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Loss of 30 free hours will cost me £37,000 of pre-tax income

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ChildcareCost · 15/08/2025 09:59

9 month olds are eligible for 30 free hours from September. If you earn over the threshold, you do not get this 30 free hours plus the £2,000 of tax-free childcare.

My nursery typically charges £2,150 a month for an under-3. This works out at c. £10 an hour assuming a 50 hour week (open 8-6).

They have circulated the free hours schedule this week, and the monthly cost with 30 free hours is £1,100 hours for an under-3 (noting funded hours only cover 38 weeks).

This means the loss of the 30 free hours will cost me £12,600 a year. Plus of course the loss of tax-free childcare at £2,000.

So, I need to earn an extra £14,600 net just to cover the cost of not being eligible for this scheme.

To earn that £14,600 over £100,000 – I need to earn a gross figure of £137,000.

Surely this is not fair on the parents excluded from the scheme? It doesn't seem proportional that I need to earn an extra £37,000 just to recoup the loss as a result of not being eligible!

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Xenia · 15/08/2025 14:18

By going on and on about this injustice for ages the Financial Times did at least do an article on it. It damages the poor really because women work less to earn less so there is less tax and the poor get less money so it is very counter productive. It cost about £30k per baby in a London nursery or £60k for a daily nanny in London if you have 2 or more children under 2. That includes employer NI and pension you must pay for the nanny (almost every other small employer in the country is exempt from employer NI but of course not hard working mothers...)

The 15 "free" hours for 3 year olds is what a criminal asylume seeker who has broken every law in the book to come here - that is what the state thinks of women who date to work so hard they pay the highest tax burden in 70 years and earn "too much". The state spits on us. And if you even dare to consider doing the best for your child with a private school as our family does the state hates you even more and since Jan 2025 has lumbered you with £10k a year £16k of before tax income) extra VAT (2 children at day private school). The whole system has the effect of reducing productivity.

Frenchbluesea · 15/08/2025 14:19

ChildcareCost · 15/08/2025 14:10

Well - I think I’m starting question why I’m funding social benefits like childcare support for 95% of parents but being excluded from it myself.

Why am I paying so much to support the very vast majority others, but then being told I’m excluded myself and must fund services privately?

That doesn’t seem like a very good deal.

Because they earn very little and you earn a lot

RunsABit · 15/08/2025 14:20

Nanny0gg · 15/08/2025 14:07

How many holidays will this cost you?

I've been paying tax for more than 50 years. I don't see why I should subsidise you.

And obviously, never had funded childcare

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Statements such as this really grind my gears. What about people who pay a fortune in tax but don't have any children? Why should they subsidise the people who have children that they can't afford to feed or pay childcare? I bet the OP has worked incredibly hard and made many sacrifices to get to her well-paid position, why should she be penalised for this when someone who arsed around at school, left with few or no qualifications and has never worked qualifies outright?

The OP has every right to be pissed off given the gigantic tax bill she must face each year. The politics of envy wins again in the national competition of 'race you to the bottom'.

Closedwinefridge · 15/08/2025 14:20

OP, check if you have last years allowance left for pension that can be used for this year, would it work ?

Satisfiedwithanapple · 15/08/2025 14:23

Squirrel1818 · 15/08/2025 14:12

You’ve fallen into the trap of comparing headline salary rates rather than actual cash received.

If you ignore pensions contributions the 160k earner takes home 8k per month. The 80k household with 2 children takes home 5.4k assuming equal split of earnings between parents.

The 80k household also gets funded nursery hours, tax free childcare and child benefit. Those 3 combined will be roughly 20k pa meaning the net monthly income for the 80k household is over 7k.

This scenario neatly encapsulates the problem.

Household A has 160k income and takes home 8k

Household B has 80k income and takes home 7k

Unless household B is a lone parent though they won’t actually need childcare.

Boohoo76 · 15/08/2025 14:25

Gall10 · 15/08/2025 14:05

And expect low paid workers to contribute to their child care costs….maybe the most mumsnet thing I’ve seen this century.

Low paid workers are not contributing to anyones childcare costs.

Dorisbonson · 15/08/2025 14:25

CoralSea · 15/08/2025 10:47

common, at such an insane salary, you surely have a good account who can sort this.

and yes, there are always thresholds. Noone on over 100k needs help with childcare costs.

100k is 5500 a month net, with student loan it's less than 5000.

