Boss verbally attacked me

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Fruitbatdancer · 26/07/2025 23:25

so my boss, (a contractor not perm) in the city, post work drinks the other night, went for me after a few beers, by this I mean he ranted at me, in front of a supplier colleague, for about 5 solid minutes, it was relentless and unprofessional. Be was ranting and raving at volume and in my face at me for not agreeing to something he said earlier, but was mistaken as I did agree! He just wasn’t paying attention! He then ranted some more. Asked if I was telling him how to do his job (I wasn’t) I was crying throughout, but out of shock and frustration rather than scared nor because I’d actually done anything bloody wrong!! I haven’t told anyone at work. DH and Bestie think I should as this bloke has form. (Did this before to a supplier)
i was going to drop it, but i can’t get it out of my head how rude and drunk and agressive he was- especially as was about nothing!! And he now knows that.
he’s so senior and temp, I think work would throw book at him. But I don’t want to be ‘that woman’
what would you do?

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99bottlesofkombucha · 27/07/2025 13:13

MolluscMonday · 27/07/2025 07:13

You avoid being “that woman” by reporting it factually and professionally. You have to, really. He can’t get away with that.

“Steve shouted aggressively at me in X bar for over 15 minutes. His tirade included the phrases abc, def, xyz. His volume, tone and verbal aggression reduced me to tears (this did not stop him) and were of such a level that B from Company has both reached out to me personally since and escalated it formally in writing to their superiors.

His behaviour was belittling, bullying and entirely unacceptable. In addition, he has caused me distress (both at the time and since), and has caused damage to D Company’s reputation, and for all these reasons, I have no choice but to formalise this complaint to you and request your appropriate support, action and response.”

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This. Perfect.

MissHollysDolly · 27/07/2025 18:03

You need to report him. But … OP, 5 minutes? Stand up for yourself. “Lets continue this back in the office” “stop talking to me like that“ “you didn’t understand what I said earlier but even so I don’t like your tone” - all extremely polite.

ErrolTheDragon · 27/07/2025 18:17

Iloveloveisland · 27/07/2025 12:53

It's a bit weird that a, supplier would volunteer to get involved in a customer's internal HR issues.

This is someone that they currently have to deal with. They will not want their own staff exposed to this toxic bully again.

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Fruitbatdancer · 27/07/2025 21:16

MissHollysDolly · 27/07/2025 18:03

Did all this. He didn’t stop. Agree I should
have walked away but was just shocked I think.

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