Why are ‘Hobbies’ so top secret on Mn?

[Alltheplantsarejustdying]

😂Always when someone talks about a hobby on here, it’s never said what the hobby is and a reason for this is often that it’s ‘Outing’
I honestly can’t think of that many hobbies and especially ones that should be kept secret or are especially outing, it’s such a mystery!

Is it just me 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I would say if I mentioned DHs 2 hobbies it could be outing (neither is a sport) as they are both very unusual pursuits.

I can’t say, it’s too outing. There are different groups of squirrel taxidermists and I’m well known in the community.

Ha ha.. it’s like

“ an event”
“ a city”
“ an activity “

yep, many events and activities, take place round this cities around the country! 🤣

@CosyMintFishplease don’t tell anyone IRL that you know this about me

Think sewing, but with two needles and wool
Think tennis, but in an enclosed room with a rubber ball
Think walking, but a bit faster
Think singing in an amateur choir, but you speak the words and wear a costume
Think painting, but with a pencil
Think windsurfing but without a sail
Think photography but the images are moving
Think writing short stories, but the lines rhyme

Oh
My
Fucking
God
Say
The
Word
Already

@CosyMintFish I have known two people that did taxidermy. One was a colleague who collected road kill and kept them in the freezers in the basement where we worked and the other was a woman who was a mate and made tableaus of little mice, they were actually very well made though very odd.

"I went to the shops recently, I can't tell you which day as it's outing"

That or golf 🤣

Yes it’s not the doing activities that I find twee, its the language/ concept of “a hobby”

But my hobby would genuinely be outing! I've never ever met another woman who does it, there will be a few in the country but probably no more than a dozen. But, like most men's hobbies, if your husband does it it definitely won't be outing to name it.

I have a hobby that is not so "out there" but I don't know anyone else who doesn't it outside of the people I met at the club so it would be outing for me.

It's clearly dogging. That's why they don't want to say.

Fair enough. I wouldn't want you to reveal so much it'd put your life in danger.

Ok Ok I will hold my hands up!! My hobby is sitting on my ass and drinking wine...now I am well and truly outed.

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me too, I have never seen people so obsessed with hobbies that get a divorce over them

Some hobbies are quite niche particularly if you have a couple of obscure hobbies and people can work out from other posts where you live. I don’t care what hobbies people I have never met have

Is that 'ass' as in donkey or 'ass' as in arse?

The former would probably be more outing than the latter.

Perhaps it’s the risk of naming the hobbies combined with other identity clues over their previous posts. I’ve spotted two people for certain on here, and I suspect another. I’ve posted enough specifics on various threads that listing my hobbies (quite a few, some are a bit specific) would be outing to people who do actually know me.

And DH has such a weird collection of interests that if someone vaguely suspected they knew me, that would absolutely seal it.

But them I have friends with unusual interests, which perhaps biases me. I know a narl binder who is building her own shed so she can carve musical instruments and spin her own alpaca fleeces. And a man into extreme heavy metal, sweet sherry and stamp collecting. And a vegan taxidermist who wears a pleather miniskirt. I tend to assume other people are equally weird. Tbh I find it disappointing when they aren’t.

Phew, it is the latter, seems I am safe for another day!

If people don't want to be outed then why not just name change for that post?

I genuinely want to know what all these exciting hobbies are that I'm missing out on.

No wonder they're so niche and under attended by women if nobody will even admit their existence!

I always immediately assume they are sculptors like in to the X Files episode Grotesque. Very niche and incredibly outing. Although if I was correct there are loads of them on MN and it's no longer niche!

each ‘outing’ hobby + story shares traits with about a million other people, it’s a little paranoid and weird

It’s all about the mystery! Or perhaps they share one of my hobbies and are embarrassed to admit it (I’m not) going to the pub snd watching bands!