Neighbours son driving me mad!

[Cannotbearsedanymore]

When I mention this, it sounds mad - a kid just playing in his garden!

BUT it is all the time. I mean all day and night he is obsessed with his basket ball and is out in the garden bouncing it and banging it against the hoop constantly.

It is affecting my family big time and don't know what to do, We have communicated with them but no luck.
Please help - I don't know what to do - please be kind - mental health and neurodiversity here. But even the other neighbours are moaning about it next door to me is an elderly couple and over the road are older but even moan.
This hopefully shows you how loud it is as the neighbour is behind my house and people over the road out the front of my house here it constantly too.

It doesn't seem normal and I say obsessed as he is out there ALL the time in ALL weathers day and night playing. It is so noisy, more than you would ever think (high pitched ringing noise) to the point me and my family can't sit outside and enjoy this dry weather as the constant pounding of the ball is so loud and even when inside and the doors are shut you can still hear the thudding of it hitting the ground or the hoop making a racket.

Not only is it noisy but whenever his parents are out (quite often) he is playing music along with him playing basketball. He is an older teenager and I have mentioned a couple of times over the wall if he could please turn down the music or be a bit quieter. He has turned down the music a couple of times but an hour later back at it.

Even without the music the ball is driving me and my family insane. To the point it really is affecting my mental health and I can't focus and the pounding of the ball is genuinely doing my head in.

My husband works from home and it is distracting and when he finishes work all he wants to do is go outside and enjoy some fresh air and chill out but can't so it is driving him mad.

What makes it all the worse is my daughter is autistic and she is sensitive to noise so she is having to wear ear protectors all the time to block out this noise.

It is so unfair and not right is it ?

I never really understood the complaints about basketball noise until I stayed in a hotel recently. It was close to people’s gardens and I kept hearing this persistent thud-thud-thud. It was a lad playing basketball in his back garden and there were lights strung up along the fence so he could play out even longer. I heard it even through double glazing - I did feel for his neighbours! ( also having a hotel looming over them, but that’s a separate issue). Fortunately I was only there for one night, unlike the neighbours….

I was brought up on a council estate and if anyone’s ball went over a fence it stayed there.
I was brought up to be respectful of the neighbours and not make a noise. I’m not sure when everything changed, but this is unacceptable behaviour and it would also drive me mad.
I think that inconsiderate neighbours are a menace , but not much can be done unless you report them or something? I don’t understand why it doesn’t upset his own parents, but they probably go out or just don’t hear it :(
My sympathies op, it must be awful.

Make a noise complaint to your local environmental health department as that sort of loud noise all day is a statutory nuisance noise, just the same as a barking dog.
Keep a noise diary and get as many neighbours as possible to make a complaint aswell. They can be issued with a noise abatement order.
Good luck

Remove the nets during the night?

Meaning the actual basketball hoop, before someone jumps in and says it's not a net that makes a noise

1st step is to start a diary of what times he is out there.
2nd contact your local council and ask for noise recording equipment so that u can record it,
3rd 8f it is after 23.00 or before 07.00 ring the police they will attend as this is classed as antisocial hours (don't just do it once do it every night he's out after 23.00 so that they can build up a picture)

Contact your council and environmental health. There are noise limits, even during the day, and constant noise like this isn’t reasonable. Keep a diary, record the noise, and get all your neighbours to contact them too. Mention you’ve spoken to your neighbours and the son and they are not interested in any sort of compromise. Also contact your local councillor. Good luck. Noise like this is soul destroying and you have my total sympathy.

Can you collectively gather as neighbours and ALL go round - maybe more impactful?

Sorry but it’s none of your business. Yes it might be annoying but he is in HIS garden not yours, he is not throwing it over your fence or damaging your house/property so theres nothing you can do.

I get you and what you’re saying. Some will say it’s just children playing, but until you have lived like this day in and day out like you are at all these times it is very wearing. Working from home sadly homes are not quiet office spaces, however I had to wfh in Covid and I very much feel your pain. Our neighbours had massive building work and the noise was unbelievable (they cut various rsjs bang next to my and my other neighbours house).

