Who will clean the bathroom?

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Person A and person B are having friends round tomorrow and need to clean up. A said to B “we need to do the bathroom today” B said “I thought we would do it tomorrow “ A then reminded B that one friend is arriving tonight so it does need doing today.
A is wfh until 1pm today then plans to go to the gym, walk the dog , do the food shop and cook tea.
B is off today and has looked after the kids and cleaned down stairs this morning. B is doing an activity with the kids this afternoon.

Who will clean the bathroom?

Should it be A the person who mentioned it or should it be B because A mentioned it to B (but didnt ask them to do it)?

Ah, the royal "we". If my DH asks me directly to do something I will if I can, but if he tells me "we" should do anything my response is always 'yes - when are you going to do it?'

A, B has the kids and done cleaning A has free gym time that can be cut back to fit in the bathroom

also A clearly wanted B to do it so B cleaned the downstairs instead

A

Whoever has the time?

I guess it depends how old the kids are and how much looking after them is required, and whether B had time to do more than 1.5 hours cleaning. B probably should have done it if they could.

It’s rather a moot point now though unless you have a time machine.

If it hasn’t been done, A should do it instead of going to the gym. The DC shouldn’t have to miss out on an activity because their parents can’t organise themselves. Plus, if there is housework and childcare to do, there isn’t time for “me time”.

Both A and B need to get a grip. Cleaning the bathroom is a 15 minute job if you do it regularly enough. Either one of you has plenty of time to do it

Hmmm both said "we", maybe suggesting the other person should do it passive aggressively... That said -

A could have been proactive in the first place as they remembered.
B could also have done it as part of 'cleaning downstairs'.

As I type this, I'm wondering if A was trying to get B to do it in the first place! And also, how big/filthy is the bathroom?!

Toss a freakin coin!

All this over cleaning a bloody bathroom.

Ye both sound like you’ve done adequate stuff in relation to the house so I’d say either who suggested it/ both or none as it’s Friday!!!

A&B live together - are they not capable of having a conversation?

Exactly this if you want to ask someone to do something just ask!

Ok so based on how the conversation went. Who would you assume is planning to do the bathroom A or B

A should do it - they have a leisurely afternoon, whereas B is doing full on childcare and has already spent 1 1/2 hours cleaning.

A meant for B to do it by saying" we should clean the bathroom" and B ignored that hint.

A should skip the gym and do it. B seems to have a busier day.
Agree that when A says "we need to", A means B needs to and has no intention of doing it themselves.

A should do it and forgo gym but is totally expecting B to

I think whoever is posting on Mumsnet could have had the bathroom cleaned twice over in the time taken to think about and post this dross

It's a 5 min job isn't it? Squirty spray, bleach down loo, and flush. Wipe basin and bath.

I couldn't be arsed to argue over this.

A should skip the gym and do it based on the fact B has not had any “me time” and has been busy all day too.

I’d say A will clean the bathroom. A took on the mental load of remembering that the bathroom needed cleaning = A is the mum.

No one you both said fuck the bathroom

Good plan

Interesting responses dh was A and im B. Dh always says “we need to…..” when he means can you/would you etc. I’ve talked to him about it on many occasions but he claims he means either of us despite the fact he never does the job. So now I just agree and do the job if I was planning to anyway otherwise the job doesn’t get done.

I'm not being funny but cleaning the bathroom is one of the easier cleans of the house??

changing bedding feck that but I assume one of you has hopefully done that, kitchen bit of a pain, throwing the clutter somewhere hard work

A and B need a rota so their bathroom never gets to the state where 2 people need to potentially do it in order for it to be fit for a guest. It should be in a state at all times where it needs a quick surface clean at best because it is deep cleaned weekly at least.

If that were the case, neither of you would mind spending 15 minutes getting it perfect for guests.

When was the last time the bathroom had a proper clean?

That depends on how often you clean the bathroom. I know someone who if you got in their bathroom for a deep clean to get it guest ready, it coukd easily take 5 hours because it is so bad. And yes, they have kids. SS aren't interested in the state of the home as both parents are professionals and they own their home. Yes they've been reported. I reported them myself. They are my neighbours.