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Probation extended, I’m worried

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Hendion · 12/08/2025 23:38

My partner has been told his 3 month probation is being extended to 4 months, because his manager has been off work for the past 3 weeks. He is 2 months into the job.

They said there are no performance concerns and they are happy with his work, they just want him to have finished his project by the end of probation.

Does this sound like an excuse? Is he at risk
of being fired? I’m worried sick.

OP posts:
Hendion · 12/08/2025 23:43

Has anyone been in this situation? Were you kept on? I’m so so stressed.

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UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 12/08/2025 23:44

Them wanting him to "finish" his project before the end of probation does sound a little suspicious, like they're pretending there's a job but really just needed him for one project

But it also could just be that the boss wants to be more involved and hasn't been around for it

Hendion · 12/08/2025 23:47

Thank you. They have the main role and then additional projects to complete alongside it. They mentioned that they want him to complete the main project by end of probation, but the reason for the extension is the manager being on leave the last 2 months.

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Hendion · 12/08/2025 23:47

Last 2 weeks sorry, not months

OP posts:
Peaceandlabradors · 12/08/2025 23:47

Hendion · 12/08/2025 23:38

My partner has been told his 3 month probation is being extended to 4 months, because his manager has been off work for the past 3 weeks. He is 2 months into the job.

They said there are no performance concerns and they are happy with his work, they just want him to have finished his project by the end of probation.

Does this sound like an excuse? Is he at risk
of being fired? I’m worried sick.

An extended probation period can be concerning, but it doesn't always mean you'll be fired. It could be a sign your employer wants more time to assess your suitability, or that they've identified areas for improvement. Focus on understanding the reasons for the extension and addressing any concerns to demonstrate your commitment and potential for success in the role.

Here's a more detailed breakdown:
Possible reasons for extension:
Insufficient time to assess performance:
Your employer might need more time to evaluate your work, especially if they've been busy or haven't had enough opportunity to observe you.

Areas for improvement:
They may have identified specific areas where you need to develop your skills or knowledge.

Organizational changes:
Changes in the company, like restructuring or new responsibilities, might necessitate a longer probation to ensure you're adequately trained and integrated.

Lack of clarity:
Your manager might not have been clear on their expectations, or you may have needed more guidance.

Company-specific factors:
Factors like financial position or workload adjustments can also influence the decision.

What to do:
Ask for clarification:
Don't hesitate to ask your manager or HR for specific feedback on why your probation was extended and what areas need improvement.

Focus on areas for improvement:
Once you understand the specific issues, create a plan to address them and demonstrate your commitment to learning and growth.

Be proactive:
Seek out opportunities to learn, ask questions, and take initiative to show your eagerness to succeed.

Stay professional:
Even if you're feeling discouraged, maintain a positive and professional attitude.

Consider your options:
If you feel the situation is untenable, you may want to explore other opportunities.

Document everything:
Keep records of performance reviews, feedback, and any communication related to your probation.

When to be more worried:
Lack of specific feedback:
If your employer provides vague reasons for the extension or can't articulate what you need to improve, it could be a red flag.

Unfair reasons:
If the extension is based on discriminatory factors like your age, gender, or ethnicity, it's a serious issue.

Unclear expectations:
If you're unsure of what's expected of you, it's crucial to get clarity and documentation.

In short, an extended probation period can be a chance to prove yourself, but it's important to understand the reasons behind it and address any concerns proactively.

Hendion · 12/08/2025 23:49

Thank you. My boyfriend asked if the probation is performance-related and they said no, they’ve been happy with him. They said it’s just because the manager has been away the last 2 weeks.

does this sound like a real reason? It seems unfair to my partner to leave him on edge like this because his manager went on leave?

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Imveryold · 12/08/2025 23:52

Peaceandlabradors · 12/08/2025 23:47

An extended probation period can be concerning, but it doesn't always mean you'll be fired. It could be a sign your employer wants more time to assess your suitability, or that they've identified areas for improvement. Focus on understanding the reasons for the extension and addressing any concerns to demonstrate your commitment and potential for success in the role.

Here's a more detailed breakdown:
Possible reasons for extension:
Insufficient time to assess performance:
Your employer might need more time to evaluate your work, especially if they've been busy or haven't had enough opportunity to observe you.

Areas for improvement:
They may have identified specific areas where you need to develop your skills or knowledge.

Organizational changes:
Changes in the company, like restructuring or new responsibilities, might necessitate a longer probation to ensure you're adequately trained and integrated.

Lack of clarity:
Your manager might not have been clear on their expectations, or you may have needed more guidance.

Company-specific factors:
Factors like financial position or workload adjustments can also influence the decision.

What to do:
Ask for clarification:
Don't hesitate to ask your manager or HR for specific feedback on why your probation was extended and what areas need improvement.

Focus on areas for improvement:
Once you understand the specific issues, create a plan to address them and demonstrate your commitment to learning and growth.

Be proactive:
Seek out opportunities to learn, ask questions, and take initiative to show your eagerness to succeed.

