Neighbours son driving me mad!

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When I mention this, it sounds mad - a kid just playing in his garden!

BUT it is all the time. I mean all day and night he is obsessed with his basket ball and is out in the garden bouncing it and banging it against the hoop constantly.

It is affecting my family big time and don't know what to do, We have communicated with them but no luck.
Please help - I don't know what to do - please be kind - mental health and neurodiversity here. But even the other neighbours are moaning about it next door to me is an elderly couple and over the road are older but even moan.
This hopefully shows you how loud it is as the neighbour is behind my house and people over the road out the front of my house here it constantly too.

It doesn't seem normal and I say obsessed as he is out there ALL the time in ALL weathers day and night playing. It is so noisy, more than you would ever think (high pitched ringing noise) to the point me and my family can't sit outside and enjoy this dry weather as the constant pounding of the ball is so loud and even when inside and the doors are shut you can still hear the thudding of it hitting the ground or the hoop making a racket.

Not only is it noisy but whenever his parents are out (quite often) he is playing music along with him playing basketball. He is an older teenager and I have mentioned a couple of times over the wall if he could please turn down the music or be a bit quieter. He has turned down the music a couple of times but an hour later back at it.

Even without the music the ball is driving me and my family insane. To the point it really is affecting my mental health and I can't focus and the pounding of the ball is genuinely doing my head in.

My husband works from home and it is distracting and when he finishes work all he wants to do is go outside and enjoy some fresh air and chill out but can't so it is driving him mad.

What makes it all the worse is my daughter is autistic and she is sensitive to noise so she is having to wear ear protectors all the time to block out this noise.

It is so unfair and not right is it ?

You need to shut that down, it'll be making you focus on the noise even more. It sounds as though he could be ND and it works for them. It's about coming to a compromise and the noise stopping at 10 etc. Have you approached environmental health for advice?

Basketball noise is the worst, we had this next door too. It's sort of vibrations not just noise. If the parents are reasonable at all you could invite them round to listen so they know you hear it badly to, but I guess they're not!

YANBU, OP. It would drive me mad, and I feel for you.

Years ago, my neighbours' daughter and another child in our road spent what felt like the entire summer holidays bouncing a football on NDNs' drive. I fantasised about going out there with a knife and puncturing the fucking thing, it was beyond annoying.

I would never buy a property where any close neighbours had a visible basketball net!

I feel for you. We are moving for the 3rd time due to insanely noisey/horrid neighbours.
1st was a screaming mum constantly
2nd an aspiring DJ with decs in his room who used to hold 3 day parties where everyone was on drugs while DJing
3rd (currently in the process) it's just not a nice street. One mum screaming and shouting, smashing stuff up, kids deliberately kicking balls in gardens really hard, drugs first thing in the morning, parties till 3/am

It's a bloody nightmare and people are so inconsiderate

I got my kids a foam basketball. Could you take one to him and next step escalate to council.

@itsmeits

posts like yours make me so cross. Why is it that the op and her family have to buy headphones and walk round with them on on a hot summer day because some teenager is banging away with a basketball? Indeed if you read the post a lot more tha her are affected, should everyone wear headphones so one teen can play basketball?

why shouldn’t the teenager and his family learn to show some consideration? You mention he may be ND, well so it the opsmdaughter should it be a competition as to who is the worse? And why does being ND be a get out? There is no reason why they shouldn’t learn to compromise in the same way NT teens do ( and I say that with ND in my family)

As to suggesting selling what a silly comment, op may like living where she is, why should she go through the expense of moving for one teenagers

Op I would have another word with the parents, ask that they play between certain times so you know when and can prepare. If they wont agree then yes I would report and keep on reporting

I honestly despair at people. The hours the Council refer to are 7am to 11pm as ok for noise. It's ridiculous tbh. Who wants that or a barking dog at 7.05 every morning.

I have learnt that people often give no shits about decency or what is right.

The Council won't do much here I believe but you can certainly say this feels anti social and is therefore an antisocial behaviour issue. You are understandably distressed. Distressed is the word to use.

I have an ND teen. No way he's allowed out being loud after 9 tbh. If he can keep it down then later ok.

I am having a tough time with neighbours. So noisy. Tried speaking, texts and it always creeps back in. You have to rely on people being reasonable and often they're not reasonable. Just self focused dicks.

