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to think I can get by without childcare in August because work is quiet?

614 replies

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 15:44

Every August, work slows down massively. It has always been this way. There is barely anything coming in, hardly any meetings or deadlines, and most of my team is off. My manager and her manager are both away for the whole of August, so it is very unlikely anything urgent will come up.

I have primary school-aged kids and I am thinking I might skip childcare this year. I usually only have about one to two hours of work a day in August, and some days there is literally nothing to do at all. Anything that does come up, I can usually fit around the kids early in the morning or after they have gone to bed. I have proper annual leave booked for September when they are back at school, so I will get a proper break then.

Has anyone else done this? Just managed without childcare when work was super quiet?

OP posts:
isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 18:25

Flamingos89 · 24/07/2025 18:21

I could never get away with looking after my kid secretly for the entirety of August. If i needed a day or two I would disclose that Information and inform my employer off my working plan. Mostly to protect myself tbh, and if it’s reasonable I’m pretty sure it would be fine!

Totally appreciate every role is different - your role sounds very stress free and ideal tbh. (Appreciate this may just be August and I don’t know what you do). However, so many people are getting made redundant or let go at the moment because companies across the board are having to look at where costs can be cut. If I could get away with doing so little work for an ENTIRE month, I’d be expecting an awkward call at some point! Also if I was your manager and found out you had been ‘enjoying the summer’ when you were left in charge of the team - I’d absolutely be making cuts!

Edited

What is the point of making cuts? I do my job extremely well. It is the nature of the work that it is very quiet some months. It has been like this for years.

My organisation are not making any cuts or redundancies. They are in a very healthy financial position.

OP posts:
PropertyD · 24/07/2025 18:26

Are you being paid for full time hours? As they are older it would probably be fine but now you are saying you will go out with them and work from your phone.

I cannot help thinking that you are trying to justify saving yourself lots in childcare costs. If it’s really true that you have nothing to do in August just what is the point of your role?

Notsuchafattynow · 24/07/2025 18:26

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 16:29

I will be taking them out. I am not going to sit with them in the house all day for when there is no work or very little work.

Well, in this case you are 100% out of order.

At my place, we'd sack you.

Sundaybananas · 24/07/2025 18:27

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 18:22

It’s completely understood in my team and wider department that August is an extremely quiet period. There are genuinely days where there is no work coming in at all, and that’s been the case for years.

When there is work to do, I do it. I’m not planning to ignore my responsibilities, just to manage them around the kids for a few weeks during a lull, I’m not taking the piss. Work is not neglected.

Edited

Then what is the point of the thread?

Obviously if your work are find with it, then there is no problem.

It read as if you were planning to hide it for some reason, but now you seem to be saying that’s not the case. It’s “completely understood”.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 24/07/2025 18:27

Notsuchafattynow · 24/07/2025 18:26

Well, in this case you are 100% out of order.

At my place, we'd sack you.

OP doesn't work for you, so what you'd do is totally irrelevant.

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 18:27

WhitegreeNcandle · 24/07/2025 18:09

Blimey, how the other half live. I really can’t see how these jobs are going to be around in 5 years time. Whose head do you think is going to be on the chopping board when costs are reviewed? Yup, that person who does bigger all for two months a year.

Even when costs were reviewed in the past, my head was not on the chopping board. They just published their figures and they are doing very well.

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cheesycheesy · 24/07/2025 18:27

Praying4Peace · 24/07/2025 17:49

Well in my experience of looking after children, I have been lucky if I was able to drink a hot cup of tea!

You can’t drink a hot cup of tea with an 8 and 10 year old? I don’t see why unless they have additional needs

RaininSummer · 24/07/2025 18:28

I don't think you should be 'out and about' when you are meant be working but the rest might work I guess.

cheesycheesy · 24/07/2025 18:28

Lots of very bitter and jealous responses here! I wouldn’t usually think wfh with children is a good idea but it makes sense in this situation

nadine90 · 24/07/2025 18:29

I did in my previous job when kids were similar ages and it was fine. I did put them in a few cheap holiday clubs (just 11-3 a couple days a week, and booked days off here and there to do fun things out of the house, but they were old enough to entertain themselves at home while I worked in another room for the most part.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 24/07/2025 18:29

RaininSummer · 24/07/2025 18:28

I don't think you should be 'out and about' when you are meant be working but the rest might work I guess.

Genuinely - why not? If your job only involves the odd e-mail or phone call, why should you be sat inside all day twiddling your thumbs?

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 18:29

PropertyD · 24/07/2025 18:26

Are you being paid for full time hours? As they are older it would probably be fine but now you are saying you will go out with them and work from your phone.

I cannot help thinking that you are trying to justify saving yourself lots in childcare costs. If it’s really true that you have nothing to do in August just what is the point of your role?

Yes, I am paid for my contracted hours and I do work them across the year. Like many roles, the workload naturally ebbs and flows. August happens to be quiet, while other times of the year are extremely busy and require a lot of juggling and extra effort. That is the nature of the job and it is well understood within my team.

If something urgent comes up, I can deal with it quickly. I will still be working when needed, just more flexibly during a quiet period.

As for the point of my role, I think it is unfair to judge the value of a job based on a few quiet weeks. Most jobs have slower periods, especially in certain industries over the summer. That does not mean the role has no purpose the rest of the time.

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PropertyD · 24/07/2025 18:29

Next the OP will claim they are brilliant at the role and they cannot afford to be without her..