Mortgage on average flat in the South East can be over 2000 a month. Train fare another 500. Council tax 400. Add in nursery of 2000 and there isn't much left really is there? Thats to live in a flat.

It's hardly "an insane salary", gas engineers are earning more than this.

100k in the South East is more like 50-60k in the rest of the country. Crazy to have to pay marginal tax of over 60% and get screwed on childcare.

ACynicalDad · 15/08/2025 14:26

cumbriaisbest · 15/08/2025 14:14

It makes me puke. The rich get richer and milk the system.

Well I guess her tax bill covers hers, yours and my tax free childcare. Cliff edges in tax are really rubbish and this is probably costing an insane amount of lost revenue, it's the government's fault they set the rules.

CoastalCalm · 15/08/2025 14:26

How about you just pay for the child/ children you chose to have leaving more in the pot for people who are actually in need of the financial support ?

AffableApple · 15/08/2025 14:27

I have 3 year old twins. I've missed out on any free childcare as I've not been in work. And I've haven't been able to afford to work, as childcare for both at the same time is extortionate. I want to work. Only now they've turned three can I put them in for their 15 hours, and start job-hunting. Youve been able to work, climbing the career ladder, getting payrises, securing your future... Are your diamond shoes too tight too?

JLou08 · 15/08/2025 14:27

There needs to be a cut off somewhere. My older DC were in nursery before 30 hours funding and tax free childcare was a thing and I had to pay full cost. My youngest was in nursery between 1 and 3.5 before funding expanded to include children from 9 months. I had much less than £100,000 to so I don't have much sympathy for you.

DrCoconut · 15/08/2025 14:28

YourSnugGreyPanda · 15/08/2025 10:47

YABVU. If you earn over £100000 you do not require the tax payers’ support for childcare. To suggest so shows you are out of touch with the average working person and extremely greedy. The funded childcare hours are there to support those who couldn’t afford to work otherwise.

Threads on this topic always contain advice on how very well off people could reduce their on paper income to qualify for state help (known as benefits for poor people and allowances or other euphemisms for the better off), but heaven help someone on universal credit if they dare earn a tenner in cash handing out leaflets for their local takeaway. That's fraud and ripping off the taxpayer.

BluntPlumHam · 15/08/2025 14:29

Superhansrantowindsor · 15/08/2025 13:52

Ok I haven’t RTFT but….

  1. can the child’s father not pay half?
  2. you are very rich. Why should I as a tax payer pay for the childcare of someone earning 7 times as much as me.
  3. funded childcare didn’t use to be a thing. Some of us got no help on a fraction of your salary.
  4. you chose to have kids.

Given that she pays 7 times more tax as you say she should be just as much entitled to the benefits for childcare available. If people like OP up and leave which is happening then there won’t be her tax contributions available to subsidise whatever benefits you may be claiming.

I think a lot of the ire comes from OP's salary however not a lot of consideration is being given to how much her take home pay is after tax and contributions. OP isn’t the millionaire/billionaire that don’t pay their fair share.

OneCoralCat · 15/08/2025 14:30

ChildcareCost · 15/08/2025 11:04

I just think I should be eligible for the childcare scheme that 95% of other parents can access, yes.

The loss of childcare being worth £37,000 of pre-tax earnings is very significant and is likely to change people’s behaviour around work - pensions, hours worked, promotions gone for etc.

Say I earn £165,000, including the loss of childcare hours my effective tax + loss of benefits rate would be 80% on every penny above £100k. Thats quite significant.

95% of other people get it...because they don't earn as much as you do?

If they had to pay that in childcare, they wouldn't be able to put a roof over their head, or food on the table. You are being insanely unreasonable.

GoldieLocks09 · 15/08/2025 14:30

Honestly, this battle infuriates me - I’m in a similar position to you OP, and I’m aware it’s a fortunate one - but surely the ‘tax payers’ money should be for everyone with children, including those who have paid a higher tax rate for years and years, without claiming any benefits. I’ve got a tax accountant who was equally as baffled when I explained that for us to not use the funding because we’re not eligible it will cost us more than it did before the funding existed.. I’m toying with working 4 days per week and salary sacrificing for the next 2 years, but similarly to you, I’m in a male dominated industry and want to progress. This won’t encourage progression and I’ll have a battle when returning justifying my reasons to do it.

OnARainyDay2012 · 15/08/2025 14:31

ChildcareCost · 15/08/2025 11:00

But if I earn a penny under £137,000, I am actually losing money with one baby in childcare vs earning £99k.

