Anyone awake to help me with this awful dilemma regarding poorly cat?

[pinotnow]

I do have another thread. I am in pieces and don't know what to do. Previously healthy 10 year old cat became very sick with panting and lethargy yesterday evening. Just heard from the emergency vet who admitted him that he has lots of masses and consolidation on his lungs, pneumonia and the prognosis is guarded. Pts was mentioned yesterday as soon as I took him in but I wanted some tests, of course.

I am supposed to pick him up at around 7.30 to take him straight to my normal vet for referrals, maybe to be admitted there etc. I am supposed to be at work. I'm a teacher and it's my last day, so looks ridiculous to be off as we have all moaned about breaking up so late. I'm also in a senior role with colleagues I am close to finishing and I have the gifts here with me still. Work is half an hour away and we finish at 1. If the vet seems me straight away I suppose I can be there for 10ish, but that's an if. And I'll be in trouble with the head.

I'm going on holiday with my two dc for 2 weeks today to USA - flight tomorrow from SE so we leave tonight for overnight airport hotel. Absolutely can't cancel - would lose pretty much all of the money and massively disappoint dc, one of whom is not an animal lover.

There is no one close to me to deal with this in my absence. Mum is 3 hours away, friends - no one close enough to deal with this. Ex has agreed to look after the poorly cat (normally just use a cat sitter) for ds's sake, but he's not an animal lover. The thought of trying to deal with this long distance and him making costly health decisions about my cat from across the Atlantic makes me feel sick.

I just don't know what to do. I can't deal with this. Please help.

I'm so sorry for your loss OP, but take comfort in the fact you acted in his best interests to save him further pain and suffering. Cats ability to mask pain is extraordinary, and thankfully he was able to let you know whilst you were still at home. Take care of yourselves.

So sorry . You’ve done the right thing for him. Also you would have worried a lot while you were away. Sending big hugs x

So sorry for your loss.

You did the right thing, as painful as it feels now.

I hope you're able to enjoy your hols once you move past the shock of today.

Sending you hugs

So sorry OP. It is the kindest choice.
When it happened to me, the holiday straight afterwards was a blessing really as it provided good distraction from the sadness.

So very sorry op. You did the right thing. My beloved boy was more dog than cat too. Grief is the price we pay for love x

So sorry to hear this. Thinking of you all

I think you did completely the right thing -in those circumstances it's what l would have done.

You've done the right thing and were there for him at the end. It's all we can do for our much loved cats when the time comes.

Virtual hug sent to you from me.x

Just waking up on the other side of the world. So sorry for your loss @pinotnow. You made the right decison for your lovely fellow. It's so hard but it's part of the privilege of having them in our lives. Godspeed ginga boy, hugs to you and the kiddo xx

Oh bless him. You did the kindest thing and as much as you will grieve his loss, you can be at peace knowing there were no other viable options and you did the right thing for him.

Very sorry for your loss, agree that you made the kindest decision for your lovely boy.

I’m so sorry OP,

Having been in very similar heartbreaking decisions for my cats I want to say, you did the right thing.

You gave him a wonderful life, and did the right thing by him in the end.
It’s such a difficult decision in the end and we want them around for as long as possible, but ultimately you have to do the selfless thing, which you did.

💐