To not want 3 dogs in my house?

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My new boyfriend and I live about an hour away from each other, but we both drive, so travelling isn’t an issue. The catch is, he has 3 dogs. We usually see each other every weekend and take turns staying at each other's places.

He recently asked if he could start bringing the dogs along when he stays at my house as it’s difficult for him to find someone to watch them over the weekend (his brother and a friend have been helping him out so far). The thing is, my house isn’t very big. It’s only a 2 bedroom, and the second bedroom is tiny. I only moved in at the start of the year, and I’ve decorated it and put in new carpets throughout. Plus, my garden isn’t secure for dogs, so they could easily escape.

Two of the dogs aren’t fully house trained yet either and tend to have accidents. His place has laminate flooring downstairs, which makes it easier for him to clean up. I love animals and enjoy spending time with the dogs when I’m at his place, but there’s a huge difference between having 1 dog and 3, and I think it would be easier for me to spend more time at his place rather than him bringing all of them here (and potentially wrecking my house). I feel guilty though, like I’m leaving them out.

Would it be unreasonable for me to say no?

Just to answer the people horrified by adult dogs who are not housetrained.

Rescue dogs, who in my opinion are the only dogs we should be adopting, are often not housetrained, particularly when they come from abroad.

My boy was on the street for the first two years of his life. He's never had a home before. He has picked up the house training very quickly, but still has an accident over night once in a while.

A tip the trainer told me is to take a dog though any new house straight to the garden and wait until they go to the loo - as apparently the first place they do this, will be their marked spot for the future.

Think of war zone dogs rescued from Ukraine and what they've been through. I imagine their trauma might make them prone to a pee accident once in a while.

Please op, throw this man back into the dating pool. You deserve someone who is suitable for you, and so does he.

Say he does have special rescue dogs that are on the long term path the house training. He has three and he leaves them every other weekend? Really?

Yes, this always puzzles me. Dogs are a huge commitment and lots of work - a bit like children. They also need lots of space (except for some breeds of small dogs) and I can never understand how or why people have multiple dogs unless they have lots of space for them and lots of time.

it’s not a good sign that your boyfriend is even suggesting bringing them to your place.

No YANBU. I like dogs but they are dirty and smelly and if they’re not house trained then it’ll be a nightmare for you. Does he let them in the sofa and beds too? If so, you’ll spend the whole time shooing them off.

A while lot better than what they've come from darling 😘

If your very specific scenario here is accurate, I would dump him because I'd expect a man taking on a large commitment of at least two rescue dogs from abroad who are so traumatised that they're pissing all over the house still to stay home with them and train and settle them rather than ditching them with his brother every other weekend to have a sleepover with me.
Either way, he needs to train his dogs and I bet his house stinks 🤢

No man is worth 3 untrained dogs and mess. It would be a hell no from me

one of two things will happen. 1. He dumps you, or 2. He gets rid of the dogs and blames you for his loss.

Other outcomes are possible, e.g. 3. He gets rid of the dogs and quickly realises that not having three dogs frees up a lot of time for other things, and that sleepovers with his girlfriend are much more enjoyable than mopping up dog piss.

Who needs 3 dogs? It would be a hard no from me op.

Could he buy a "cage" for them to be in while inside (or outside as well unless he builds a fence to keep them in), and put an old mat/carpet in it to protect your floor?

Or buy a shed for them at night? Many dogs sleep in sheds quite happily, maybe a run to somewhere to have a pee).

I wouldn't want them either, but used to have 3 cats and often babysat my DDs cat at our house while she was away. We were planning on a run outside for her but as it happened she was safe without one - we called her "Portable"!

You need to go to his place, but this may not be the guy for you.
3 dogs are a huge responsibility.
Dogs are great if thats your bag.
But I certainly wouldn't have 3 in my house leaving their smells and marks on furniture and flooring, not to mind accidents.

I dont disagree but I why go out with somone who has 3 dogs in the first place?

I love dogs.

YANBU to not accommodate the non house trained dogs.

they are dogs, it’s ok to leave them out. they will ruin your house and it will smell. go to his

A non house trained dog would never be entering my house. Are these new puppies that he’s recently got? If not then why has he not trained them?

A non house trained dog would never be entering my house. Are these new puppies that he’s recently got? If not then why has he not trained them?

You are well within your rights to feel how you feel.
I was dating someone who had 3 dogs I'm not kidding it was a dealbreaker I ended the relationship.
They took over his house they didnt stop barking he would let them jump on me piss and shit where they slept .
I like dogs but not the type he had those French bullies it stressed me out .
Was a shame because I liked him but the dogs came before everything so no .
One dog is fine as long as house trained and well behaved .

😩me too.

OP, how did this pan out in the end?