To send a letter from the tooth fairy but no money?

[Toothfairyteller]

Dc wanted a visit from the tooth fairy so spent about 24 hours wobbling and wobbling a slightly wobbly tooth to make it come out.
Tooth fairy came and brought money but told them to be careful not to get rid of teeth before they’re ready!

They’ve done it again with a tooth that wasn’t wobbly before the other one came out but now they had access they went at it until it came out. It wasn’t ready and they had to really yank it out but they are so desperate for another tooth fairy visit.

Aibu to send a letter from the tooth fairy but no money this time?

I haven’t made up my mind either way. I’ve talked to friends in RL and some have said no way should I leave money and some have said I should. I don’t want dc to do it again.

YABU: leave money
YANBU: don’t leave any money

Any suggestions on what should go in the letter to warn them off doing it again?

I actually think this is really quite mean.
I hope you’re ready to deal with a very sad little boy tomorrow. I don’t think you should use tooth fairy or Santa to discipline a child. Just give him his tooth fairy money and then a very serious word tomorrow about not messing with our teeth.

Quite. It’s supposed to be fun.

Jesus. He's a kid. Young enough to believe in the tooth fairy. And you've pulled this punishing, uptight, mean little move on him. And feel justified!

I’d leave money. But perhaps less than usual to discourage more pulling.

A tooth won’t just come out unless it’s ready to - ffs give the child the money.

Tooth fairy sounds like a right miserable cow in your house

Then dentist told my son to wobble his teeth when they get loose to help them along.

Do not do this. Why does it matter if they wobble it and get it out that way? Kids have done this for decades (and probably centuries!) with no harm done. What a horrible thing to effectively punish them for. Really mean.

just leave the money

Poor kid 😢 Wish I knew the address to drop £2 off from the tooth fairy 🤣

Joyless

I really don't understand where you are coming from on this one, why would pulling it out mean they don't get the money? I would most definitely give them the money

Tell them the truth -that government cutbacks mean the tooth fairy is overstretched, and the number of visits had to be cut.

But why? It won't make any difference in the long run and anyway, if the tooth wasn’t nearly ready to come out anyway he wouldn’t have been able to wobble it out.

Seems mean to me. Poor boy. It’s a good way to give him hang-ups about teeth coming out in future. And how are you going to police what’s going on inside his mouth?

Even if it was already wobbly?

The kid’s going to have teeth uncomfortably hanging on by a thread after this because he will be too worried to touch them in case the tooth fairy says no again

Yes.

I didn’t say that OP should not give money - I actually said she should. That has. I thing to do with whether wobbling baby teeth damages gums and adult teeth.

It tends to be far mess complicated if people just stop lying to there kids about fairies. Imagine if nobody had ever told him about it? Would he still be yanking teeth out to get money?

I agree with leaving a note @Toothfairyteller but I maybe would've have left less money than normal as the tooth wasn't ready and a line about checking with mummy if the next tooth is wobbly enough to be wobbled out so they get the full amount next time.
Appreciate I'm too late to the party now as whatever you decided to do has been done! Are you happy to provide an update and let us know the final decision and the reaction? Understand if you're not!

I did this with my Dd, her friends teeth were starting to come out and she was jealous, so I wrote a message from the tooth fairy to say well done for looking after her teeth so well and left her a shiny £1 coin 🙂

If they were able to pull them out they were clearly ready to come out. Why does it matter whether you give them that money now or in a couple of weeks? It's coming out either way.

It surely wouldn’t be possible for a child to pull out a tooth that is not at all ready to come out?! They are so solid! Sounds like it was starting to make its way out, and he has just given it a helping hand. I think you’re making a weirdly big deal out of it!

This year two of my sons adult teeth were coming in high without any sign of the baby teeth coming out below it, so the dentist pulled them out and one of the few consolations of the injection and pulled teeth for him was double tooth fairy money that night.

You might shoot yourself in the foot with this 'not paying as they didn't come out naturally' part if they need dental work later on...

I don’t think OP is worried about the money aspect, it’s more her son yanking at non wobbly teeth.

Makes me wonder if OP is generally resistant to him growing up and has a tendency to punish him for not staying a baby!