Mothers chihuahua ate half of my babies grape

[Anonymous23458d]

Just as the title states.. I took my boys 1 and 3 years old to my mothers. She never makes the effort to visit us i see her every other week. She lives with my two other older siblings and my dad. Last year they've bought another chihuahua that is just crazy. They don't train it it bites my children and now my baby is crawling it bites his face and is vicious, it steals food and items and growls when I try and get them. They don't do anything to help just idolise this dog. They have about a 2 metre crate for it, which I have to put it in when it gets vicious with my children.
I went because my eldest loves my older sister who lives there and loves seeing her. I was feeding my one year old downstairs whilst the dog was upstairs. I didn't realise the dog ran down and at the same time my baby threw one half of a grape then another one and the dog ran and ate them up. My sister and mum started screaming and rang the vet who said they must rush her down. All the while so hostile and angry at me when I said I didn't realise and im sorry. I know dogs cant eat grapes but I have a baby and toddler and thought the dog was upstairs. It's hard to manage in basically a glass house with so many ornaments and crap everywhere. It's the opposite of baby proof which I don't expect it to be but she doesn't even help me one bit when I come round. My mum only has interest in her new dog not her grandchildren. She has now sent me the receipt for £105 she's had to pay to make the dog be sick at the vets. I am not paying it and for one don't have that money. AiBu?

I wouldn’t have apologised, I wouldn’t be paying, and I wouldn’t be visiting again. This dog bites your children! I find it hard to believe you still visit, no matter how much your eldest likes your sister.

That’s quite the thread title!

I love dogs, but given the circumstances I would see this as evidence that they need to supervise it and train it asap or deal with the consequences. Don’t take your kids there. Sounds too risky.

Avoid her. Your sister could visit you. Mum is being dramatic and no way should let a snappy dog near her grandchildren

Op it’s unfathomable that you have any contact with her whatsoever, and I wouldn’t have your children within a 5 mile radius of her

YABU to keep taking your children around a dog you know is violent.

Don't pay. And don't visit your mum again.

😂 It pulls you in, doesn't it?

I’d pay half and never go to her house again.

Hmmm. I think you are being unreasonable as you knew grapes were an issue and your DD threw them on the floor, thus opening up the possibility of a dog eating them. They need to supervise their dog, you equally need to supervise you child.

Hmmm. I think you are being unreasonable as you knew grapes were an issue and your DD threw them on the floor, thus opening up the possibility of a dog eating them. They need to supervise their dog, you equally need to supervise you child.

Why is the dog only out in a crate when it gets vicious with your children. Surely if the danger signs are there, the dog should always be crated or maybe you shouldn’t go to the house?!

of course you shouldn’t pay the bill

Why do you bother going there op?

Why are you allowing your young children to be anywhere near a vicious dog that bites them?

All so strange

Stop visiting your mum - what’s the point?

Invite your sister round before the dog hurts one of your kids.

Isn’t it

what’s the chances no one works and they all sit around in this house and the dog never gets walked? Poor neighbours with all the screaming

I wouldn’t bother going there at all if they’re that disinterested. I’d meet my sister elsewhere.

Your Mum doesn’t sound that interested in her grandchildren’s lives and I wouldn’t be bringing my children to spend time with her. Children can pick up on less than enthusiastic/ engaged family members and it can do more harm than good to spend time with them - children do pick up on this.

Why on earth would you continue visiting anywhere that a dog bites your infant on the face??

I also wouldn’t let my children spend time around a dog that bites their faces! Thats just asking for trouble.

My sister won't come to my house without my mum they have a toxic codependent relationship where they go everywhere together. She is 36. It's just such a shame because my eldest loves my sister and asks to see her all the time but I really would like to cut them out if im honest. My mum has never been there for me but with my sister is a proper mum. Everyone says she is her favourite child. Their chihuahua has lightly bit my baby on the cheek once not left a mark but I don't let her around my baby now when he's on the floor crawling I put the dog in the crate but my mum and sister don't like this I can tell.
In their house it's all pictures on the wall of this new chihuahua none of my children. They don't allow it in the garden or walk it because it ate a bee last month and almost died. I feel sorry for it but they won't train it. My sister enables my mother.

Half a grape is very unlikely to be a problem. I think the vet just wanted the fees.

“Toxic codependent relationship”

Of course this family has that!

let me guess…. There’s a few narcissists too!

I would pay half but never visit again, I would not be going anywhere were dogs are biting the children. Your sister can come to you instead. If she doesn't want to come to you, well that says everything doesn't it?