Stay professional:
Even if you're feeling discouraged, maintain a positive and professional attitude.

Consider your options:
If you feel the situation is untenable, you may want to explore other opportunities.

Document everything:
Keep records of performance reviews, feedback, and any communication related to your probation.

When to be more worried:
Lack of specific feedback:
If your employer provides vague reasons for the extension or can't articulate what you need to improve, it could be a red flag.

Unfair reasons:
If the extension is based on discriminatory factors like your age, gender, or ethnicity, it's a serious issue.

Unclear expectations:
If you're unsure of what's expected of you, it's crucial to get clarity and documentation.

In short, an extended probation period can be a chance to prove yourself, but it's important to understand the reasons behind it and address any concerns proactively.

Reads like an AI answer.

Frozensun · 12/08/2025 23:53

Ex-HR. I don’t think it’s a concern. The employer needs to be able to assess the whole body of work as specified. Yes, it’s not ideal that the manager has been away, but everyone has a life.

Missanimosity · 12/08/2025 23:55

Peaceandlabradors · 12/08/2025 23:47

An extended probation period can be concerning, but it doesn't always mean you'll be fired. It could be a sign your employer wants more time to assess your suitability, or that they've identified areas for improvement. Focus on understanding the reasons for the extension and addressing any concerns to demonstrate your commitment and potential for success in the role.

Here's a more detailed breakdown:
Possible reasons for extension:
Insufficient time to assess performance:
Your employer might need more time to evaluate your work, especially if they've been busy or haven't had enough opportunity to observe you.

Areas for improvement:
They may have identified specific areas where you need to develop your skills or knowledge.

Organizational changes:
Changes in the company, like restructuring or new responsibilities, might necessitate a longer probation to ensure you're adequately trained and integrated.

Lack of clarity:
Your manager might not have been clear on their expectations, or you may have needed more guidance.

Company-specific factors:
Factors like financial position or workload adjustments can also influence the decision.

What to do:
Ask for clarification:
Don't hesitate to ask your manager or HR for specific feedback on why your probation was extended and what areas need improvement.

Focus on areas for improvement:
Once you understand the specific issues, create a plan to address them and demonstrate your commitment to learning and growth.

Be proactive:
Seek out opportunities to learn, ask questions, and take initiative to show your eagerness to succeed.

Stay professional:
Even if you're feeling discouraged, maintain a positive and professional attitude.

Consider your options:
If you feel the situation is untenable, you may want to explore other opportunities.

Document everything:
Keep records of performance reviews, feedback, and any communication related to your probation.

When to be more worried:
Lack of specific feedback:
If your employer provides vague reasons for the extension or can't articulate what you need to improve, it could be a red flag.

Unfair reasons:
If the extension is based on discriminatory factors like your age, gender, or ethnicity, it's a serious issue.

Unclear expectations:
If you're unsure of what's expected of you, it's crucial to get clarity and documentation.

In short, an extended probation period can be a chance to prove yourself, but it's important to understand the reasons behind it and address any concerns proactively.

Sick of these AI posts. They serve no purpose, OP wanted to hear a personal experience or opinion not a computer generated answer, if she needed that she would go on Chat GPTnor whatever is called

quickncncncnc · 12/08/2025 23:58

Peaceandlabradors · 12/08/2025 23:47

An extended probation period can be concerning, but it doesn't always mean you'll be fired. It could be a sign your employer wants more time to assess your suitability, or that they've identified areas for improvement. Focus on understanding the reasons for the extension and addressing any concerns to demonstrate your commitment and potential for success in the role.

Here's a more detailed breakdown:
Possible reasons for extension:
Insufficient time to assess performance:
Your employer might need more time to evaluate your work, especially if they've been busy or haven't had enough opportunity to observe you.

Areas for improvement:
They may have identified specific areas where you need to develop your skills or knowledge.

Organizational changes:
Changes in the company, like restructuring or new responsibilities, might necessitate a longer probation to ensure you're adequately trained and integrated.

Lack of clarity:
Your manager might not have been clear on their expectations, or you may have needed more guidance.

Company-specific factors:
Factors like financial position or workload adjustments can also influence the decision.

What to do:
Ask for clarification:
Don't hesitate to ask your manager or HR for specific feedback on why your probation was extended and what areas need improvement.

Focus on areas for improvement:
Once you understand the specific issues, create a plan to address them and demonstrate your commitment to learning and growth.

Be proactive:
Seek out opportunities to learn, ask questions, and take initiative to show your eagerness to succeed.

Stay professional:
Even if you're feeling discouraged, maintain a positive and professional attitude.

Consider your options:
If you feel the situation is untenable, you may want to explore other opportunities.

Document everything:
Keep records of performance reviews, feedback, and any communication related to your probation.

When to be more worried:
Lack of specific feedback:
If your employer provides vague reasons for the extension or can't articulate what you need to improve, it could be a red flag.

Unfair reasons:
If the extension is based on discriminatory factors like your age, gender, or ethnicity, it's a serious issue.

