My mind has actually been blown...

[lanbro]

Saw my dsis yesterday, her xp, df of her child, is looking after his work friend's 2yo for a fortnight whilst her dps holiday alone....

Xp is dropping his own dd at nursery, friend's dd at her nursery in the opposite direction, then going to work, and obviously reverse at the end of the day.

Xp is a people pleaser, likely didn't know how to say no, but admits the toddler doesn't seem to have a clue what's going on

AIBU that you don't ask a work friend to look after your toddler for 2 weeks whilst you holiday without them? Not a funeral, a wedding, a long weekend, a necessary work trip, but a 2 week adult only pleasure holiday?! Mind. Blown that people think this is ok?!

The whole purpose of Mumsnet is to be judgey about other people's choices!

Yes, I'm judging, and actually since I started this thread I have met the little girl and spoken to my xbil about it...I won't go into detail as it could be outing for the parents but suffice to say I'm even more blown away, and judging more

I will say the little girl seems very happy, and seems well adjusted, maybe she's used to it, but I still thinks it's crazy and I dont care if I'm judging!

Does he even have his own child 2 weeks straight? Weird set up IMO overall

So you've met her and she seems happy and well adjusted so...What's the problem?

Exactly.

Mind blown here too! This is bonkers! 2 weeks is such a long time, I can’t even comprehend. Is this a child he regularly looks after? Can he make medical decisions in an emergency etc? These sound like parents who should have stayed child free.

Well you might do, but your toddler doesn't and it's the toddler who's spending 2 weeks with a strange (to her) man.

It'd actually concern me more if she wasn't bothered about it. You'd expect a child of that age to be distressed if her main caregivers were absent for that length of time.

I was thinking that. Any of mine would have been hysterical if they were left with a stranger for a day never mind a fortnight!

I mean, 2 or 3 nights, leaving them with grandparents at that age, fine. 2 weeks?! With a random work colleague doing pick ups is madness!

I think it's OK to judge in this scenario. 2 weeks is a really long time for a 2 year old and they're very young to be able to understand it really. I doubt most 2 year olds would be really comfortable with this unless with a very close family member that they already spend a significant amount of time with. Although everyone wants a break from their toddler, 2 weeks is too long and likely to cause distress to the child even if they look like they're OK. And I think it's shit he has accepted to do this, he is not putting the child's best interests first