I think us as parents should let children play in our gardens, however have the capacity to recognise our kids are a bit noisy and ask them to keep it down, bring them in for a bit or take them out occasionally to give neighbours a break. Or fully accept they’re lovely but also a pain so when neighbours look bewildered to apologise and try to bend somewhere.

Teenagers near us smoke weed / bongs so we are at this phase now.

It's absolutely inconsiderate. He should go to the park if he wants to make that amount of noise.

I believe there are rules about times when noise such as this has to cease. (Maybe 11.00pm - 8.00am?) Maybe it varies from place to place but worth looking into. I feel your pain.

My neighbour's kid plays football a lot, and the ball whacks against the fences and it drives me mad, you have my sympathy OP.

That's not true. Duration and noise location can make a difference. Everyone needs to complain.

You can also give back as good as you get. It's funny how people find solutions when it's their peace being disturbed.

If he’s 16 ish he will be at college/work soon and the problem will solve its itself. People complain about kids being online all the time, at least he’s outside. My grandchildren have trampoline and big pool in garden and the neighbours don’t complain. It will also be end of summer in a couple of months and you can shut the noise out

we don’t know the boy’s circumstances he may be unable to go to the park unsupervised due to it not being safe for him due to underlying health conditions. I know i could never and will never be able to allow my son to go freely to a park no matter how close it was or he may be a victim of bullying and doesn’t feel safe there. There is no mention of other children being in the garden with him so he clearly has no friends and is very isolated.

The noice may be annoying but we don’t know the boys situation. There is never any mention of other children being present so it appears he is very isolated and it seems he has no friends, he may be a victim of bullying which is why the only place he feels safe enough to play is in his OWN garden or there may be other underlying health conditions meaning he has obsessive behaviors in his case playing basketball and making it unsafe for him to go anywhere like a park unaccompanied

That doesn't give him the right to ruin the peace of everyone else in the neighbourhood. He needs to put a cap on it or face a possible complaint.

So you think it’s ok for him to disturb everyone around him for hours and hours a day?

So his constant repetitive noise trumps everyone else’s right to enjoy their homes and gardens? Fuck that.

There are plenty of things he could do to occupy his time at home without disturbing the neighbours.

@Cannotbearsedanymore the one thing you can do is push back on your neighbours complaining to you about the noisy person behind. Tell them to talk to the noisy family/report to the council rather than you.

It's 7am to 11pm.

This rule is unreasonable and allows LAs to do less work. It's not ok for a dog barking all the time at 10.45pm. It's not ok for kids fog horning on a weekend out in the garden at 7.10am.

Anyone with decency and a brain knows this. ( Not aimed at anyone here). The time rules are unreasonable and are not a guide on decent behaviour. It's simply easier to resource.

There are no easy answers to these problems. Even if you had the best evidence then you can't exactly evict them.

OP, I sense a need to be somewhat more assertive. Not hostile, but a bit more assertive with boundaries.

The behaviour is utterly unreasonable.

I have an ND teen with tourettes!! He's not going out making a racket before 9am or after 9pm. Because it's shite behaviour. He goes somewhere else to be loud away from neighbours.

If other neighbours are moaning to you, they need to leave you alone. Not your job.

I think even if this is within the 'ok' hours, it's so persistent and ongoing and you've tried talking. I'd be logging everything for a few weeks then email the council.

I think the issue is more than families are packed in like sardines, tiny gardens, no space between houses. You can hear everything and noise is amplified and reverberates. It’s not a peaceful, enjoyable existence to listen to inconsiderate neighbours, but it’s also not pleasant to feel like you can’t have fun in your own home without disrupting other people in theirs. I can hear my neighbour across the road sneeze inside his house, it’s so loud it sounds like he’s in my bedroom. There is no escape from other people

I completely agree.
In Germany the do it effectively so I don’t know why we can’t here,