For as long as I can remember I have never been scared of dying and often welcome the thought.

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I’d like to understand why people are so eager to live? People with huge health anxiety and terrified about doing all sorts of things in case they die.
I feel like I have (in the past) put myself in very dangerous situations because I never really cared. The only reason I care now is because I have children and wouldn’t want to leave them.
sometimes I think dying would be great.
I hope this isn’t upsetting or insulting to anyone, just trying to understand why I feel like this

I used to feel this way too until I had children, now I have health anxiety!

Because i have people I love that depend on me. Because i dont want to leave my children motherless and i want to see every moment i can with them. Because i want every second i can have with my dh who is my best friend.

As the saying goes ''dying is easy, living is harder'.

I am not afraid of dying such, but I am concerned for those I would leave behind & the heartache that would be experienced. While people do adjust to the loss of a person, the impact is often life long.

Risk taking in youth is hardly uncommon, but with age usually comes maturity & responsibility.

Risk taking as an adult is possibly something that should be explored.

When I lost my husband in 2012, I started to question my own mortality. Now, I want to live and enjoy my time. I was very scared of dying when younger. I still am but put things more into perspective, as each year goes by.

Exactly the same. I’m not arsed about death per se. But I am terrified of leaving my children before they are able to fend for themselves. I feel/hope that once my children are adults my HA will probably resolve.

I’d like to continue living because there’s a ton of places I’d like to see and things I’d like to do before I die. The world is full of amazing stuff. Aside from that, if I died it would devastate my parents, daughter, and hopefully husband.

The only health condition I’m afraid of is dementia. I’ve done a lot of reading about how to reduce my chances of it and thankfully no family history. However, I wouldn’t call it anxiety.

I also am done. But as my DC have experienced the trauma and devastation of losing their DF its the only reason I keep plodding on
Noone knows I feel this way I have a successful career and on the surface like I have it all together.
If I could just go and not leave heartache behind id happily do so.

I’m far more scared of my dc dying before me than dying myself. Losing loved ones is so painful. Far worse than dying imo.

Yes I’m done too

I’ve done loads with my life, I travelled the world for four years.
I’m not a miserable person
Just couldn’t give a shit if I die
Im glad other people seem to be just the same. Only concern being leaving our children with the trauma

I suppose I have not really lost anyone close to me so I don’t really fear anyone dying either

I’m afraid of dying unless it’s instant or in my sleep. My 56yo sister died 2 months ago and the anger, loneliness, pain, that she faced at knowing she was dying unexpectedly was horrific

I'm not scared of the idea of being dead, only the idea of dying from disease or in other painful, drawn-out ways.

Yeah I don’t worry about dying, especially once I got my head into the space where I realised everything just ends. Like an infinite general anaesthetic. I was more apprehensive when I thought I’d have eternity ruminating on my fuck ups.
Im more concerned about growing old and living in a world of increasing inequality where only the incredibly wealthy have a chance at a ‘nice’ life. I don’t see there being much provision re health care/pensions etc once I’m in my 80’s so I’d rather not be in my 80’s.

I've never had any fear of death - and I don't have children so I don't have anyone to worry about being left.

I have a really happy life, but oddly if I died tomorrow I'd be at peace with that!

Even with privilege, this is a tough old world to live in.

I feel so different to this. I love the world and am really sad I only get one shortish lifetime and that I already have more behind me than ahead. My life has included trauma and big mistakes and many things I can't now change but the beauty of nature inspires me.

I quite look forward to dying. Just afraid of suffering or becoming a vegetable. I feel more dead than alive most of the time so it won't change much😅

I'm actually terrified of dying. I have nightmares about it. I wake up in the night with a sense of dread that one day I'll die. I've had a traumatic life, and I'm actually amazed I made it to 40 because I didn't think I would. I have dark thoughts quite regularly and I have sort of given myself around 5 more years. But even so death scares the crap out of me.
I watch NDE's on YouTube to try and reassure myself. The vast majority of experiences are positive.

Can I ask what is actually scary about it?
is it pain? Or leaving people? Or something else?

Just think - we're only returning to where we were before we were born.

Wherever that is - afterlife, nothingness - we've already been there. That's how I feel, I find it comforting.

I kept going while my kids were teens.

i was in an accident that left me in a wheelchair and in permanent pain.

now they’re grown I can live life at a slower pace and I actually have much more enjoyment and happiness in my life.

i’m not scared of dying (although I’d prefer the process to be as painless as possible) but I do now enjoy life.

I remember once being on an airplane and my sister was terrified. I asked, why? In case we all die, she said. I was genuinely confused as dying together, the whole family unit, was quite acceptable to me, no-one left behind. But then, I am depressed and can’t believe how stressful adulting is, all those responsibilities. Having kids makes it all that much harder, like doing life with your hands tied behind your back. I assume you’re depressed, too?

Well I’ve got an aggressive cancer and two young adult DC’s, partner and living parents. I’m terrified of dying and in pain!

My life is certainly very difficult at the moment due to a seriously ill child and marriage issues. But I have always felt like this and my life was pretty good up until a year ago.

Well, you're in good company. I feel exactly the same and I mean that. Some massive trauma(s) occurred in my life and doubtless they must have in yours, too. Otherwise, why would you be thinking this? Why wouldn't you care about whether you live or die? For me, I know now that I threw in the towel when my son's father took his life. That was nearly 32 years ago now. Then our son did too, earlier this year.

You may think you don't matter and that dying would all be fabulous - or not, just slipping into nothing.

I keep plodding day to day because I have to for my girls, but I've already made the decision that when I'm ready, I'll take a massive overdose and exit quietly - but only once I've sorted out everything to ensure my other kids don't have to sort or worry about anything.

It is extremely hard work being alive. The social face, the work face, the pay the bills face, the I'm OK face. I'm tired. There are things I want to do and see, but getting to my loved ones takes precedent for me and when everything is sorted I'm off - no regrets. :)