To think you can’t take a man with painted nails seriously?

[ThisSunnyBiscuit]

I know people say “it’s just nail polish” but I can’t help feeling like a man with painted nails instantly loses credibility. Whether it’s in a corporate setting or just in everyday life, it gives off a certain vibe that makes it hard to take him seriously.

It’s not about being closed-minded, it’s just that some things don’t translate well across genders. Am I being unreasonable or do others feel the same?

Don’t nail places often say “nail care for ladies and gentlemen”?

And I think that so many societal problems are precisely because of rigid gender roles. Men probably wouldn’t want to pretend to be women if they were “allowed” to paint their nails. Some men are told they must never show emotion, so they build up with frustration: this may be one reason for the imbalance in prison population.

One can only assume that a woman having unpainted nails is somehow compromising her femininity.

2 words. Martin Gore.😂

2 more, Brian Molko. 😍

Welcome to MN

Where Men are always in the wrong

And Men can't talk about how women look or say something makes them look less attractive but MN can judge Men and call them unattractive (mostly for not conforming to gender norms...)

This is toxic masculinity people.

Kurt Cobain

You say you’re not being closed minded but that’s exactly what you’re being.

Nail varnish is just a colour put on the part of the body. Ask yourself the question why is that only ok for one gender? It’s just a colour on nails.

It’s madness that in today’s world we still categorise people and things and say one thing is only ok for girls and one thing is only for boys.

Clothes are literally just bits of material that we put on our body so we’re not naked. Why does it matter in which way that material is cut or shaped. (skirt, trousers etc) or what colour it is?

If men start putting polish on there nails the next thing you know women will start wearing trousers!!?! It's madness, I tell you!!!

When I was a teenager I was super into him and absolutely on board with guys who wore nail varnish but now, as an adult woman, while I like men with nice nails, I would be absolutely turned off by them wearing coloured nail varnish. I like a bit more masculinity these days.

@TerracottaWorrier what characteristics define masculinity for you?

Wouldn't care if they are painted, as long as they aren't long. That would be gross.

If we actually just let everyone wear the clothes they are comfortable in, the hairstyles they like, make up, nail polish, Mohawks, whatever, then perhaps there would be fewer confused people who think that because they like pink and having long hair that makes them a woman.
we need to stop trying to make everyone fit in a rigid definition and just let everyone be!

Mostly it's men policing themselves and other men, and fearing catching The Gay or The Feminine.

Cry about it somewhere else, Howard. I'll be turned on by whatever I like. 😘

Did you not read the OP? And the many posts in this thread from women saying they'd look down on men with nail polish? It's not just men judging men for expressing traditionally feminine traits.

Finding it hard to back up your position by answering a simple question, huh? Quelle surprise.

I am reading this question as, take a man seriously as a potential mate, for clarity. While I quietly judge people's style choices, I do allow qualifications and experience to guide my degree of trust in their abilities.

I treat masculinity and femininity as legible performances of gender within culture. They have something but not everything to do with biological sex.

Seems plenty of women here judging....

So masculinity to you is centred on what you personally find attractive? So you have no opinion whatsoever of the masculinity of your father, brothers, uncles, sons, nephews etc? It's just what turns you on?

Wow. How spectacularly reductive.

They can wear what they want. I’ve seen plenty of men carry off dresses and heels better than me! I’d rather painted nails than dirty ones.

I don't see why men can't wear nail polish like we do, tbh.

Is the chipped half on half wearing off that turns me. It’s lazy looking, dirty scruffy look.

Nice bunch. Presumably accountants or solicitors now?

Is being a goth not compatible with being a solicitor for some reason?

You’d be very surprised where goths end up. We’re secretly everywhere. We always know eachother obviously. There’s a nod