Up until now, my husband and I have refused to meet our daughter's boyfriend. There is nothing good to say about him. She is early twenties and he is fifteen years older, at least. Mumsnet was really helpful when he started dating her at 17.
She has a good job, pays all the rent and all the bills. She has rented a bigger flat to accommodate his THREE children when they stay alternate weekends. He does gaming . Nothing else. A total waster man. It makes me so angry. He has now convinced her he cannot work due to both his physical and mental health. WTF!
She once got him a job at a supermarket she worked at. The supermarket was burgled by an employee, it had to be one of 4 employees including him.He kept telling her that her till number was used. Luckily she wasn't working there that evening. Shortly after, he was no longer working there and she had been transferred to another store. I am really suspicious of this. Lots of other nasty rumours about him, but none that have proven to be true. He has had two jobs in four years lasting approx a month each
He doesn't stop her going out. She goes out regularly with friends, often over the weekends. I think this is so he can have the flat to himself. He will not take her out though and does not even go on walks with her outside the flat. She goes on her own. He will not even give her a fiver if she runs out of money.
My friends think that we should meet him to question him and make him squirm. My massive fear is her disowning us and us not being there if she needs us. What advice do you have for helping her to see that she is always broke because she has a massive parasitic burden around her neck?