Neighbours

[Meganismyname]

My next door neighbour has been saying passive aggressive comments loud enough for me to hear, she only says something when she has company. The latest is 'weirdo'. She is always in her back garden and seems to get a kick out of what she is doing, making me feel uncomfortable. I Just ignore her. I dont ever sit in my garden, I just water my plants and go inside.

So you hear her say

“OP is a weirdo”?

and that doesn’t sound too passive to me

I just ignore her. She is not going to make me and my young children feel uncomfortable in my own garden.

Ok so crack on

but you didn’t answer my question 🤷

Yes 100% dont give into passive agressivness. Sorry what was your ?

Oh dear, this is going to be tricky

All the best op

She said ‘weirdo’? How is that PA?

My neigbour called my minor child a weirdo. She likes to make passive aggressive comments when I am not around and this time I heard her.

I’m not sure that’s passive aggressive so much as it is being nasty.

Thankyou for clarifying ohbee

How do you know she makes comments when you’re not there?

My child is allowed in her own garden and this particular neighbour regularly makes comments through the fence and I have been told the context of the nasty comments and looks by my child. She only says something when I am not there. But this time she did not realise I was there and she said to my child through an adjoing fence weirdo.

This neighbour is a grown woman. I hear the odd muffles when I am in the garden myself but I didn't realise the nastiness that was being directed towards my minor child.

Goodbye I just needed to vent. Passive agressive nasty neighbours get no reaction. I will ignore every vile look and comment. No reaction.

Don’t let a nasty neighbour stop you from enjoying your home and garden.

Make comments all day long, make me feel uncomfortable, stare at your window at me, I am allowed to use the ROW, I am allowed to water my plants, I am allowed to sit in my garden most importantly call me and my child a weirdo all day long. And stop using my WiFi neighbour. Goodbye.

Thankyou mamaelephantmama this nasty neighbour will not make me or my child feel uncomfortable in my own home or garden. I just needed to vent. Okay thankyou for you kind words.

Record what she is saying to your child without your presence.
Get a camera in the garden to record it too.
Report her to your local community police officer.

I felt very alone in this suitation and didn't know how to react because it's so nasty and i hate confrontation. I was just ignoring this woman and I will continue to do this. But I am not going to let her win I will be brave and go in my garden more, this is ridiculous that I was walking on eggshells in my own home and garden. Thankyou for listening and giving me advice and your kind words.

Speaking from experience, you just have to carry on doing your thing and just block them out. I know this can be easier said than done. It’s not a pleasant experience though so I do feel for you. You need to get her comments recorded then you can prosecute for harassment. Good luck.

Pictures50 do you think a camera will make her stop or encourage her to be more nasty?. This whole situation is just bizarre and can't belive what I heard. I dont want my child to feel uncomfortable but this just can't go on.

3rdtimeinflorida thankyou for being so kind. Yes I do think a camera is necessary I just can't belive it, this my child and she doesnt deserve this. This whole situation is just horrific I don't want to let my child be in this nasty woman's eyeline ever again. I just feel very uneasy.

Thankyou everybody for your kind words and advice. I now understand that I am not overreacting, this is harrassment, this has been harrassment, this nasty woman won't stop, i need record of this and I need a camera for my own security and peice of mind.

How is she using your WiFi? Does she know you're password?

Yes we got a camera- obviously our weirdo neighbour wasn’t very happy about this (good). You can always ring the police just for advice, and so that they have something recorded on file that your neighbour is making you feel like this. They may offer to contact her (as they did with us about our neighbour) just to let them know that you aren’t putting up with it. Obviously, I know this could make things worse but if she is making you feel uncomfortable anyway…..

OP?