Unclear expectations:
If you're unsure of what's expected of you, it's crucial to get clarity and documentation.

In short, an extended probation period can be a chance to prove yourself, but it's important to understand the reasons behind it and address any concerns proactively.

Enough with the AI responses!! Make it stop!!

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 12/08/2025 23:58

Ewww keep your AI shit away

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 12/08/2025 23:59

It does sound like the boss being away could be a genuine reason. They're extending it around the fact the boss has missed some of his probation

Missanimosity · 13/08/2025 00:00

Sorry OP I have no answer but I understand your concerns. In my opinion, prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Use these 2 months to apply for other jobs, if nothing happens he doesen't need to go ahead woth anything but if it does it puts him one step ahead. I am not concerned about the extension per se but for the reasoning they provided. I am afraid that they use your partner for their project, and then they will let him go. Many companies are unscrupulous like that and use probationary period to get short time work done then they let them go and there is nothing you can do about that as they can fire at will, unless is due to protected characteristics they don't even need a reason. Very sad world we live in!

Hendion · 13/08/2025 00:00

Thank you all? So you think he might be safe? He worked so hard to get this job and has given it his all, I’m so worried and upset for him.

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ThatAgileLimeCat · 13/08/2025 00:03

I have extended probations for a similar reason. To pass probation new starters need to meet certain kpis. If they can't due to reasons outside of their control (we have had change of leadership and lack of work in the past) then I explain the reason and what I will do to give them the best chance to meet the standard.

When it is due to performance concerns I am honest about this too
It does feel unfair when a new starter joins at a time when they can't demonstrate the standard but our team's work is depend on external factors so it does happen.

I wouldn't be concerned so long as they have given clear indications of how he can meet the requirements and what the company will do to support that

PerplexedConfusedBewildered · 13/08/2025 00:03

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Missanimosity · 13/08/2025 00:04

Hendion · 13/08/2025 00:00

Thank you all? So you think he might be safe? He worked so hard to get this job and has given it his all, I’m so worried and upset for him.

OP, what does your boyfriend say? Usually if something is amiss you have that gut instinct that something isn't right. I say honestly to encourage your bf to apply for other jobs, he still has time on his side.

Hendion · 13/08/2025 00:06

My boyfriend is very stressed. He showed me the email work sent, and it didn’t list any issues at all. It just said they’re extending it because his manager has been away.

when he asked in person, the manager said there are no performance concerned. But I’m worried.

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WhiteDiamonds · 13/08/2025 00:10

@Peaceandlabradors If you can’t comment without using AI don’t comment at all. It’s getting boring now with posters posting AI responses, I’m sure if the OP had wanted an AI response she’d have done it herself.

@Hendion it does sound strange but every employer is different and it may be that the manager has been off for 2 weeks. I’d be a bit worried too tbh. It’s shit they’re extending it due to a Manager being off for whatever reason, that’s not your DP’s fault. On a positive note they should have raised any performance related issues before now imo, it’s pretty poor Management if they haven’t.

Missanimosity · 13/08/2025 00:12

Hendion · 13/08/2025 00:06

My boyfriend is very stressed. He showed me the email work sent, and it didn’t list any issues at all. It just said they’re extending it because his manager has been away.

when he asked in person, the manager said there are no performance concerned. But I’m worried.

I understand your stress I am sorry for you I wish I could say something to make you feel better but no one has a magic globe to predict future so no matter what we say it won't take that stress away. One thing I say is that things always find a way to arrange themselves, and the pieces fall into place as they should be. My husband had a huge hit years ago when we moved in an area with the almost waranty that he will get a job. He did't get it. It was devastating. But he applied through the night I think he sent hundreds of applications he stayed awake all night. Next week after 2 interviews he had 2 job offers. And soon after that period became a memory. Don't worry for tomorrow as you don't know tomorrow. Best of luck to you both!

My fat fingers typing is atrocious sorry you get the jist :)

Hendion · 13/08/2025 00:18

Thank you all for your words. I’m so stressed I feel like I might be sick.

should he start applying for new jobs?

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KrisAkabusi · 13/08/2025 00:30

I think you're overreacting. You say that he's been told he has nothing to worry about, and given an explanation why. I would take that at face value.

Hendion · 13/08/2025 00:30

If you work in HR, would you make sure all criticisms were documented via email before failing someone’s probation?

is the absence of criticism a good sign?

OP posts:
Hendion · 13/08/2025 00:30

KrisAkabusi · 13/08/2025 00:30

I think you're overreacting. You say that he's been told he has nothing to worry about, and given an explanation why. I would take that at face value.

Thank you, I hope so!

OP posts:
KrisAkabusi · 13/08/2025 00:34

Hendion · 13/08/2025 00:30

If you work in HR, would you make sure all criticisms were documented via email before failing someone’s probation?

is the absence of criticism a good sign?

If there were performance issues HR would be negligent if they said there were none. Its one thing not to say anything, its another to lie and leave a paper trail. If its a company big enough to have a HR department, they should know better than that. That's why I think what they are saying is above board.

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