Partner on holiday without me

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Thanks for reading this long post.
I'm an overthinker, as I have combined ADHD with acute symptoms. My partner and I have a close, loving relationship and have been together almost six years. We're definitely each other's love of our lives. We've not had a holiday together, due to debts from when his his business ceased trading during covid, me unable to hold a job for long (ADHD), as well as me having severe osteoarthritis and waiting to have knees and hipsreplaced, as well as degenerative disc and spine disease. Just added that so it's clear I'm in pain.

I struggle with being stuck home alone and chronic loneliness. We've had many weekends away but not a week or overseas. A few months ago, my partner received a payout and said that he's taking his children away. M 20, F17. He added his parents, then his kids' gf, bf. He said that he'd ask kids if okay for me to go too, as it's a family holiday. I said if he has to ask, then I'm not going! In nutshell, many reasons why others can't go. So he and daughter now on holiday in Cyprus. He calls few times a day. He's told me that I need to choose holiday for 2 of us. Won't be this year cos of weather, affordability, taking leave. Idk how to feel.
Am I being a spoiled brat thinking holiday should be us?
Should I be happy to wait 8 months for our holiday?
I'd hate their holiday- all inc, sat by pool anyway! Please be kind as I'm ultra sensitive. I'm grateful for your comments.

You may prefer to go this year but you can't afford it until after January.
That's life. We live according to our finances.

You’re being unreasonable in the sense that he can go on holidays without you and that’s not an issue, but if after 6 years I wasn’t considered part of the family, I’d be rethinking the entire relationship. I think I’d be really hurt.

Why is he going off on holidays inviting people left right and centre instead of paying off the debt though? Unless the money was enough for both things?

Does your partner actually live with you ?
as you don't see very much of him - every 2nd friday evening for a weekend.

A you can’t afford a holiday yet anyway and you’re wondering if that means he shouldn’t be allowed to go away with his daughter?

That is incredibly self centred. His daughter comes before you and if he wanted to go away with his children, as he should, then it is right that he does whatever makes it most comfortable for them.

It also comes across as selfish that you wouldn’t like the type of holiday they have chosen and think your partner should be doing your holiday the way you want.

Your partners life and the world, does not revolve around ypu.

You sound more and more unreasonable with every post.

I think that as this holiday presumably cost far less than expected with 2 people going rather than 8 he can surely take you somewhere this year as well?

You don’t sound well enough and would spoil their holiday, much better he takes his kids away, you can’t wait until you are well enough to enjoy a holiday.

' unable to hold a job for long (ADHD), as well as me having severe osteoarthritis and waiting to have knees and hipsreplaced, as well as degenerative disc and spine disease. Just added that so it's clear I'm in pain.'

Do you really think / believe you are well enough to go on holiday ?

how on earth do you think you will cope on a plane, in a confined space where you are sat for hours