How much alcohol for a 15 year old?

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If your 15 year old was going to a party (supervised by parents at the house) how much alcohol would you allow them to take with them?

None - because she doesn’t want it. Thank god. I did something right

Also I think whilst we were young and did stupid shit, attitudes have changed towards alcohol since.

And I personally wouldn’t send my kid to anyone’s house actively encouraging it at that age.

We had a similar situation last year , with my dd still being 15, going to a friends 16th. We knew the parents well, the friendship group was lovely and my dd is very sensible. When she said the parents had agreed to some alcohol being brought, we agreed on 2 ciders.
Dd had a great evening, drank 1 1/2 cans as she was concerned she’d get drunk.
Not all kids drank actually - there’s quite a group of teens who are not interested in alcohol in the slightest (from my dcs friends) so I don’t think ‘all’ teens will secretly drink if parents don’t allow it

At 15 I had got bored of staying local and was travelling to other cities to go clubbing and drinking like an adult.

My son is far more sensible than I was.

At that age I’d have bought him a 4 pack of fruity cider to take and he’d come home with a couple in his backpack if he hadn’t shared them.

He’s almost 17 now and goes out drinking with his mates at the pubs that will serve him. He’s been extremely drunk once. Now he switches to soft drinks and tends to come home sober or sober-adjacent.

The kids are alright. My generation - Gen X - was/is out of control.

I am on my 5th teen and it would be zero.

Well I think the fact that they are all completely illegal and the second two are absolutely abhorrent makes them slightly different to alcohol 🙄

Yeah I'm an older millennial and we were absolutely wild. I was drunk several nights a week at 16, it's just not the same now. Probably a good thing and maybe we can actually thank the rise of social media for that

Has she asked for something specific to take? I'd start from there and see if it seems reasonable to you. Perhaps suggest she take some non-alcoholic drinks and a few low-alcohol ones if she wants them? Since it sounds like this is her first party of this type, even if she's allowed alcohol at home, I'd have a talk with her about pacing herself, resisting pressure, keeping track of how she's feeling (e.g., the effects of drinking may not hit all at once and it's easy to drink too much without realising), not accepting open containers, etc.

Assuming you're serious.. a bottle of vodka, 6 pack of beer and litre of cider 😏
Honestly, if you have to ask this question maybe have a good think about your parenting skills

Absolute zero

She's had alcohol on maybe 4 occasions, a couple of barbecues and on holiday. She is really quite risk averse in general so I'm not too worried that she'll go wild. We've had all the alcohol conversations and she knows the risks and everything. I'll be picking her up from the party, definitely won't be allowing her to sleep over.

None

Drinking at just turned 15 is also illegal. What the parents are doing is equally illegal. If I knew this was happening, I’d probably report it.

I'm quite happy with my parenting skills, thanks though

Oh I remember being 15 in 2007 and my dad would buy me a little 4-pack of blue WKD if I was going to a house party 😅 I would always be dropped off and picked up though!

I definitely won’t be doing that when my children are older, things are just a bit different nowadays. My teenage nieces and nephews don’t seem to be into drinking anyway so I think there’s a cultural shift.

Her getting access to alcohol at a party is a different question to "how much alcohol will you supply to your under-age child?".

So my answer is- none. Buying a child alcohol is completely irresponsible, and very illegal where i live. Is it not illegal where you are?

I have never ever bought my under-age kids alcohol. They were horrified at first, but quickly got over it. Did they drink under-age? Yes. But it wasn't from me. I am not going to be the one killing their brain cells thanks.

Around that age my mum always said to me if you want to drink with your friends, thats fine, but you do it at home. If you want to try a cigarette, fine, but you do it at home where im safe.
Ive never smoked. Im now 32 and only drink on special occasions. Never got drunk in parks etc as others my age seemed to have. Her being more relaxed took the fun out of it 🤣

Is supplying alcohol to minors not an offence in the UK (where I am assuming you live)? I am in Australia and no parent I know would risk openly allowing children that age to bring alcohol to a party where they were in attendance as they would be deemed liable for supplying. They might turn a blind eye but one complaint from any parent and you risk the police showing up. When mine were that age my job required a Working with Children and an Advanced Police Check so my kids knew very well that they needed to make sure their friends stuck to the rules at our place. Mine were all one of the oldest in their years so we didn’t do 18th parties at home so as not to have to monitor who was old enough to drink.

Ignore all the very naive 'none' people. If there's booze there and she wants some, she'll be having some.

Also, ignore everyone else. There's no right answer here.

Are the parents there going to be keeping an eye on things, or disappearing upstairs and turning a blind eye?

Is your daughter sensible enough to drink only what you send her with? Is she mature enough to understand that you're essentially giving her the freedom of an adult, and that she'll be expected to behave like an adult as a result, and deal with adult consequences if she doesn't? Are you willing to enforce those rules/consequences?

Is she used to drinking alcohol? Does she know her limits?

I grew up in a European country where you could legally drink beer/wine in bars/buy it from supermarkets age 16. My parents were fine with me having a few beers/Smirnoff Ice or whatever with friends from 15. We could blag bars/shops at that age with a bit of makeup/fancy clothes, so there wasn't much they could do about it anyway.

We worked on a trust system: If I had a couple of drinks and came home at a reasonable time in a reasonable state, they were happy to treat me like a young adult. If I came home drunk or late or didn't answer my phone, the consequence was being treated like a child.

I must have read the op wrong, I missed the part where she says ‘they have to take alcohol because I firmly believe my kids absolutely cannot have any fun or a good time without alcohol’. Could you point it out to me?
far more likely she doesn’t think that at all but is being pressured by her child.

Oh dear oh dear. None? Wow. Either you don’t have 15 year olds currently or your 15 year olds arnt going to many parties. My 15 year old (soon to be 16) is going to many 16th’s this summer and all but 1 have been parent supervised with alcohol. Some kids are bringing in bottles of vodka or similar spirits. Some are coming with nothing, leaving the party to pop to the shop any buying some. Don’t agree with bringing spirits that’s just asking for trouble but a couple of cans of mixed alcho pop is fine surely. And if you think there won’t be sprits there you are very naive

No, it’s not an offence here.on private property it’s legal for anyone aged 5 (yes 5) -17 years to drink alcohol at home.
Most 16 year olds have drinks at parties and home and often in pubs with food too.

No it’s not illegal in England. Where do you live?

But it is illegal to buy alcohol for U18 in the UK (with some exceptions for 16 and 17 year olds). So if anything went badly wrong the police can investigate where the alcohol came from/who was supervising the drinking of this alcohol on private premises.

My youngest is 15 and I would not provide any alcohol for her to drink at a party. I would actually say no to the party if I thought not having alcohol was likely to cause any problems - it's ok to still parent your children at 15.

No, I wouldn't. (Maybe I shouldn't bother replying as I don't live in the UK, and it is illegal here until age 19, and drinking culture is slightly differant.)

Australia. So you're allowed to purchase alcohol for a child?? Why don't they just let the kids go and buy their own alcohol then.

In Australia you can get an $11000 fine and/or 12 months jail. The staff at the bottle-o can also be fined, and so if they suspect you are buying it for a minor, they can and frequently do refuse to sell to you.

Kids are allowed to consume alcohol on private property IF they are supervised by a responsible sober adult, and the adult is NOT allowed to continue letting them drink if they are drunk.
That's not to say under-age piss ups happen, they do, constantly. But in terms of the law, you cannot purchase alcohol for minors, and hence that's why I do not buy my kids alcohol.