I don’t feel feminine…any advice?

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Newusername1234567 · 16/08/2025 20:41

i did post in different section few days ago but only got 2 replies so with no shame posting here for traffic🤷🏻‍♀️

i dont feel feminine for some time and it bothers me. I am not sure how to explain it. Male colleague/friend would see me as a “mate” and not a “female friend” if you know what i mean. I lack that soft, warm side. It hasn’t been always like that but now i feel lost and i dont know how to get it back. I am way too loud, i yell a lot (have two little boys, working on it!), i am very strict and harsh and come across unpleasant, but i am very likeable person and people used to love me and wanted to be around! And now people think i am
unapproachable.. What shall i do to change it? How can i get my feminine energy back? Has anyone struggle with similar?

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sophiecygnet · 17/08/2025 14:04

usersame · 16/08/2025 22:53

It sounds like you just need some regular me time to re-energise and re-centre yourself.

Probably your batteries burnt out long ago. You need to learn to be kind to yourself, before you can be kind to others.

As others have said, take long baths with candles. If you're a tea or coffee drinker, make your morning one into a ritual. Do some stretches or yoga. Calm down. Crystals can be good - try pink amethyst for feminine energy. Light some candles or incense. Go for walks in nature (I know you have young kids, but anyway). Go out with female friends and laugh. Just anything that makes you feel good basically. Do you ever listen to music or dance?

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Rocks and crystals?
Surely we really need the laughing emoji back.

usedtobeaylis · 17/08/2025 14:14

Newusername1234567 · 17/08/2025 13:48

@Blondiney @usedtobeaylis i dont think there is one definition if femininity, its whaatever make YOU feel this way. I like the suggestions, dont have to work for everyone 🫣

in regards to “me” time @usedtobeaylis it is little tricky at the moment but we could try and come up with something

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Start small if you have to, even if it is literally just an hour of blocked off time. I appreciate it can be difficult. You do need to carve out time for yourself though, I think it's fundamental for every human.

VaseofViolets · 17/08/2025 15:36

ElCorazon · 17/08/2025 13:16

What does feminine feel like? 🤔
Do you mean no man looks at you? Feeling feminine is just female coded message for receiving male attention.

I don’t think anyone “feels” feminine. You can’t walk around during the day feeling feminine. What does it mean?
In my observation the women who say they feel feminine are usually full of themselves and do anything for male attention. Even the way they walk..that exaggerated sway when they swing their hips. Or even the way they eat, taking little bites and pretending they are not that hungry. I bet they just trample around the house when nobody is watching them and eat like pigs 😆

What OP means by feminine is particular to her. You don’t need to sneer; if you think it’s a ridiculous concept, that’s up to you.
Other people are allowed to feel differently about themselves. She’s looking for suggestions people may have, nothing wrong with that, and didn’t mention being attractive to men, so why the mockery?

VaseofViolets · 17/08/2025 15:42

Anyway, if other women like male attention and seek it out, or encourage it in their manner of walking or eating as you described, I don’t see why that’s a problem for you? You can do what you want, behave how you like, and others can to do the same.

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