To cancel visit today and prioritise myself?

[PalmaViolet1]

I’m three weeks postpartum after having a planned C-section. It’s my second baby and has been a tough transition for us all, especially my toddler. My baby was born at quite a low birth weight so I’m currently breadtfeeding, bottle feeding and pumping (when I can!). I’m feeling anxious, exhausted and hormonal.

Grandparents have already visited and during the last visit my FIL mentioned that my husbands aunt is visiting for a few days (she lives around 2-3 hours away). He wanted to visit with her and his other sister today, and although I felt apprehensive I said yes.

However now the day has come, it’s the last thing I want. The sofa is covered in baby vomit (thank you reflux!), I’ve not showered in days and we’ve averaged 2 hours sleep per night. My husband is still keen for the visit and I would feel awful cancelling as his aunt lives so far away and probably won’t come up again for a long time. I’ve only met her 3-4 times in the 15 years I’ve been with my husband, so it’s rare we see her.

Would I be unreasonable to cancel?

What do you mean your husband is doing as much as he can??? He’s not the one who’s had major surgery after pregnancy!!!! He should be the one doing everything and allowing you to rest!!! You shouldn’t be doing shifts he should be doing the lot!!! Extended family rather than thinking another visits from aunties should be looking after the toddler and allowing you and your husband to get your newborn to a Peadiateician to get the reflux under control. I had severe reflux in both my children from birth and medication is the only thing that worked along with stopping breast feeding as milk protein allergy includes human milk too. Formula which is completely milk protein free was the only way to go along with medication