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Racist vigilantes on local FB page

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FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 15:42

I live in a small town with a military history. As such, we have had quite a few Afghan refugees settled here.

A few days ago, a woman posted to say that an Afghan refugee had been in the park and walking around watching her toddler. She turned away to feed her other child, and when she turned back, he was holding her toddler and walking off. She asked her sister who was with her to go and get the toddler back. Then, apparently, he said no to the sister several times and said he was taking the toddler home with him. Eventually, the toddler was returned.

Cue extensive outrage all over the Facebook page. Comments calling for riots and violence, comments locating the man involved, comments getting a few men together for a game of "human football"... Obviously people asked why she hadn't called the police and she said she had but they weren't interested.

Anyway, then there are posts of the man in different locations and people threatening to go after him.

Then, it turns out, the woman has partly lied and partly told half-truths about the whole things. Firstly, not a local Afghan refugee at all. Not local, on holiday. Not Afghan, police confirmed he's not Afghan but didn't say what he is. Not a refugee, here on holiday (we live in a touristy place). Police also confirmed it wasn't reported to them until the evening - and also that the report was made by a man. So, she didn't report to the police - just to Facebook.

It also turns out, the man was in the park with his own children (she made it sound like he was there alone) and that the toddler approached him, while the mum wasn't paying any attention, and asked to be picked up. And, of course, very strange that if a man were walking off with your toddler, you'd just ask him nicely to put them down...

Frankly, I feel really uncomfortable by this. This woman has blatantly lied and misled people to try and rile up a riot. I'm also scared by how many people were commenting incredibly racist things and calling for violence against (what turned out to be) an entirely innocent man. I'm really shocked, and I like where I live less now.

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FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:17

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:17

She answered above

Yes, I know, just seen

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:18

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:17

Just seen this.
Ok. Who's race baiting though?

Mostly right wing people. Left wing people create the issues that leads to the baiting being ‘effective’. That’s my belief.

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:18

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Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:19

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:18

Mostly right wing people. Left wing people create the issues that leads to the baiting being ‘effective’. That’s my belief.

It's clear what's going on. I've just cancelled my subs with MN.

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:20

It's not rocket science.

Afghan refugees were brought after the Taliban took control. Lots of people in Afghanistan assisted our military fighting against the Taliban by doing things like fighting alongside them or doing translation/interpreting for us. Now, under Taliban rule, they'll be killed in Afghanistan because they helped us. So, we brought them over here and assisted with finding them housing. And that housing is owned by the military. And these people still often work for/with our military. So they're largely in military towns.

I'm sure you have a problem with that too.

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Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:21

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:20

It's not rocket science.

Afghan refugees were brought after the Taliban took control. Lots of people in Afghanistan assisted our military fighting against the Taliban by doing things like fighting alongside them or doing translation/interpreting for us. Now, under Taliban rule, they'll be killed in Afghanistan because they helped us. So, we brought them over here and assisted with finding them housing. And that housing is owned by the military. And these people still often work for/with our military. So they're largely in military towns.

I'm sure you have a problem with that too.

Nice after thought.

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:24

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Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:25

whatsoccuring5 · 08/08/2025 17:07

Also I can’t stop laughing that you said Bordon is a touristy place 🤣🤯🙈🙌🏼

There's much to laugh about this thread.

Simonjt · 08/08/2025 19:26

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Why only on white girls?

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:26

Just asked for my last comment to be withdrawn as I think I read the comment I was replying to wrong.

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:28

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FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:28

Simonjt · 08/08/2025 19:26

Why only on white girls?

Yes, I'm concerned about attacks on all girls, not just white ones.

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:29

Simonjt · 08/08/2025 19:26

Why only on white girls?

OK, all girls, of any race,religion or age.

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:30

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:28

Yes, I'm concerned about attacks on all girls, not just white ones.

I'm concerned about being vigilant of all sexual predators and less concerned about speaking out for fear of being called a racist. Aren't you?

whatsoccuring55 · 08/08/2025 19:30

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Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:32

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👏 they've lost my subscription.

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:33

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Because it's not lies - it's completely and totally true. You just don't like that it's true because you believed her post and now feel duped.

I am superior to racists - I don't think that's a high bar.

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FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:34

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Which bit is a lie? FB vigilantes in groups are a real concern, one of my local ones is a total cesspit which has tried to create a pile on some men sat in a park on a bench before.
I've literally just seen one on Twitter too today, some one posting a video of a couple of men (black) playing in a park with a couple of white girls.
Turns out it was the grandfather. It honestly makes me sick the way people jump in, somebody's going to end up getting hurt or worse.

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:35

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:33

Because it's not lies - it's completely and totally true. You just don't like that it's true because you believed her post and now feel duped.

I am superior to racists - I don't think that's a high bar.

You might be superior to racists but that only applies if they are actually racists. Otherwise..well..I'm going to wipe my feet on the way out of this thread.

LakieLady · 08/08/2025 19:36

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 16:27

You're right but I find it useful. Things like the nearby a-road always being closed for a crash or getting advice on local mechanics/dog trainers/etc.

I use the AA website or local paper online for traffic news, and Next Door for recommendations for tradesment etc.

whatsoccuring55 · 08/08/2025 19:36

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:35

You might be superior to racists but that only applies if they are actually racists. Otherwise..well..I'm going to wipe my feet on the way out of this thread.

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Exactly! Every person who has a different opinion to the OP is “racist”

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:37

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:35

You might be superior to racists but that only applies if they are actually racists. Otherwise..well..I'm going to wipe my feet on the way out of this thread.

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Ok, I'm superior to people who lie about their child almost being kidnapped, regardless of whether racism was their motive for lying about it.

Bye.🖐

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Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:39

whatsoccuring55 · 08/08/2025 19:36

Exactly! Every person who has a different opinion to the OP is “racist”

Can't believe MN are deleting posts but I think I do. It's lynch mob mentality in reverse. Look forward to seeing the same heavy handed deletions, when it comes to the MANY antisemitic posts.

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:39

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:37

Ok, I'm superior to people who lie about their child almost being kidnapped, regardless of whether racism was their motive for lying about it.

Bye.🖐

Bye love x

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:39

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:35

You might be superior to racists but that only applies if they are actually racists. Otherwise..well..I'm going to wipe my feet on the way out of this thread.

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Trouble with that though is actual racists will swear blind they're not racist either, and truly believe it.
That they're "just with reasonable concerns" or whatever.