An inappropriate work colleague.

[Maddie05]

My husband told me today that a woman at his work told him she would love him to be the father of her babies. At first, I thought he meant that she was in a same sex marriage or was needing sperm because her husband/partner had a low sperm count or something. However, I soon found out that she is single and wants kids and thinks that he has really good genes.

My husband and I have 2 kids and he thought the proposal was laughable. I asked if she was joking and he said she was deadly serious. I also asked if she was flirting and he said he didn't think so, and that she seemed more interested in the potential baby than him.

She is early 40s and just hasn't met the right man but am I being unreasonable to think that this was entirely inappropriate? I feel for her as I love my children but is this not just weird???

It was an inappropriate remark but she could have trying to make a joke. What a ridiculous woman, at her age she should know better. Was she drunk?

She was probably flirting and not serious. He told you because he was excited about the attention, then regretted it when you responded with alarm. I expect he’s learned his lesson

She is flirting, I would be furious

Or "stick it in me, Baby Daddy."

I don't necessarily think she was flirting, or even fancied him. Depending on her sense of humour, it might just have been her way of paying him a compliment, a bit more fun than just "Wow, you handled that meeting really well."

If that makes me AI, then so be it 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

He needs to report her to HR immediately

Fun fact first time i typed it autocorrect gave me
He needs to reproduce her to HR?!? 😵‍💫
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It’s utterly inappropriate to ask any work colleague this, irrespective of if they are married or not. Good Lord.

She might well have been joking. Men do tend to take any "compliment" seriously and it could have just been lighthearted banter... he's probably flattered... BUT he told you! Which says that even if it was serious, he loves you and he doesn't want to keep secrets.
if she keeps on with this then maybe she is pursuing him and in that case it's harassment- very inappropriate - and needs to go to HR.

'It’s more than a little weird and if a man had said this the reaction would be very different.'

A man didn't say it. But different to what? Plenty of people have said it wasn't acceptable.

The reaction would be different because men as a group are a danger to women and a comment like that would probably escalate into harassment and assault.

Go and learn about it you desperate handmaiden.

'Report to HR. They're at work, if this was a man telling a woman there would be uproar.'

Would there fuck be uproar. The thread would be full of women like you telling her to 'handle it' and not be so sensitive.

Is he considering it? Did he agree?

I'd be wondering about what sort of relationship they had. Statements like that dont happen in a vacuum.

Well aside from the fact this highly inappropriate, I'm trying to work out how she managed to work that statement into a conversation with a married male colleague when mine are invariably:

"Nice holiday, Tom?"
"Good weekend, Dave?"
"How's the baby getting on, Steve?"

"Oh and btw, I was thinking how great it would be if you were the father of my children......"

WTF!

Its just as weird that you seemed OK with it when you thought she was a lesbian or infertile lady.

You didn't seem to care that you DH would father other kids creating siblings for your kids and all the dynamics that would go with that!

You only got uncomfortable when you realised she was heterosexual and might steal him from you.

Precisely! A very inappropriate comment indeed.

What, proper grammar? 🤣

Exactly, some people can’t spot correct grammar 🤣 and are clearly paranoid everything is AI generated. I also liked their reply!

OK. So he needs to take this seriously and go to HR for a quiet chat about that conversation. He can be clear he doesn't want anything to happen immediately but he does want them to know it has made him feel incredibly uncomfortable

He may never need to refer to it again, on the other hand he might!

So, obviously it's the man's fault. It was the man who made this 'poor' woman say this to him.

I have witnessed men at work put up with quite a lot of unwelcome sexual attention from women. I, and other female colleagues, have said we would back them, but they never wanted to pursue it.

Sure, they aren't at risk of physical harm but the stress, and the emotional toll these things can take, is still real and harmful.

the final comma after "Maybe" The rest of the post was good grammar. The maybe comma is technically correct, but is not often used.

Anyway, I would definitely put in a call to HR about it if I were him.

Really inappropriate serious or joking..

The commas are used correctly…

Hahahaha!!