be trusted. And that’s not your fault!!!

As a dog handler, this dog is a danger and needs to be reported to the Police/RSPCA. You are complicit in its behaviour, if you do not.

You have a duty to protect your children from this dog. Stop taking them there. You are a 2nd thought...just a womb to pop out grandkids they couldn't give a damn about. Why allow your mental health to deteriorate due to this abusive home?

Cut them out. You'll breathe a breath of fresh air once you go no contact.

Everyone sounds highly strung , including the dog !
So it’s a nippy chihuahua that is poorly trained , you took your children, they threw grapes which can be bad for dogs ( but not necessarily as not all dogs even react to grapes ) that necessitated a vet visit and a large vet bill .
It is an accident I don’t think I’d be asking you to pay the bill but I would expect you to never bring grapes , raisins , sultanas or anything containing that to the house .
Can they not come to you or crate the dog when you’re there ?
It needs walks, socialised and training so I’d not really like a dog like that around my kids

I voted YABU because like many others, I don't understand why you would take your DCs there when a dog has previously bitten them. Let your siblings visit you and your mother mother her dog. Having said that, a thrown grape would appeal to most dogs, whether badly behaved or not and eating grapes would make them ill. I would probably offer to pay half the vet bill and never visit again whilst the children are small.

If you feel you should pay the bill, do. If not, don't.
However, the most important thing in this story is you shouldn't put yourself out to visit these awful people, even though they're your family.
Invite the sister your dc likes to visit you, or meet her in a café.

Reminds me of those old Sunday Sport headlines! “Three inch dog ate my missus” etc. If only this was as made up as those though - poor OP, her mother sounds as bonkers as mine.

Are you the scapegoat child OP? Is your sister the golden child?
I've been a scapegoat in the past. Had family flip out at me over nothing. You won't change your mother and sister by being nice and making an effort. They should welcome you and baby with open arms, and put the bloody dog away.

You are nbu as far as it goes but why in the name of god are you taking your kids to this madhouse! Just don't.

Wtf is wrong with you taking your kids there? What if your DC lost an eye from being bitten? If your sister is so wonderful why cant she visit you?I would decline paying the vet bill but I would offer to pay to have it euthanised instead. What batshit crazy people.

They are abusing this dog. It doesn't go for walks/get exercise, barely goes outside, isn't trained, and is spoiled so that it feels it is the leader of the household, which is a terrifying feeling for a dog. They shouldn't have it and no kids should be brought around it because an animal treated like that isn't safe.

Never visit her again. I wouldn't be paying either