To think we should be able to remove responses that clearly haven't read the OP?

[Canyoureadthough]

NC'd for this for obvious reasons but it's a real bugbear of mine and happens on almost every thread.

OP will include "currently staying at MIL's house in a rural area with no takeaways/delivery options" and then outline a problem with being able to get dinner because the shops are driving distance and she's over the limit only to discover all the food in the fridge/freezer is off. Every bloody comment will be "why don't you just order a takeaway?" and, more often than not, it's "Jesus! Order a takeaway and unclench OP 🙄It's not hard!!"

OP will write a post saying they have a problem at work or with a nursery or with a builder and say "nothing in the contract about it" or "we didn't have a contract on paper" or whatever it is. And every other response will be "check your contract" - and, again, usually as if the OP is stupid.

And it's not just in response to the OP. On a post about someone breaking their leg, a PP will comment with a story about breaking their arm and how they were advised to use a certain product. Another person will reply "that doesn't help with a broken arm" and the PP will respond with evidence that it does help with a broken arm - just for a dozen posters to go "OP DOESN'T HAVE A BROKEN ARM, WHY ARE YOU PROVIDING LINKS ABOUT BROKEN ARMS!?!?!" and completely missing that they were discussing broken arms at the time.

A post asking for recipes and will mention DS has a dairy allergy. Someone will recommend a recipe with dairy in but will say "I know it has sour cream, do you have a dairy-free equivalent?" and a dozen posters will kick off about "THAT HAS SOUR CREAM IN IT!"

It honestly exhausts me that it feels like most posters can't read. I swear it didn't used to be this bad - I feel like every post has posters just not reading and then getting irate at others because of their own inability to read, and usually being really bloody rude too. Is it just me?!

Wow… not sure I should be flattered or offended that you think I’m AI 🤖 Can I be the overlord type? I assure no artificial intelligence went in to the making of that nonsense post… just old fashioned organic cleverness.

Maybe I should ask chatGP how to remove the burr from your butt for you. 🤷‍♀️

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5380090-to-think-that-gp-related

This thread just came up and sums it up perfectly. OP says she's self-employed and someone replies telling her to book a day of annual leave. OP says that signal is patchy and someone tells her to use her phone data... Like, read!

My one is the poster who opens with a much repeated complaint...

Could you read a book instead?

I could. But I don't struggle to read threads on here

YANBU

There was a recent thread about a lady with severe agoraphobia who was feeling overwhelmed at her mum (who she lives with) having a houseful of kids several times per week... someone suggested she go out for walk when the kids were there.

I think what is more typical on MN is someone making a lengthy OP, and people picking up on the teeniest of details that is barely relevant... and then flaming them into oblivion for it.

if anyone could remove posts they disagreed with it would be mayhem.

I complained about two this morning - both were removed very speedily.

I don't necessarily mean "everyone can remove anything" - more that it should be one of the grounds for the OP to raise with the Mods.

Too often, there are posts where the OP will say she went to Wales on holiday (for example) and drove the whole 6 hour drive there while DH slept but he now won't cook dinner and she's exhausted - someone else with add that when they visited Wales, they stayed overnight in Oxford on the way, they shared the driving with DH doing the three hours to Oxford and them doing the three hours from Oxford to Wales. Other people will then start saying OP stayed in Oxford and that DH actually did half the driving and accuse the OP is lying or drip feeding. Then the whole thread derails and it doesn't matter how many times OP says that she didn't stay in Oxford and didn't share the driving, no one seems able to actually read.

If OP could just go to the mods and ask to remove all the comments accusing her of splitting the driving or staying in Oxford, it'd get the thread back on track.

I mean you might find it less aggravating, no other pesky messy humans to deal with

Maybe you should go read a book then. Then you won't have to deal with pesky threads like mine that appears to have aggravated you...

Ah but i'm not the one trying to police threads, i don't mind the muddle and the chaos, i just skip those posts

I think you should go to the meeting next Tuesday as originally planned and make sure you listen to your friend before making any judgements.

Trouble is @Canyoureadthough , you can't argue with stupid. They'll just beat you to death with experience.

Yet you're trying to tell me not to use the site because I posted something you don't like. The hypocrisy is astounding. You're proving my point quite brilliantly.

Yes, I should really stop trying.

😆

I start reading a thread and have to scroll back to the OP several times to make sure I haven't missed it misread something. The ages of children can appear in the first sentence and people still miss it.

It's also pretty exasperating when the OP has answered the same question several times and people are still asking.

I think people gave shorter attention spans than they use to and can't retain simple information.

I think what would be better is an ability to mark a poster, that then subsequently means you don't see any of their posts. So when you see a 'how old is dc' in a post titled 'my 5yo is bonkers' then you just press a little button and never read anything written by that particular poster ever again.

Yes and no!

One may have read the post thoroughly but not been able to catch up with responses but it's an issue they feel strongly about.

No time to scroll through but just wants to help, then gets torn down by not being updated.

It seems some are constantly reading and being updated during the course of a day/evening. Those who say they're waiting in a hospital, break at work etc, so spend a lot more time perusing.

Whereas others, like me, will pop on for a distraction, simply wanting to communicate with other Mum's issues as well as our own.

So, if someone makes a comment that's irrelevant, is it really such a big deal? Just scroll over, it's really that important or serious in the matrix of real life.

In my experience, I'll read everything if it's short. If it's longer, I'll read everything from the OP and everything else from OP's last update before posting. If there's loads posted since OP last said anything, I don't post because OP isn't active and it benefits no one for me to post.

It matters because it derails the thread and often leaves the OP unable to get an actual response to what they wrote about or being attacked for invented things.

If someone feels strongly enough to need to post then surely they should also feel strongly enough to inform themselves. The behaviour just screams of being desperate to talk but not wanting to listen.

I could apply the same "Just scroll over, it's really that important or serious in the matrix of real life." mantra to the desire to respond to someone else's question without reading the question properly. I think it's rude to waste people's time and the purpose of the post should be to assist or respond to the OP, not for posters to spout whatever irrelevant nonsense they want to.

And though, fortunately, you are in not in charge of the site - you can always ask to have your own thread taken down, out of sheer embarrassment for being an adult human being trawling comments to try to find reasons to justify this completely ridiculous standpoint.

Thank you and I didn't see it from this point of view.

For me, it's just been a case of adding my opinion, often much later on, when I've had time to do it.

You're right and posts do go a much deeper amd I've not read all the comments from 30 pages because I've just not had time to.

Having recently read more responses I've seen the same advice given that I would have given and will just confirm.

Lesson learnt, truly. Xxx

The op should be a complete post and not a drip feed.

Doesn't make a jot of difference if the OP does a detailed post which includes all relevant info as some MNetters still don't read or should I say comprehend properly! 😬

I absolutely never read the whole thread, can't be arsed, not relevant. I just read all the OPs updates, and respond to that.

But other people are quite entitled to write whatever they want, and we can all just scroll past it, like adults, provided it doesn't break the rules of the site.

I am not suggesting you don't do that btw, I am suggesting the OP learns to stop trying to control the behaviour of other people and reign in her sense of entitlement.