I grew up in England, parents a bit strict and very big on table manners. I was taught that you wait for everyone to finish eating before you leave the table. If you want to go sooner, you ask to be excused. You wait for everyone to finish eating their dinner before even thinking of your own dessert.
DH grew up in continental Europe. His family ran a restaurant and his parents were always working so they rarely ate together. He doesn’t think it’s a big deal for our DC to get a yoghurt from the fridge while another member of the family is still eating dinner. He says my upbringing sounds overly strict, like boarding school, and he doesn’t want the same for our DC. I think my parents insisted on basic table manners, and I want to teach them to DC.
Who IBU?