I work in a nursery and we are always VERY upfront about our charges. Right from the enquiry stage. Not a good sign they've sprung it on you like this.
These charges are common (and due to rubbish funding often they're needed) but under legislation, nurseries must offer places that are free to parents. If your child is doing more than 15 hours, eating nursery food and going on nursery trips, charges are to be expected. But otherwise no, it shouldn't cost you money. And they know this. (Or should).
We have uniform but also parents can buy the similar uniform from Asda etc without a logo. There was a big thing a few years ago about secondary schools forcing parents to pay ££ for the schools logo uniform. But they cannot do this.
Tapestry will be the app they use to update parents. Whilst yes of course this costs a significant amount of money...they are paying for it regardless of whether your child starts or not and I don't think they can exclude your child from being on the app.
Bottom line is the government need to find nurseries properly but parents are struggling too! There has to be a balance.
My advice is tell them you will not be able to afford it and contact the local authority if you get any issues. Or look for another nursery, I guess. They shouldn't be funny though. (It's a common thing) If they are, maybe it's not the right one for your family anyway.
eTa ; work at a private nursery. Private nurseries that offer funded places must follow the guidance.