If you start recording it, you could even consult a solicitor about what you have. And they can send a letter for you. If you decided to record this for say 2 weeks then go from there.

People often do not reason. My neighbours and I are no longer friendly. Because polite requests get ignored.

They could accuse her of all sorts. I've seen this in action. It's not OPs job to do this. I don't advise it either.

She has attempted reasonable conversation already.

This is one of the reasons I am planning to become a recluse, when certain people disappear from my personal space.
I have means and am done with society.
Possibly ND as well.
Sympathies.

Playing basketball should be illegal in the vicinity of other peoples houses!

Old neighbors kids used to play in the back garden and you could hear it all through the house. There was no escape.

Luckily the kids were reasonable and stopped in the evenings after we had a word.

Sounds like a nighttime raid is in order to confiscate the basketball.

I would go round to the neighbour one last time and tell them that if it continues you will make complaints to the Council regarding his ASB.

Seems like someone with no friends. I know a boy like this, teen plays football instead of basketball and is good weather, does so a lot. Helps his self regulate as he’s ND. He’s no friends he can see regularly near him. I don’t think he’d cope without it.

Do teens go to the park to play sport on their own?

I empathise with how difficult it must be for you, but i don’t know what the answer is.

If the neighbours are all equally unhappy about it, can’t you all band together and have a meeting with the family?

It’s not unreasonable to ask to keep it within certain hours or find a ball that’s less noisy, if he’s just doing it to pass time anyways.

That’s all right then. Fuck everyone else. They’ll all have to accommodate want he wants to do. Ffs

I think your focus is on the late or early playing. See if you can speak to the family about stopping earlier due to sleep.

But I think it’s really sad that neighbours (who are always at home these days) can’t see the value in children being in the garden and making noise. It’s better they’re out burning energy than in on a screen.
I feel like expectations have changed so much and years ago summers playing in gardens were acceptable but now it’s not.

I wonder if the aging population plus the WFH system is why.

Jesus, this sounds like an absolute nightmare.

Basketballs are the worst noise to listen to. It sounds like your neighbours have the "I'm alright Jack" attitude - and have absolutely no respect for their immediate neighbours. FFS who allows their kid to play basketball at midnight?!

I would document everything; dates, times etc and also speak to your local council. It may help if you send in a collective letter, signed by all the neighbours who are affected by this.

Some people are so damn selfish. I really feel for you OP.

Could you put your radio on in the garden? So it masks it somewhat.

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What an entitled remark, he might be ND and it might work for the parents may be but it's not working for anyone else!
The fact is that OP doesn't know about the possible medical but she and the other neighbours shouldn't be putting up with it either. ND is not an excuse.

I was in your situation op. To the point I was getting palpitations at night trying to get to sleep knowing I would be woken up at 6am with continuous shouting and screaming.. (Had a lot of heart investigations things were so bad for me.) Of which the council had absolutely no interest in.
I was prescribed Amytriptiline to take at bedtime... Made a big difference

As did moving which we did..
And I am NT but self diagnosed with Misphonia which explains a lot....

Yep, let's blame the oldies for as usual. Bouncing and banging a basket ball ring for hours on end is never acceptable whatever generation is being affected.
As OP previously said the parents often go out so he has music on as well
There is a bit of a difference of young children playing in the garden and a teen blaring music and bouncing a basket ball.

You're not overreacting — this is a genuine issue, especially when it's affecting your family's mental health, sensory needs, and your ability to enjoy your own home.

You are not being unreasonable to be driven mad by the noise, you are being unreasonable to expect him to stop during the daytime.

My best suggestion is noise cancelling headphones. I do sympathise, noise like that can really get in your head.

Yes, because everyone has to dance to the tune of selfish gits and their off spring. I've been in this situation with a football playing kid, a dozen times a day over the fence, mum yelling in the garden because I wasn't rushing out to chuck it back quick enough. She was duly to make a formal complaint if she wanted to the police council or her mum if she wanted to because I didn't give a flying as I was in the process of moving anyway.
Why should anyone have their life impacted by having to wear ear phones for a situation like this that OP finds herself in?
All day is very unreasonable, a hour or two a couple of times a day is more than enough for any thing like that.

How long has this been going on for?
Do you know if he's just done GCSEs and is having a loooong summer?

This would drive me to utter despair.