An inappropriate work colleague.

WooleyMunky · 22/07/2025 02:48

Imagine a man saying this to a woman at work...

Flippityflopflip · 22/07/2025 02:56

As they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained. 😉

Seriously though, yes, it's a little weird to ask a work colleague, especially if he was wearing a wedding ring or she knew that he had a partner and children. What sort of chats have your DP and her had for her to think she could ask him?

However, as long as your husband politely declined the offer, what's the problem?

Maybe, that's one work chat that your DP should have kept to himself rather than telling you and upsetting you!

MuckFusk · 22/07/2025 03:25

YANBU at all. She asked a married man to provide his services in order for her to have a baby? What a crazy bitch.

xanthomelana · 22/07/2025 03:52

Flippityflopflip · 22/07/2025 02:56

As they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained. 😉

Seriously though, yes, it's a little weird to ask a work colleague, especially if he was wearing a wedding ring or she knew that he had a partner and children. What sort of chats have your DP and her had for her to think she could ask him?

However, as long as your husband politely declined the offer, what's the problem?

Maybe, that's one work chat that your DP should have kept to himself rather than telling you and upsetting you!

It’s more than a little weird and if a man had said this the reaction would be very different.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained my arse.

FrodoBiggins · 22/07/2025 03:57

Flippityflopflip · 22/07/2025 02:56

As they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained. 😉

Seriously though, yes, it's a little weird to ask a work colleague, especially if he was wearing a wedding ring or she knew that he had a partner and children. What sort of chats have your DP and her had for her to think she could ask him?

However, as long as your husband politely declined the offer, what's the problem?

Maybe, that's one work chat that your DP should have kept to himself rather than telling you and upsetting you!

Was this written by AI (genuine question)?

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 22/07/2025 04:01

Massively inappropriate....

Is this a long standing collegaue/friend...

I think nuance is everything... Did she say...

I'd like you to be my sperm donor..... Or I'm seriously considering sperm donor... And discussion wandering into.. I'd like someone a bit like you?

Which to me feels quite different?

Sladuf1 · 22/07/2025 05:19

Dear me. This colleague is out of order. I’m with xanthomelana. The OP’s DH may well have a greater ability to brush a comment like this off than some. It’s not appropriate at all. This would be deemed straying too close to the sort of workplace behaviour anti-harassment policies are concerned with by the employer I work for,
It’s also just plain weird. If I were the OP’s DH I’d be feeling very uncomfortable after this and wanting to keep my distance.

The colleague should keep her Natasha Bedingfield thoughts to herself!
“I wanna have your babies
Get serious like crazy
I wanna have your babies
I see 'em springing up like daisies…”😖

ExtraOnions · 22/07/2025 05:55

“If I had children I would love them to have a Dad like you”

or

“Go wank into that pot, and pass me the Turkey Baster”

Context is key

Oblomov25 · 22/07/2025 06:12

I think it's totally inappropriate and wouldn't like if a work colleague of Dh's said it to him.

I think she is flirting, just that your Dh can't see it.

Zanatdy · 22/07/2025 06:15

Weird but it might have been said as a joke. I doubt she was seriously asking him to father her babies on the office floor. She probably fancies him and this was a poor attempt at flirting.

BallerinaRadio · 22/07/2025 07:12

FrodoBiggins · 22/07/2025 03:57

Was this written by AI (genuine question)?

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It's the, multiple, commas littered, throughout, isn't it

JMSA · 22/07/2025 10:47

I agree with you, OP. Weird and inappropriate.

FrodoBiggins · 22/07/2025 11:38

BallerinaRadio · 22/07/2025 07:12

It's the, multiple, commas littered, throughout, isn't it

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Yeah and the little pithy cheerful "sign off" at the end.

"Maybe, a thread asking for human advice is one place where AI isn't welcome!"

Cherrysoup · 22/07/2025 11:50

ExtraOnions · 22/07/2025 05:55

“If I had children I would love them to have a Dad like you”

or

“Go wank into that pot, and pass me the Turkey Baster”

Context is key

🤣

I think your DH should have kept that conversation to himself.

Pherian · 26/07/2025 09:24

Maddie05 · 22/07/2025 02:02

My husband told me today that a woman at his work told him she would love him to be the father of her babies. At first, I thought he meant that she was in a same sex marriage or was needing sperm because her husband/partner had a low sperm count or something. However, I soon found out that she is single and wants kids and thinks that he has really good genes.

My husband and I have 2 kids and he thought the proposal was laughable. I asked if she was joking and he said she was deadly serious. I also asked if she was flirting and he said he didn't think so, and that she seemed more interested in the potential baby than him.

She is early 40s and just hasn't met the right man but am I being unreasonable to think that this was entirely inappropriate? I feel for her as I love my children but is this not just weird???

That’s creepy alright and completely inappropriate. If things were reversed and your husband had said any of that to her - he’d be marched to HR and sacked.

KPPlumbing · 26/07/2025 09:36

So incredibly fucking weird!

I'd be finding out her name, finding her on Facebook and telling her in no uncertain terms to leave my husband the fuck alone, but that's just me...

Sportsdaywinner · 26/07/2025 09:37

😂😂

Sportsdaywinner · 26/07/2025 09:39

Sportsdaywinner · 26/07/2025 09:37

😂😂

Sorry that was in response to @ExtraOnions I meant to include the quote and it didn't work..Turkey baster 😂

Beachtastic · 26/07/2025 10:00

BallerinaRadio · 22/07/2025 07:12

It's the, multiple, commas littered, throughout, isn't it

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The commas are used correctly. I liked this post and thought it was funny and sensible!

TakeMeToTheDarkSideOfTheMoon · 26/07/2025 10:03

If it was the other way round people would instantly tell you to go to HR - quite rightly

I would go to HR or a manager and express how uncomfortable the comments make me, does it make your partner feel uncomfortable? if so he should say, it's quite inappropriate and weird to say those things to someone

Phobiaphobic · 26/07/2025 10:18

MuckFusk · 22/07/2025 03:25

YANBU at all. She asked a married man to provide his services in order for her to have a baby? What a crazy bitch.

This. How on earth did she think you'd react to suggesting he have more children to support emotionally, and perhaps financially? I'd be furious too.

TonTonMacoute · 26/07/2025 10:23

Completely and utterly inappropriate.

Tiredofallthis101 · 26/07/2025 10:23

I would let HR know if I was him. Depending on how she said it, it sounds like definite sexual harassment territory which some people may just be able to laugh off but others can't. It should always be addressed IMO.

FullOfMomsense · 26/07/2025 10:25

Report to HR. They're at work, if this was a man telling a woman there would be uproar. He needs to report her, this is not appropriate at all

Spirallingdownwards · 26/07/2025 10:27

Tiredofallthis101 · 26/07/2025 10:23

I would let HR know if I was him. Depending on how she said it, it sounds like definite sexual harassment territory which some people may just be able to laugh off but others can't. It should always be addressed IMO.

Totally agree.

Get it on record. It is either harmless in which case nothing further happens or it isn't in which case early record of what she said is appropriate.