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Toothfairyteller · 2025-08-08T16:07:51+00:00

Dc wanted a visit from the tooth fairy so spent about 24 hours wobbling and wobbling a slightly wobbly tooth to make it come out. Tooth fairy came and brought money but told them to be careful not to get rid of teeth before they’re ready! They’ve done it again with a tooth that wasn’t wobbly before the other one came out but now they had access they went at it until it came out. It wasn’t ready and they had to really yank it out but they are so desperate for another tooth fairy visit. Aibu to send a letter from the tooth fairy but no money this time? I haven’t made up my mind either way. I’ve talked to friends in RL and some have said no way should I leave money and some have said I should. I don’t want dc to do it again. YABU: leave money YANBU: don’t leave any money Any suggestions on what should go in the letter to warn them off doing it again?

Pessismistic · 09/08/2025 19:02

Tooth fairy is on holiday so you give him a pound or whatever then say the tooth fairy is only allowed to leave money when the tooth falls out not pulled out. The last thing you want is for him to keep doing this.

SnugglyJumpersMakeItBetter · 09/08/2025 19:11

edwinbear · 08/08/2025 23:35

13 yr old DD had to have 4 adult teeth extracted by the dentist before she had braces fitted. She was a bloody (pun intended) trooper over it and made a joke about whether the tooth fairy was going to come that night. I stuck £20 under her pillow and a ‘note’ from the tooth fairy saying adult teeth were worth more 🤣.

Your DC’s baby teeth will come out, does it really matter if they wobble them out a bit earlier than intended? I guarantee from DD’s experience, it’s not easy getting teeth out that don’t want to come out!

Haha! When I had my wisdom teeth out at 14 it was under GA, and as I was coming round I burbled on and on to the nurse asking her repeatedly whether she thought the tooth fairy would come! I was joking but I'm not sure that translated in my drugged-up state! I still cringe about that! 😳

Midnightlove · 09/08/2025 20:25

I hate all this using santa/the elf/tooth fairies to disapline kids.. it's supposed to be a nice thing. Imagine waking up to a letter all wrapped up pretty and finding that inside it 🙄

IsThistheMiddleofNowhere · 10/08/2025 01:38

I'd leave the money. All kids wobble their teeth out. A letter with a ribbon around it won't be special to a child when it's the money they are after. I'm not even sure when this fairy letter writing started. My parents just used to leave the coin under my pillow and I was delighted, i didn't need any letter.

chevaldecamargue · 10/08/2025 10:10

I used to write little notes with my kids' teeth (usually because I had to apologise for the payment being 'late' as I was so ridiculously busy at the time with working, studying, kids etc). My children are now grown up but what they remember is not the money but the notes - I wrote them in curly writing in different colours/ gold pens and wrote that the reason for the delay was that I (fairy) had been busy building castles out of the other teeth, but thanks so much for this beautiful tooth - we plan to use it for a new bridge across the moat/ new fairy fountain/ path to the castle gardens etc. They absolutely loved it and were just talking about it recently (along with the tripwire they devised one year for Father Christmas!).
I think if you make the note a lovely thing, but then write something like 'thank you for your beautiful tooth - we're hoping to use it for the fairy blah blah. ps try not to wiggle your tooth TOO much to get it out - we don't want you to hurt yourself/damage your lovely new teeth that are coming through. Thanks (DS name), love Tia the Tooth Fairy' Or something! I'd have to check first if it does actually damage the big teeth; not sure it does?
With the money, I used to give pound coins as I thought the gold coins worked well with the fairy thing. Not sure it matters whether you include money or not this time - I just probably wouldn't give too much.

Marmiv87 · 10/08/2025 10:20

Sorry but that’s not special, it’s really cruel !!

He is a child for gods sake

This seesm more about control than anything

Ah I feel sad for him :(

JamDisaster · 11/08/2025 09:10

chevaldecamargue · 10/08/2025 10:10

I used to write little notes with my kids' teeth (usually because I had to apologise for the payment being 'late' as I was so ridiculously busy at the time with working, studying, kids etc). My children are now grown up but what they remember is not the money but the notes - I wrote them in curly writing in different colours/ gold pens and wrote that the reason for the delay was that I (fairy) had been busy building castles out of the other teeth, but thanks so much for this beautiful tooth - we plan to use it for a new bridge across the moat/ new fairy fountain/ path to the castle gardens etc. They absolutely loved it and were just talking about it recently (along with the tripwire they devised one year for Father Christmas!).
I think if you make the note a lovely thing, but then write something like 'thank you for your beautiful tooth - we're hoping to use it for the fairy blah blah. ps try not to wiggle your tooth TOO much to get it out - we don't want you to hurt yourself/damage your lovely new teeth that are coming through. Thanks (DS name), love Tia the Tooth Fairy' Or something! I'd have to check first if it does actually damage the big teeth; not sure it does?
With the money, I used to give pound coins as I thought the gold coins worked well with the fairy thing. Not sure it matters whether you include money or not this time - I just probably wouldn't give too much.

There’s a big difference between note+money and just a note, especially if that note is delivering a bollocking.

Honestly, what is this thing for outsourcing parenting to fiction characters? In the short term he’ll feel gutted that the tooth fairy didn’t bring him any money (despite the fact that she presumably comes to all his friends irrespective of whether they’ve been wobbling the teeth out). In the longer term the penny will drop and he’ll feel completely betrayed. Just put a quid under his pillow and tell him yourself that he shouldn’t be wobbling them out, it’s not difficult.

BrightGreenPoet · 16/08/2025 17:15

YABU

You're about to destroy the tooth fairy for your kid!!!!!

Do you have any idea how hard it is to pull a tooth???? Go to the dentist and watch them do an extraction. They don't just pop out like chicklets. If your child's tooth came out, it was already loose even if they pulled at it.

It is not uncommon for kids to lose a bunch of teeth all at the same time. My 9 y/o lost three teeth within a week a few months back and he doesn't fiddle with them, they won't even be loose sometimes and will just pop out. When he was younger the front ones all came out around the same time as well.

Don't be an AH and wreck this for your kid!