So you have to put everything in your pension and cap your income at £100k - or I suppose go part time to get it there.

That doesn’t make any sense - why at at £99.9k can you claim such a huge sum in childcare, and the you have net loss on any income beyond that up to £137k?

But you earn more than that anyway so its not an issue for you! Just be happy with what you have!!

OldLondonDad · 15/08/2025 14:31

BIossomtoes · 15/08/2025 14:02

There’s no point in being £500 a month better off? 😲

No.

Why earn £3500 or so gross, £2600 after tax, and yet only have £500 to actually spend at the end of it.

About half of that is going to go on travel and clothes for work - so it's really more like £250. You have the added stress of both parents working meaning getting home for childcare pickups, fitting all the errands in to the weekends etc.

For £250 a month? Nope, not worth it.

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OneCoralCat · 15/08/2025 14:32

GoldieLocks09 · 15/08/2025 14:30

Honestly, this battle infuriates me - I’m in a similar position to you OP, and I’m aware it’s a fortunate one - but surely the ‘tax payers’ money should be for everyone with children, including those who have paid a higher tax rate for years and years, without claiming any benefits. I’ve got a tax accountant who was equally as baffled when I explained that for us to not use the funding because we’re not eligible it will cost us more than it did before the funding existed.. I’m toying with working 4 days per week and salary sacrificing for the next 2 years, but similarly to you, I’m in a male dominated industry and want to progress. This won’t encourage progression and I’ll have a battle when returning justifying my reasons to do it.

That's not how taxes work though is it. You wouldn't be able to claim Universal Credit, or PIP, if you weren't eligible purely because you pay a lot of tax.

ChildcareCost · 15/08/2025 14:33

OnARainyDay2012 · 15/08/2025 14:31

But you earn more than that anyway so its not an issue for you! Just be happy with what you have!!

Well - say I earn £160k, it creates a 82% tax rate on any income over £100k, which is quite a significant disincentive in itself.

So it is still an issue - I’m not worse off that if I earned £99k, but the net benefit is quite small compared to the sum needed to earn it.

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Soggyspaniel · 15/08/2025 14:33

Putting your child into childcare for 50 hours a week is a lot, OP. Did I read it right, they’re at nursery 10 hours a day 5 days a week?

Surely between you and your partner you can reduce this a bit, just for a couple of years whilst they’re little.

ChildcareCost · 15/08/2025 14:35

GoldieLocks09 · 15/08/2025 14:30

Honestly, this battle infuriates me - I’m in a similar position to you OP, and I’m aware it’s a fortunate one - but surely the ‘tax payers’ money should be for everyone with children, including those who have paid a higher tax rate for years and years, without claiming any benefits. I’ve got a tax accountant who was equally as baffled when I explained that for us to not use the funding because we’re not eligible it will cost us more than it did before the funding existed.. I’m toying with working 4 days per week and salary sacrificing for the next 2 years, but similarly to you, I’m in a male dominated industry and want to progress. This won’t encourage progression and I’ll have a battle when returning justifying my reasons to do it.

People seem to really struggle to understand that the loss is so significant it creates incentives to eg work less like you are suggesting.

People won’t work for free.

Earning an extra £37,000 and having nothing to show for it because of the personal allowance removal + 39 free hours seems quite clearly insane to me.

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BubblyBath178 · 15/08/2025 14:36

You earn £160k…my heart bleeds for you 🙄 🙄

DarkForces · 15/08/2025 14:36

ACynicalDad · 15/08/2025 14:26

Well I guess her tax bill covers hers, yours and my tax free childcare. Cliff edges in tax are really rubbish and this is probably costing an insane amount of lost revenue, it's the government's fault they set the rules.

At £160k op is well past the cliff edge. They're behind the safety fence and down the road.

8misskitty8 · 15/08/2025 14:36

ChildcareCost · 15/08/2025 10:49

I earn over £160,000 so can’t salary sacrifice to get under the threshold. I could go part time and salary sacrifice to get there - but as a woman in a male dominated industry where I want to progress, that’s not optimal.

But - even if I were able to, if I salary sacrificed from £137,000 to £99,000 - the government would lose over £20,000 in tax revenue.

Plus have to pay the extra £14,600 towards my childcare.

So they are vastly worse off than if I am able to claim it surely?

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You earn £160,000 a year. Far more than a lot of people including those caring for your child up to the 50 hours a week the private nursery is open do. And you are moaning about earning too much to get free childcare ?
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