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 24/07/2025 18:29

cheesycheesy · 24/07/2025 18:28

Lots of very bitter and jealous responses here! I wouldn’t usually think wfh with children is a good idea but it makes sense in this situation

Yep, the bitterness and jealousy is glaring, isn't it? Grin

Notsuchafattynow · 24/07/2025 18:31

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 24/07/2025 18:27

OP doesn't work for you, so what you'd do is totally irrelevant.

The OP came on for opinions. I gave mine. Otherwise, what's the point?

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 24/07/2025 18:32

Notsuchafattynow · 24/07/2025 18:31

The OP came on for opinions. I gave mine. Otherwise, what's the point?

I mean, you can give your opinion, but saying she'd get sacked at your place of work doesn't really mean anything either way.

Walkerzoo · 24/07/2025 18:32

An odd day yes. I am part time and my employer is flexible (similar ages). But I wouldn't be allowed to go out and about.

I know plenty who do it in the civil service. They WFH, have kids at home and some do a second business from home.

Bushmillsbabe · 24/07/2025 18:32

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 17:38

I am not planning to mention it to anyone. Looking after children while working is not mentioned in my contract.

This is the crux of it for me. If it's absolutely fine and not any problem at all and your employer is happy with you working flexibly as long as the work gets done, then why would you need to hide it.

My test for anything I'm not sure about if it's OK, is 'am I happy to be honest about/can I justify it'?

I often do some work from home either my children there, not whole days, but the hour or 2 from when they finish school to when I finish work. This is agreed with my boss and I work later as necessary if my work is disrupted. So I'm not against doing a bit of work at home with older children present, but I am against dishonesty/not being upfront about your plans.

Confabulations · 24/07/2025 18:33

My mum didn't work. Aged 8+, we were left to do our own thing most of the summer. Told to go out and play in the garden, hang out with our friends, whatever. It would have made no difference if mum had a flexible home based job, we were allowed to be kids and make up our own entertainment.

My own kids were similar age in the covid era. I had no choice about holiday clubs. So I worked full time from home (as per my pre-existing contract). I took one day off a week. Rest of the days, they had to just put up with getting a bit bored, or finding ways not to be. No harm was done. In fact, I got promoted off the back of it!

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 24/07/2025 18:35

Bushmillsbabe · 24/07/2025 18:32

This is the crux of it for me. If it's absolutely fine and not any problem at all and your employer is happy with you working flexibly as long as the work gets done, then why would you need to hide it.

My test for anything I'm not sure about if it's OK, is 'am I happy to be honest about/can I justify it'?

I often do some work from home either my children there, not whole days, but the hour or 2 from when they finish school to when I finish work. This is agreed with my boss and I work later as necessary if my work is disrupted. So I'm not against doing a bit of work at home with older children present, but I am against dishonesty/not being upfront about your plans.

Edited

Yeah, I do think OP needs to be honest - after all, if it's not a problem, then there's nothing to hide.

Flamingos89 · 24/07/2025 18:35

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 18:25

What is the point of making cuts? I do my job extremely well. It is the nature of the work that it is very quiet some months. It has been like this for years.

My organisation are not making any cuts or redundancies. They are in a very healthy financial position.

I don’t know what you do - obviously! But even Doctors are struggling to get work in this economy!!! GP practices literally can’t afford to hire doctors.

Most organisations are making cuts - the point is to save costs to stay afloat as the economy is atrocious!

My point is, yes great you’re able to do this and you have an amazing work life balance, what an ideal job!

I would just be worried that maybe your job isn’t ‘essential’ to the running of the company if you have so much free time or your absence can go unnoticed for SO long. (A month)

Also, it does sound like you are indeed expected to take annual leave during these quiet periods like both your managers. Otherwise just tell them to protect yourself incase you are found out

ThatFlightyTemptressAdventure · 24/07/2025 18:35

Bushmillsbabe · 24/07/2025 18:32

This is the crux of it for me. If it's absolutely fine and not any problem at all and your employer is happy with you working flexibly as long as the work gets done, then why would you need to hide it.

My test for anything I'm not sure about if it's OK, is 'am I happy to be honest about/can I justify it'?

I often do some work from home either my children there, not whole days, but the hour or 2 from when they finish school to when I finish work. This is agreed with my boss and I work later as necessary if my work is disrupted. So I'm not against doing a bit of work at home with older children present, but I am against dishonesty/not being upfront about your plans.

Edited

I came on to say exactly this. If they are so flexible then why can’t you be open about it?

Is there nothing else you could be doing? Our office can be quiet in August so it is when we do some tasks that are difficult to fit in during busy periods.

PropertyD · 24/07/2025 18:37

Gosh yes it’s rife in the civil service. Still they are so efficient - why not? HMRC, Probate Office, Office the Public Guardian, various local authorities. I have to contact one very large local authority a couple of times a month. They quote 1 hour wait time if you call and 6-8 weeks if you send an email.

FourIsNewSix · 24/07/2025 18:39

If your work is organised exactly as you describe here, everyone is on holidays and you are just holding the forth in case something would happen, it might work.

Overall it really seems you don't need full time daily childcare and can use some mixed mode.
I'd still recommend booking some activities for the children - week in the middle, or some random days. It will be more fun for them and you will be able to think and talk about it in the mixed way - some days they are at the activities and some days they are with you.

WimbyAce · 24/07/2025 18:41

If your job is happy with you working like that then fine. So if they see you out and about when you are down to work they are OK with that? If not I would be wary of getting caught.