Husband and football

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DH has always liked football and watched England and World Cup. And followed along his local team in a very low division and a premiership team.

we have been together 10 years

recently he got back into supporting his team and bought a season ticket for 24 /25. I have no issue with this. He goes to the home matches. But he won’t miss a match AT ALL. everything schedule around it, even holidays and Birthdays. He then goes to al the other matches too that are at home - non league ones. I get its nice to have a hobby and would never ask him not to go but if we get an invite he will turn it down.

Now this year it’s escalated to watching almost every match in tv whatever team. So some weeks there can be 3 football watched on from 7-9 each evening. Plus weekend TV or match.

then there is Saturday - if he is not at a match he is glued to tv.

For an evening match he just puts the TV on and doesn’t ask me and that’s it for 2 hours. Of course I say something non confrontational .

now he started streaming you tube matches onto the TV with a 7pm kick of from very obscure teams. I’m now quite pissed off because if had know I would have gone out.

I have said if he want to watch football to tell me in advance so i can plan to do something. I’m not sure he will though. I often don’t have anything major to watch but I can’t sit in the room with it in it really annoys me (and that is my issue but I am quite tolerant of 1-2 matches a week plus’s attendance at all the home games)

AIBU

YES- YABU football is a nice hobby
NO - YANBU he is too obsessed -it’s not normal level of interest and he is being thoughtless

Life is too short for this one sided relationship.
Find out your legal situation in case of separation.
Expain it’s you or excessive football.
You will then know how to proceed.
He doesn’t sound bothered about you at all, so be prepared to separate.

This is novice compared to my dad he's a life long liverpool fan and is an ex referee he watches all football even the women's he has been given 6-12 to live and still runs his Sunday football team 🙄 if he gets a cold hes back in hospital for a few weeks and still insists on going Sunday football to watch his team he's the most dedicated football supporter I've ever know he lives and breathes it in order of love its football 1st us kids 2nd we've always known this if we told him he couldn't watch it ever again or go to a match he die tomorrow I 1000% guarantee it good luck

I am a big football fan and this does seem excessive. The problem is that there is even more football on the TV this season due to the new Sky deal. I restrict my watching to the team I support + a few big games outside of this. Otherwise over the weekend it could be wall to wall. I do go to live games but it's the away weekends that control is required. My adult children are well into football but run similar constraints. OP you need to talk to him as this is not normal behaviour.

Install a sky mini box in a spare room and tell him it’s either the spare room for football or divorce. I am very lucky my man doesn’t follow sports but he is obsessed with vehicles (cars, trucks, trains etc) so it’s all I ever hear about and it does get annoying so I really do sympathise.

Forget football why does he get to dictate what you both watch on TV, 2 people live in the house not one, secondly why are you with someone who just wants to do things without you, also if you have children he wont change trust me ive been there and done that, where do you figure in his life, work out an average of how many hours a week he spends time wise on football including travel time, i bet you its days not hours and then tell him that as he has that time per week you are having equal time for you and are going away every weekend on your own,

This. I support Newcastle United. Yes i watch some of the big games too but i couldn't watch football all the time. I would get fed up. I also don't want to sit in front f the telly all weekend as the weather is loking good.

I grew up with 4 brothers so football was always on the TV growing up and I hated it. Couldn't see the attraction. I have been with my husband almost 14 years now and he is an avid Man United fan. He will watch all their matches in all competitions. We have 2 sons. 1 is a Man U fan the other is a Liverpool fan but both into their football (the 12 year old much more than the 10- youngest loves playing and supports Liverpool but doesn't really watch games etc, oldest watches all matches, keeps track of tables etc) My husband also coaches the oldest football team and has done for the last 7 years.

Through watching my boys play grassroots I started to gradually enjoy football. Now I too am a United fan 🙈 and watch every match with them. Don't get me wrong a match will be missed if we have something important on but if a clash can be avoided we avoided.

Can't wait for 1st match of the season tomorrow. It's been a quiet 3 months 🤣

So basically my point is if you can't beat them, join them. It's great having something we are all interested in, we moider and banter and have a laugh and every week we spend that time together