Would you like to go back to non online dating?

[PassingStranger]

Would you like to ditch all the signing up to websites and apps and trying to match with someone online to meet.

Do you think it would be good if dating were to go back to dating before computers/phones were around.

For example you meet up with someone in real life who matches you,and gets to know you, acts like an agent/matcher. It would take all the trawling through apps and websites away?

Did someone put something abusive, or did someone try to advertise?

If the first one how bad is this place, what on earth was asked that could create a bad response. Some people.

Yes, I would.

It wasn’t a bad response! I have no idea why it was deleted. Sorry 😂 perhaps it was because I named a site!

Oh right lol. Is there a site that does it then?

Basically, to cut a long post shorter, I said that I think since they became mainstream they’re cesspits now. Before they became popular most people on them were genuinely looking for love.

I think online dating has its place because it allows people to meet people they wouldn’t otherwise, but there needs to be a new idea because the way they are now just doesn’t work. Having said that, I guess if they worked the apps would lose their user base. They’re getting tiresome now though.

Yes. I absolutely hate the apps but I have very few other ways of meeting people.

I think if there was a way we could have stopped them having ever happened then that would be best. If they were taken away it would be a disaster for the next three years while people tried to navigate dating life without them as flirting and in person approaches have become so rare.

I think they are truly awful.

I would never use online dating, to me it just seemed like the lonely heart ads in the back of newspapers for the desperate, lonely oddballs from my youth

Are you single @TomorrowWillCome?

I honestly don’t believe there’s much choice these days - and yes, I do all the joining clubs, taking classes, etc.

no I have been married nearly 40 years so way before internet

If DH dies first, there is no way I would be looking for anyone else😁

I don't think there is anything that beats the feeling of falling in love naturally with someone you just come across in real life.

I've had love both ways and the "real" way was just....so different. So all-consuming. Like a slow burn and a chase, and a dance. It was the kind of love where I couldn't eat / sleep / breathe initially. And then it settled down into calmer happiness and having a child etc, and all the stress that brings. But the way it started will always be so special to me.

Internet dating felt like job interviews, and yes it did lead to some pleasant meetings and one particular longer term relationship, but it wasn't the same.

I don't use apps. I've met three people in a month. None are suitable for various reasons. Meeting people with a view to connecting isn't beyond humans is it?

Tbh that’s very easy to say when you’re in a relationship. If you ever become single for awhile you might change your opinion.

oh god not a chance😂

Well hopefully you won’t have to find out if you are married, what a silly comment

I’d love to meet someone in real life but at mid 50’s with all friends coupled up I find it hard so I dip in and out of OLD. I think it’s a bit of a playground for men if I’m honest

Odd to come a thread like this and make that comment when you have been married 40 years & have no experience of online dating? 🤷‍♂️

I’m not sure, since 1994 I’ve been married twice and long term coupled once from lonely hearts/ the apps. That’s not really a recommendation is it but at least since I left university I have never once been approached in 33 years by anyone I’ve met in real life, and even at uni I found the process of being eyed up by drunk friends and considered as a dating/sexual proposition by people I’d never thought of that way really intrusive and distressing. I’m really not as much of an oddball as that sounds, I’m relatively normal, but being asked out back then just terrified me. So the apps suit me, I only get approached by tiny people in my phone and I can stay at least partially in control.

In that case your comment was rude and uncalled for. You have zero experience to judge

In that case your comment was rude and uncalled for. You have zero experience to judge

I find it a lot like hard work unfortunately and so don’t bother. And then as a result am single! 😂

I was convinced I’d never want to be in a relationship again when I was married to Dh, but then he died and I lasted less than a year (took much longer than that before it was a full on relationship though).

I think you would have to be prepared to pay a little more for a service, whereas online dating is free, but it might be a good investment.

Not all online dating is free, and the paid ones are just as bad so I hear. Even the free ones you have to pay a premium to use certain services.